Mom to Brandon and 2 cats
10-07-2009, 02:39 PM
My younger bro is getting married next fall. It's in SoCA (we, and the rest of our family, live in NoCA), so we'd be travelling to his wedding. Due to budget constraints they're limited to 150-200 people (I say only, because in our family 300-400 is the norm for wedding guests).
My mom tells me yesterday that she's going to invite my IL's and my other brother's IL's. My problem is that they are not close at all. My mom's rationale is that they are "extended family". Hello? You don't socialize with them at all, and only see them twice a year, at my kids' birthday parties.
I talked to my DH who confirmed that his parents would be attending out of a sense of obligation. My mom doesn't get it.
I'm wondering if I should:
1) Talk to my dad to get him to change my mom's mind about inviting them
2) Talk to my brother - tell him to just not mail the invitation, and invite another one of his friends instead
WWYD? It's so awkward. It's not like my parents and DH's parents are friends by a lot shot. Even when they're both at my house for the kids' parties, one set of family is usually in the family room while the other set is in the backyard. They don't co-mingle at all.
--Jennifer
My mom tells me yesterday that she's going to invite my IL's and my other brother's IL's. My problem is that they are not close at all. My mom's rationale is that they are "extended family". Hello? You don't socialize with them at all, and only see them twice a year, at my kids' birthday parties.
I talked to my DH who confirmed that his parents would be attending out of a sense of obligation. My mom doesn't get it.
I'm wondering if I should:
1) Talk to my dad to get him to change my mom's mind about inviting them
2) Talk to my brother - tell him to just not mail the invitation, and invite another one of his friends instead
WWYD? It's so awkward. It's not like my parents and DH's parents are friends by a lot shot. Even when they're both at my house for the kids' parties, one set of family is usually in the family room while the other set is in the backyard. They don't co-mingle at all.
--Jennifer