elizabethkott
10-14-2009, 11:42 PM
That's all I'm saying.
A little understanding and support from DH shouldn't be too much to ask, should it? ESPECIALLY when *someone* went to a playoff game last weekend with a high school buddy and is leaving tomorrow morning for three days in Naples with two college buddies to play golf.
All I want is a guilt-free weekend to myself.
Is that too much to ask? I shouldn't have to *ask* to go get my nails done, when I am *informed* that someone will be playing tennis at such-and-such a time, or playing golf at such-and-such a time or going out for a drink at such-and-such a time. Nails is like an hour long committment. Tennis? at least 2 hours. Golf? A minimum of 5 hours. A drink? God only knows. And there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between someone leaving the other partner for 5 hours of high-activity morning toddler and someone who goes out for an hour during NAP TIME. BIG DIFFERENCE. And when I voice the difference, I shouldn't be patronized or treated like *I'm* at fault for not "taking the initiative". How can I "take the initiative" to go out when I'm constantly being informed that YOU have made plans already? After the fact? Never mind consulting your wife and supposed PARTNER every time you want to do something. Did it ever occur to you that your wife might want to do something during the time you've allotted for tennis, or golf, or going to get a drink with a friend? Just because I don't put "I would like to get my nails done" on the calendar DOESN"T mean you shouldn't ask me about a free space of time on the weekend. A free space on the calendar is not a license for you to get to do whatever the heck YOU want to do without consulting YOUR PARTNER.
Oh, and me taking the new dog to obedience training does NOT count as me-doing-something-for-myself time. Nor does running after school rehearsals or Saturday rehearsals for MY JOB. Same goes for running errands, going to the grocery store, or entertaining your sister and her family while you were out of town at a playoff game last weekend, no matter how much "fun" we had.
End scene.
A little understanding and support from DH shouldn't be too much to ask, should it? ESPECIALLY when *someone* went to a playoff game last weekend with a high school buddy and is leaving tomorrow morning for three days in Naples with two college buddies to play golf.
All I want is a guilt-free weekend to myself.
Is that too much to ask? I shouldn't have to *ask* to go get my nails done, when I am *informed* that someone will be playing tennis at such-and-such a time, or playing golf at such-and-such a time or going out for a drink at such-and-such a time. Nails is like an hour long committment. Tennis? at least 2 hours. Golf? A minimum of 5 hours. A drink? God only knows. And there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between someone leaving the other partner for 5 hours of high-activity morning toddler and someone who goes out for an hour during NAP TIME. BIG DIFFERENCE. And when I voice the difference, I shouldn't be patronized or treated like *I'm* at fault for not "taking the initiative". How can I "take the initiative" to go out when I'm constantly being informed that YOU have made plans already? After the fact? Never mind consulting your wife and supposed PARTNER every time you want to do something. Did it ever occur to you that your wife might want to do something during the time you've allotted for tennis, or golf, or going to get a drink with a friend? Just because I don't put "I would like to get my nails done" on the calendar DOESN"T mean you shouldn't ask me about a free space of time on the weekend. A free space on the calendar is not a license for you to get to do whatever the heck YOU want to do without consulting YOUR PARTNER.
Oh, and me taking the new dog to obedience training does NOT count as me-doing-something-for-myself time. Nor does running after school rehearsals or Saturday rehearsals for MY JOB. Same goes for running errands, going to the grocery store, or entertaining your sister and her family while you were out of town at a playoff game last weekend, no matter how much "fun" we had.
End scene.