aks226
08-09-2009, 08:46 PM
Quick background: My bio mom kicked my bio dad out of my life when I was 2 because he wanted me and she didn't want to let that happen. I reconnected with him about 4 years ago and we have a great relationship with him and my stepmom.
My problem is with my bio dad's parents. They have one other grandchild, my cousin, Jess. He is 10 years younger than I and just graduated high school. My grandmother has given him and his mom everything. Bought my aunt a house, him a new car, and pays for everything. I found out over my vacation that grandma has a large sum of money that she got as an inheritance saved for Jess' college. (I really don't see him finishing college any time soon or even really attempting. That would require him to be out of bed before noon)
My current situation is that my husband and I are both full time students and I'm working full time too. Right now I'm having to space out my schooling so that I don't have to quit my job because we couldn't make ends meet without it. When I mentioned us working as hard as we are to finish our educations, grandma offered no help to us, but gave Jess money to buy his books.
I don't really expect anything from them as I've only been around a few years, but I'm really hurt the way she flaunts everything she does for them in my face when I'm around. I spent most of my vacation helping her cook and plan for a party for a friend of my cousin and then cleaned up the party while my aunt did nothing!
I really don't want to go back to visit. I like seeing my dad and stepmom, but because they all live so close, I can't not see everybody. Should I tell my dad that I feel like a step-grandchild and am really uncomfortable around my grandparents or should I just leave it and limit my time with them?
Maybe I'm just tired and annoyed...
My problem is with my bio dad's parents. They have one other grandchild, my cousin, Jess. He is 10 years younger than I and just graduated high school. My grandmother has given him and his mom everything. Bought my aunt a house, him a new car, and pays for everything. I found out over my vacation that grandma has a large sum of money that she got as an inheritance saved for Jess' college. (I really don't see him finishing college any time soon or even really attempting. That would require him to be out of bed before noon)
My current situation is that my husband and I are both full time students and I'm working full time too. Right now I'm having to space out my schooling so that I don't have to quit my job because we couldn't make ends meet without it. When I mentioned us working as hard as we are to finish our educations, grandma offered no help to us, but gave Jess money to buy his books.
I don't really expect anything from them as I've only been around a few years, but I'm really hurt the way she flaunts everything she does for them in my face when I'm around. I spent most of my vacation helping her cook and plan for a party for a friend of my cousin and then cleaned up the party while my aunt did nothing!
I really don't want to go back to visit. I like seeing my dad and stepmom, but because they all live so close, I can't not see everybody. Should I tell my dad that I feel like a step-grandchild and am really uncomfortable around my grandparents or should I just leave it and limit my time with them?
Maybe I'm just tired and annoyed...