bubbaray
11-19-2009, 05:55 PM
Anyone else's child having anxiety relating to using the bathroom at K?
DD#1 is in 1/2 day French Immersion K. There is a bathroom INSIDE the classroom, not down the hall or anything. A few weeks back, she had an accident (had spare clothes there and at daycare). I spoke with the teacher at the time and she assured me that the children knew where the bathroom was and they could use it anytime.
Last night, DD#1 started crying that she d/n want to go to school. She was REALLY upset. DH and I got out of her that it was b/c of the bathroom. She said that she d/n like asking to go (which the teacher has them do so that if they leave to go to the library/gym/music, or evacuate, she knows where they are -- I am fine with DD#1 being told to ask before she goes, she also does that at daycare).
So, today I dropped her off at K (we had just returned from a dr's appt, usually daycare busses her). We were a bit early, so I spoke with the teacher. The teacher says DD#1 is doing FABULOUSLY at K, she's very outgoing there (which DD#1 usually isnt, I would describe her as a quiet introvert, but apparently that is just at home). So, the teacher was puzzled. DD#1 could't explain it to us. She showed me the bathroom and it d/n appear scary or unusual in any way. DD#1 says nothing "bad" has happened in the bathroom, there has been no incident or anything.
DH and I think this relates to DD#1 not liking to raise her hand and ask to go. But, that's a classroom rule and one that I support (and one she's lived by at daycare). I mean, if the teacher had 18 kids all go off hither and fro, how would she know where they are? So, I'm really don't think the teacher is at fault here. She is very experienced and really AWESOME.
How do we get DD#1 to be OK going to the bathroom at school? Ideas? Obviously, this needs to change b/c she will be full-day next year. DH's idea of having her go at daycare just compounds the problem for next year IMO.
Thoughts?
DD#1 is in 1/2 day French Immersion K. There is a bathroom INSIDE the classroom, not down the hall or anything. A few weeks back, she had an accident (had spare clothes there and at daycare). I spoke with the teacher at the time and she assured me that the children knew where the bathroom was and they could use it anytime.
Last night, DD#1 started crying that she d/n want to go to school. She was REALLY upset. DH and I got out of her that it was b/c of the bathroom. She said that she d/n like asking to go (which the teacher has them do so that if they leave to go to the library/gym/music, or evacuate, she knows where they are -- I am fine with DD#1 being told to ask before she goes, she also does that at daycare).
So, today I dropped her off at K (we had just returned from a dr's appt, usually daycare busses her). We were a bit early, so I spoke with the teacher. The teacher says DD#1 is doing FABULOUSLY at K, she's very outgoing there (which DD#1 usually isnt, I would describe her as a quiet introvert, but apparently that is just at home). So, the teacher was puzzled. DD#1 could't explain it to us. She showed me the bathroom and it d/n appear scary or unusual in any way. DD#1 says nothing "bad" has happened in the bathroom, there has been no incident or anything.
DH and I think this relates to DD#1 not liking to raise her hand and ask to go. But, that's a classroom rule and one that I support (and one she's lived by at daycare). I mean, if the teacher had 18 kids all go off hither and fro, how would she know where they are? So, I'm really don't think the teacher is at fault here. She is very experienced and really AWESOME.
How do we get DD#1 to be OK going to the bathroom at school? Ideas? Obviously, this needs to change b/c she will be full-day next year. DH's idea of having her go at daycare just compounds the problem for next year IMO.
Thoughts?