Kungjo
11-09-2009, 12:38 PM
of her shell?
DD #2 has been going to a Montessori school for a year and a half. She is extremely shy and has separation anxiety. She's 4. It took her a year to get over crying in the morning when I drop her off. She's at the point now that there are no more tears at drop off. She just needs an extra hug or two before walking into her classroom.
She had a presentation to do during Open House for me and wouldn't do it. She said that she was too nervous and didn't want to. Her teacher had talked to her about the presentation and said that she knew it and could do it with her eyes close. She just choked and couldn't do it in front of me the night of the Open House. I reassured her and said that it was okay and we went home that night without her doing her presentation. The next morning, she asked if she had to do the presentation for me that day and I said no because it was only for one night and she was relieved. Sigh!
Fast forward to this morning. We had Parent-Teacher Conferences. DD #2's teacher talked about her progress. Said that she played and interacted well with the other students in class. That DD has lots of friends and is participating willingly in her activities. She does very well with her reading and math activities. Academically, her teacher said that she was confident that DD knew her material and was one of her smartest students. She felt confident that if we wanted to, we could get her tested to see about her going right into 1st grade and skipping Kindergarten altogether. Socially, I don't think she's ready because she is so shy. Her problem is lack of self-confidence and shyness.
I know that she needs time to mature and am in no way interested in testing her out of Kindergarten. I think that it's too much pressure to put on her given her situation. She's bright, I know that, but how do I get her out of her shell? Her teacher's one concern was her shyness and her unwillingness to do presentations in front of me. She's a very sensitive child and needs time to bond before feeling comfortable in a new environment so her transitioning to Kindergarten in the Fall has me worried. In elementary school, parents are only allowed to enter the school to drop off their kids in the morning on the 1st day of school. After that, it is strongly discouraged. My only consolation is that DD #1 will be in the same hall next year and can drop off her little sister. So hopefully, that will go well.
We did talk about her entering Kindergarten in the Fall and she suggested that I ask around to see which Kindergarten teacher would be the best fit for her. Also, her teacher suggested that I get her involved in extracurricular activites. We've tried, but I haven't forced her. She has no interest. We tried ice skating. She went and took one lesson and refused to do it again. It was her sister's teacher giving private lessons so not a total stranger. My older DD goes to art class at a teacher's home. It's a class of about 15 students. I took DD #2 with us each time so it's not like she's not familiar with the teacher. I asked her if she wanted to do art lessons with her sister and she said no.
What do I do? How can I get her to be more confident? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading such a long post.
DD #2 has been going to a Montessori school for a year and a half. She is extremely shy and has separation anxiety. She's 4. It took her a year to get over crying in the morning when I drop her off. She's at the point now that there are no more tears at drop off. She just needs an extra hug or two before walking into her classroom.
She had a presentation to do during Open House for me and wouldn't do it. She said that she was too nervous and didn't want to. Her teacher had talked to her about the presentation and said that she knew it and could do it with her eyes close. She just choked and couldn't do it in front of me the night of the Open House. I reassured her and said that it was okay and we went home that night without her doing her presentation. The next morning, she asked if she had to do the presentation for me that day and I said no because it was only for one night and she was relieved. Sigh!
Fast forward to this morning. We had Parent-Teacher Conferences. DD #2's teacher talked about her progress. Said that she played and interacted well with the other students in class. That DD has lots of friends and is participating willingly in her activities. She does very well with her reading and math activities. Academically, her teacher said that she was confident that DD knew her material and was one of her smartest students. She felt confident that if we wanted to, we could get her tested to see about her going right into 1st grade and skipping Kindergarten altogether. Socially, I don't think she's ready because she is so shy. Her problem is lack of self-confidence and shyness.
I know that she needs time to mature and am in no way interested in testing her out of Kindergarten. I think that it's too much pressure to put on her given her situation. She's bright, I know that, but how do I get her out of her shell? Her teacher's one concern was her shyness and her unwillingness to do presentations in front of me. She's a very sensitive child and needs time to bond before feeling comfortable in a new environment so her transitioning to Kindergarten in the Fall has me worried. In elementary school, parents are only allowed to enter the school to drop off their kids in the morning on the 1st day of school. After that, it is strongly discouraged. My only consolation is that DD #1 will be in the same hall next year and can drop off her little sister. So hopefully, that will go well.
We did talk about her entering Kindergarten in the Fall and she suggested that I ask around to see which Kindergarten teacher would be the best fit for her. Also, her teacher suggested that I get her involved in extracurricular activites. We've tried, but I haven't forced her. She has no interest. We tried ice skating. She went and took one lesson and refused to do it again. It was her sister's teacher giving private lessons so not a total stranger. My older DD goes to art class at a teacher's home. It's a class of about 15 students. I took DD #2 with us each time so it's not like she's not familiar with the teacher. I asked her if she wanted to do art lessons with her sister and she said no.
What do I do? How can I get her to be more confident? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading such a long post.