caribbeanmama
11-03-2009, 06:46 AM
Hi all,
I had hired our former babysitter back in September since I am working PT now at a mutual agreed rate of $10/hr for DD. All was going okay up until a month and a half ago when a situation in her family developed where she had no choice but to provide care for her 4 month old granddaughter. She asked me (sort of) if she could bring her GD to our house and I agreed since they were really in a bind it seemed.
With this situation realistically speaking, I don't have too many issues with, but I do recognize that the level of attention is different towards *my* DD. I can imagine, for instance, when her GD starts to be mobile and more independent. So what is really bothering me you ask? Well, on Mondays my four yeal old does not have preschool so he stays home on those days. We had agreed that on those days, I would pay her a couple of dollars extra per hour. Not only do we have this agreement, but also if my oldest son for some reason stays home (as it happened last week when he was sick), I also pay her extra. If I am late coming home, I also pay her for being late.
Yesterday, I had missed one day when my oldest son had stayed home sick in calcuating her payment. I could tell she was upset and this is where my blood starts to boil. I feel like I am doing her family a huge favor by allowing her to bring her GD to our home, yet my own kid can't stay home sick without me having to pay extra. In addition, I had hired her with the idea that since she would only have DD to look after, that she could devout more time to playing with her, taking her out for walks, ect. Now, of course, due to the GD being here, the babysitter is more confined. Thus, DD does not get to go outside as often as I would like, ect.
In a sitauion like this what would you do. Should I start looking for other options? TIA
I had hired our former babysitter back in September since I am working PT now at a mutual agreed rate of $10/hr for DD. All was going okay up until a month and a half ago when a situation in her family developed where she had no choice but to provide care for her 4 month old granddaughter. She asked me (sort of) if she could bring her GD to our house and I agreed since they were really in a bind it seemed.
With this situation realistically speaking, I don't have too many issues with, but I do recognize that the level of attention is different towards *my* DD. I can imagine, for instance, when her GD starts to be mobile and more independent. So what is really bothering me you ask? Well, on Mondays my four yeal old does not have preschool so he stays home on those days. We had agreed that on those days, I would pay her a couple of dollars extra per hour. Not only do we have this agreement, but also if my oldest son for some reason stays home (as it happened last week when he was sick), I also pay her extra. If I am late coming home, I also pay her for being late.
Yesterday, I had missed one day when my oldest son had stayed home sick in calcuating her payment. I could tell she was upset and this is where my blood starts to boil. I feel like I am doing her family a huge favor by allowing her to bring her GD to our home, yet my own kid can't stay home sick without me having to pay extra. In addition, I had hired her with the idea that since she would only have DD to look after, that she could devout more time to playing with her, taking her out for walks, ect. Now, of course, due to the GD being here, the babysitter is more confined. Thus, DD does not get to go outside as often as I would like, ect.
In a sitauion like this what would you do. Should I start looking for other options? TIA