Clarity
08-11-2009, 10:12 PM
Not mine, my dh.
He's in a major depressive episode and I honestly have no idea what to do to help. I am trying to be supportive but I don't really know how. He's seeing his therapist and he's seeing his psychiatrist who is working with his medication.
I've encouraged him enroll in TaiChi classes and I'm listening to him whenever possible. But, I told him he can't talk about it all the time. It's depressing. I can't get so emotionally mired in his depression that it brings me down too, kwim? One of us has to be able to get through the day for the kids. He's got two weeks before he goes back to work and he's terrified he won't be able to function, will lose his job, etc. I've taken to "ordering" him to get well. I say things like "You WILL do your job successfully because you HAVE to do your job successfully." I think I'm trying to motivate him but it just sounds bossy. :( I don't want to be bossy, but I'm not sure how else to be. I feel like if I'm too accepting/understanding that he'll stay mired in self-pity. But I don't exhorting him to get back to normal is really working either. *sigh*
I keep thinking maybe yoga could help.........fish oil.......rescue remedy????? Sounds almost funny, but I'm desperate, I need him to snap out of this because I'm really not sure if I can take much more. Work is pretty stressful for me right now too. Our daycare flooded from the rain today and the kids have to stay home tomorrow. I can't get off so dh has to stay home with them. Now I'll worry about all THREE of them tomorrow instead of just him (he says he is NOT suicidial, just at rock bottom but I feel like I should monitor that daily).
I'd like to cry from the pressure of it all some days. How do you get through it and can I help him at all? Many thanks if you made it this far.
He's in a major depressive episode and I honestly have no idea what to do to help. I am trying to be supportive but I don't really know how. He's seeing his therapist and he's seeing his psychiatrist who is working with his medication.
I've encouraged him enroll in TaiChi classes and I'm listening to him whenever possible. But, I told him he can't talk about it all the time. It's depressing. I can't get so emotionally mired in his depression that it brings me down too, kwim? One of us has to be able to get through the day for the kids. He's got two weeks before he goes back to work and he's terrified he won't be able to function, will lose his job, etc. I've taken to "ordering" him to get well. I say things like "You WILL do your job successfully because you HAVE to do your job successfully." I think I'm trying to motivate him but it just sounds bossy. :( I don't want to be bossy, but I'm not sure how else to be. I feel like if I'm too accepting/understanding that he'll stay mired in self-pity. But I don't exhorting him to get back to normal is really working either. *sigh*
I keep thinking maybe yoga could help.........fish oil.......rescue remedy????? Sounds almost funny, but I'm desperate, I need him to snap out of this because I'm really not sure if I can take much more. Work is pretty stressful for me right now too. Our daycare flooded from the rain today and the kids have to stay home tomorrow. I can't get off so dh has to stay home with them. Now I'll worry about all THREE of them tomorrow instead of just him (he says he is NOT suicidial, just at rock bottom but I feel like I should monitor that daily).
I'd like to cry from the pressure of it all some days. How do you get through it and can I help him at all? Many thanks if you made it this far.