jayali
11-01-2009, 03:14 AM
So this is going to sound completely spoiled and selfish and I promise you I am not.
When we were first married DH had this thing about me and presents. He would not get me, as a present, anything that I said I wanted. For instance if it was right before a holiday or birthday if we were out shopping and I said "oh, this is really nice" he would say well cross that off your list. His idea was it was more important to surprise me. This means for most of 18 years I have gotten things that are basically either useless or not my taste. I have returned almost everything he has ever bought me.
It has gotten better over the last few years - I got the Helen Ficalora necklace I asked for, and he did get me a charm bracelet when DS was born.
Next week we are celebrating our 18th anniversary and when we were ordering some thumbprint charms and jewelery for people for Christmas a few weeks ago I saw a thumbprint ring that I really liked and to my mistake I said - Wow, I really like this ring. What the heck was I thinking? Anyway I come to find out that DH ordered me the ring for our anniversary, but because he wanted me to be surprised he ordered it in a variation that I don't like. Now I hate to sound like an ungrateful b@#$%, but why can't he just get it right. I really wanted that ring and now I will have one that I don't like, that I will probably not wear and he will get all pissy and say "that's it I am not buying you jewelry anymore because you never wear it." Well I don't wear it because you pick out stuff that isn't my taste.
Why can't he JUST GET IT RIGHT???!!!
When we were first married DH had this thing about me and presents. He would not get me, as a present, anything that I said I wanted. For instance if it was right before a holiday or birthday if we were out shopping and I said "oh, this is really nice" he would say well cross that off your list. His idea was it was more important to surprise me. This means for most of 18 years I have gotten things that are basically either useless or not my taste. I have returned almost everything he has ever bought me.
It has gotten better over the last few years - I got the Helen Ficalora necklace I asked for, and he did get me a charm bracelet when DS was born.
Next week we are celebrating our 18th anniversary and when we were ordering some thumbprint charms and jewelery for people for Christmas a few weeks ago I saw a thumbprint ring that I really liked and to my mistake I said - Wow, I really like this ring. What the heck was I thinking? Anyway I come to find out that DH ordered me the ring for our anniversary, but because he wanted me to be surprised he ordered it in a variation that I don't like. Now I hate to sound like an ungrateful b@#$%, but why can't he just get it right. I really wanted that ring and now I will have one that I don't like, that I will probably not wear and he will get all pissy and say "that's it I am not buying you jewelry anymore because you never wear it." Well I don't wear it because you pick out stuff that isn't my taste.
Why can't he JUST GET IT RIGHT???!!!