Anybody want to join in a "DH, thank you so much!" thread?

[ThreeofUs]

Reading Melaine's post about her DH made me realize that I post about being upset, but not so much about the wonderful things my DH does.

So here's one:

DS2 spent much of last night unable to breathe, unable to sleep, and screaming bluidy murrrder.

Just when I was about to scream myself, DH came upstairs from cleaning the kitchen to take DS2 away and allow me a time out.

And then every time DS2 woke up last night - and there were many - DH got up, too.

I knew he'd be a great dad when I married him, but the going was quite rough last night and I am just so appreciative for his active parenting style.

Anybody else got something good?

[Naranjadia]

Sure, I'll chime in:

Every weekday morning, DH dresses the kids and strolls them to preschool. It's not very far, but the past two weeks, it has meant sub-zero temperatures almost every morning.

He also does all the laundry, most of the dishes, cleans up kid barf, makes all the reg. ped. appts and often does the Urgent Care ones.

He's also an active listener, which is helpful when I'm discussing the things I've read here about parenting. :D

[buddyleebaby]

My husband works harder than anyone I have ever met.
He works longs hours but when he is home, he doesn't hesitate to do whatever needs to be done around the house.
He gets up with the baby every morning, puts on the coffee, and makes breakfast.
And he spends good time with our kids, which is probably the most important thing. Nothing makes me swoon more than a man willing to play dominoes while dressed like a handsome prince.
He is away far too much for work and we miss him when he is gone, but it helps to know he truly appreciates and understands all I do here, and I in turn fully realize what an awesome husband I am blessed with.

[shawnandangel]

Thank you DH for waking up with DD every weekend (Saturday & Sunday) since she has been born so I can get a break. Even though you wake up for work every day at the same time and never get to sleep in. Thank you for doing this for me!!!!!!!

Also, thank you DH for not complaining on Christmas day about how messy the house was, because it was a wreck. Toys were everywhere. I know you cannot stand clutter and messes, but you totally let DD have the day and didn't even suggest cleaning it up.

Thank you for putting DD to bed every night, putting her in her pj's and giving her her "night night" bottle. Thank you for being an awesome parent and husband.

Thank you for coming up behind me on the computer a few minutes ago after putting DD to bed and saying "Thank you for everything you do. I love you"

[infomama]

Yesterday DH filled my car with gas and added air to the tires without me asking him to. He went to the neighbors to reclaim a box delivered in error. He did the dishes, with a smile and when I woke up this morning there was a post-it on my vitamins that read, 'good morning beautiful..I love you."
Dang it I love that man.

[Melaine]

Yay, great thread. Besides the email thing, DH is great about cleaning up and helping with (or doing alone) chores. He will initiate organization projects or just start mopping the kitchen floor without my even asking! He watches chick flicks with me, goes shopping with me without complaining and does some of the kid stuff that I dislike the most (brushing teeth, bathing, and dealing with shots at the doctor!)
He is very good about speaking and showing his unconditional love for me and the kids. I'm very blessed!

[Reyadawnbringer]

My DH has been working 80 hour weeks since late november with NO days off except Christmas day and New Years day. This has allowed us to get our finances back on track.

Also, DH came home last night and told me about a discussion he had with the Physician's Assistant that runs the clinic he works at. They were discussing car sizes relating to car seats. The PA was telling DH that we didn't need a bigger vehicle than the one we have, all we have to do is turn DS forward facing and the carseat would fit just fine. DH (in an amazing feat of memory skills) then stood up for my (our) parenting decision to leave DS rear facing as long as the seat allows. He not only stood up for the decision, but he remembered the rear facing limit of our current seat and EVEN mentioned that we planned to upgrade seats soon to allow DS to rear face longer AND he even remembered the NAME of said bigger sized carseat. I was shocked beyond belief because I remember us being so overwhelmed at chosing a seat and finding the best one possible that would fit in our car. There was so much information swimming around in our heads at that time that I figured DH would soon forget. This didn't bother me- I have no problem being the carseat expert in our relationship- but the fact that he not only stood up for our (mostly mine) parenting decision and even remembered SPECIFICS was amazing!

And one more kudos to DH- when DS was a newbown all the way up to 8 or so months DH COVERED the diaper duty. Every. Single. Time. He would change DS and then bring him to me to nurse.

[Ceepa]

I've had a bad cold all week. Every morning DH has fed the children breakfast, helped them get dressed, cleaned the kitchen and delayed his getting ready for work until I stumble out of bed later than usual. He's great.:love5:

[carolinamama]

Thank you DH for working so hard to provide for our family and then coming home and helping around the house with the kids, cleaning and yard work. I love him!

[elephantmeg]

DH was pretty non participatory after the kids were born so I didn't have high hopes when DD was in the hospital. But he was FABULOUS. I mean wow. He made me eat, brought me food, took care of ALL the home issues, kept family who wanted to visit away, called people, understood when I couldn't talk on the phone and held me when I cried. He was pretty fantastic! I really felt like he took care of me so I could take care of DD

[brgnmom]

This is a great thread... thank you to the OP and Melaine for providing the inspiration.

I'm so thankful for my DH and realize often how I married the right person for me. He was there for me during my colonscopy on Thursday, and even took time out of his hectic schedule working at the hospital to take care of our son. He carried our son in the ergo on his back, and by the time I was out of the recovery room, our DS had fallen asleep on his back. my DH is also grateful that I got the procedure done because the GI specialist found a small polyp and biopsied it (I'll get the results next week) and figured out that I have small internal hemorrhoids. In addition, I was impressed that my DH apparently did a mini-fasting to empathize with me--he didn't eat since the night before & waited for me to have a later lunch together, twice. And he cooked dinner for us that night.

my DH has also offered to do all the grocery shopping and take care of errands for me, so I don't need to drive as often. (I was in my first car accident on New Year's eve). He was also more concerned about me and my son's well-being rather than the damages to our new car.

[elektra]

DH makes me coffee every morning.

[pb&j]

DH comes to every well child Dr's visit and most of the sick visits, too.

He does all the vacuuming, and folds the kids' laundry.

And, he's very handsome. ;)

[mommylamb]

When DH and I got married, we had to do it quickly because of the whole greencard thing, so pretty much we were talking about getting married 3 months after we met, and we had to be married 90 days after getting back to the U.S. That said, 10 years later I know I made the right decision. I never doubt it for a minute. Seriously, when he came to the U.S. to marry me, he had NEVER been here before. He left everything-- his family, his friends, his football team, everything that was familiar to him-- to move to a country he'd never been to, move in with my parents (because neither of us had jobs yet having just graduated from grad school), in the suburbs when he did not know how to drive and had always lived in a city.

Rarely does a day go by when he doesn't tell me how beautiful I am, how wonderful I am, how smart I am, and how glad he is that he came here and married me. I trust him with everything. He is a wonderful dad. Not to mention that he does way more than his fair share of the cooking and cleaning. He's the best friend I've ever had. I don't have anything negative to say.

[srhs]

When DH is home, he does 75% of the parenting and never ever complains. He puts DS1 to bed most nights and gets up with him most mornings.
Even though he somehow makes it look easy when he's here alone, he always tells me how hard my job must be.
He never mentions our messy house or my frazzled appearance.
He rarely questions my purchases.

THANK YOU, DH! I would not want to do this without you!

And now I have to put these smileys in because DS1 is on my lap going CRAZY poking them: :jammin: ("YES", he thinks the smiley is signing) / :bouncy: ("BOUNCING!") / :tongue5:("BALL")

[WatchingThemGrow]

DH makes our house run. Most importantly, he prays for me and for our DC. Laundry, dishes, breakfast M-F, kid baths, dressing them (if I lay stuff out), bedtime, meds, putting them in/out of the car, all trash, all diaper changing/container emptying. As long as I try to keep the right size clothes in the drawers, his coffee stash filled, food prepared, and all hunting/gathering going, he works really hard around here and at work.

I feel badly because he is very committed (and loves) his bible study leadership role, but I feel so overwhelmed that I've been begging him to give it up. The guy couldn't be working any harder.

[mama2g03]

DH worked from home yesterday and took care of all of us after a horrible night - DS woke up vomiting, I followed a few hours later and DD woke up not being able to breathe and needed a breathing treatment. DH shampooed the carpet where DS didn't make it to the bathroom and then picked up soup for us for dinner, took care of dishes and put kiddos to bed while I fell asleep on the couch.

[♥ms.pacman♥]

my DH has been a saint, especially through the last few weeks (i am currently 38 weeks preggo, so about to pop any day now). he gets me food in the middle of the night, often giving me a massage etc...he does all the cleaning around the house, even though he works full-time. he also puts up with all my various mood swings/crazy demands that come along with being preggo. i always tell him that he should be canonized, he really is a saint!!

[boolady]

Nah.


Just kidding....

[TwinFoxes]

I only have a few quick seconds, but I wanted to respond. My DH is great, and I try to tell him that all of the time. He's the one who cleans the house, I would say that I'm the one who "helps out". Plus he works full time, and I get to stay home (which we didn't plan on until the girls got here so early). My DH always tells me he loves me and thanks me for doing stuff, but I'm the one who should be thanking HIM. Plus he still thinks I'm sexy, even with the baby weight (how long can I get away with calling it baby weight?) Lastly, he happily does stuff for and with the girls.

I :heartbeat: my DH!

[maestramommy]

This week the kids have been getting up earlier and earlier, for some reason. This morning I came up to the office with my breakfast, and Dora was already sitting at the top of the stairs. She wanted to sit in my lap while I was eating. I asked her to wait until I was done, and she refused. This has always been my quiet time before getting the kids to start the day, so the feeling that I wasn't even going to get that is driving me nuts. By the time the whole episode was over, Dora was standing there crying. Dh came in asking, "what's the matter??" and got all touchy feely, whisked Dora away and distracted her somehow so I could have a few minutes in peace.

Besides, that he spends almost all weekends keeping the house maintenanced, wrangling the kids. For my bday he came home early and made dinner for all of us:heartbeat:

[caleymama]

I don't even know where to begin. He drops the ball on husband stuff occasionally (like I mentioned in the post about Christmas gifts from DHs) but he's a phenomenal Dad and a great partner. I consider myself lucky to have a hands-on DH who puts our girls, our household, and me above all else. He's kind and supportive and doesn't bat an eyelash at anything I throw his way (and I've thrown a lot his way!). He's the most mellow guy I know but also one of the most motivated, which is an interesting combination. He keeps me grounded and helps me keep sight of what is important. Love him!

[newg]

DH gives DD her bath almost every night.......he doesn't complain about lack of clean laundry or dirty dishes in the sink............if I ask for help with chores he steps up and helps.
DH loves being a daddy. He comes to all of her dr. visits (sick and well) and mine too.

[g-mama]

My dh is an awesome dad. He could do this SAH gig waaaaay better than me, if only I could pay the bills as well as he can, LOL. He has endless patience, good humor, ability to put things in perspective, see the bright side, and multitask without stressing a bit. He teaches his sons to treat their mother with respect and to appreciate her. He never makes me feel guilty about my love for shopping or makes me feel like it's "his" money in any way, shape or form. In fact, he tells me to go get nice things for myself. I can go get a haircut, a pedicure, go out to lunch or dinner or movies with my girlfriends and he is totally fine with taking care of all three kids for any length of time, and understands that I need 'girl time.'

I love him. :)

[VClute]

DH has never begrudged me a purchase.

DH earns all the money we need to pay our bills and save. That allows me to spend the money I earn on fun things!

DH often reads to the kids before bedtime.

DH is HANDY as all get out! He has done all the plumbing and electrical work in our home, hung all the pictures, put together our Expedit and properly anchored it to the wall, installed new cabinets in our laundry room, etc, etc, etc. Anytime something breaks in the house, the kids say "Daddy fix it later." They don't even ask ME. And I love that.

[mmommy]

On days that he doesn't have to rush off to work my DH always gets up with the baby, changes her diaper, and brings her in to me to nurse. While we're busy with that, he goes in and gets my coffee ready.

He also encourages me to go out with my girlfriends or to do something nice for myself. We are struggling a bit financially right now, but he never brings this up when I mention the need to go out with a friend for lunch or dinner to catch up.

More importantly, my DH makes me feel like he really values my opinion and judgment. We talk about EVERYTHING and have become even better friends in the time we've been married. I :love5::heartbeat: my DH!

[bubbaray]

DH showed up at the PERFECT time today at the blood lab at Childrens' to rescue me and DD#2 as she pulled the blood draw needle out of her arm. See my other thread.

Seriously, I don't think I've ever been so happy to see that man.

[cindys]

Not only does my DH work from home but he also watchs our 3 and 1 yr old boys all day...

When I get home from work at night, dinner has been made, kitchen cleaned, kids bathed and house picked up...Not to mention he is the bill payer and the one thing I soooo love is that he can fix anything!!! That right there makes him hot!

He is the most patient man in the world...

I went thru alot of frogs before I got my Prince :love5:

[boolady]

I was just kidding before.

DH is very good with DD, especially when she's purposefully trying to start conflict with me.:) He will recognize, step in, and redirect her before she and I start sounding like two kindergartners fighting over the purple marker. He will do anything for her, and works 9 hours every Saturday so that he can spend a day during the week just with her while I'm at work, thereby reducing the number of days she's at daycare. He is much better at cleaning the house than me, and is the only person who can keep our wood laminate floors clean AND streak-free.

He is neat...no messy guy here. I think I'm pretty neat, but I'm the messy one in the relationship. I would actually prefer sometimes that he wasn't "organizing" the kitchen cabinets "for me" since I'm the one that does 90% of the cooking and then can't find things after the "reorganization."

DH works many, many hours OH for our family. Despite that, we cannot afford for me to work less than full-time, and I know it really, really bothers him, because he feels like that is something he should be able to give our family. He knows that I really, really wish I could be home with DD more, and I am the only mom on either side of our family that WOH full-time. He handles the whole thing with grace, and tells me that if I really want to quit my job or go part-time he will get a second job (even though that's ridiculous/impossible, given that he already works at least 5 10 hour days, sometimes 6). I know that on some level, it embarasses him that his family can figure out that the only reason I'm not PT or AH is because he doesn't quite make enough money. And, while I wish all of these things were different, too, it's not his fault that things are very evenly split in our house, salarywise, and we are in agreement about the decisions we have made for our family.

[Corie]

He STILL wants to see me naked. And he likes what he sees. ;)

[g-mama]

He STILL wants to see me naked. And he likes what he sees. ;)

That would go a long way here. Thank your lucky stars!

[MontrealMum]

I know I gripe about DH, but I also know I've got a pretty good one here. Day-to-day, he makes me coffee and does the morning routine with DS.

But today....daycare pickup is becoming more and more disastrous (DS does not want to go home EVER). He won't get dressed to go, and won't consent to getting in the car. He's getting heavy and strong and I just can't physically wrangle him like I used to. When we get home he then wants to play outside w/o mittens in freezing temps before dinner, in the dark. Then he won't eat dinner. It's getting to be more than I can manage and I would seriously like to have cocktails for dinner and go right to bed every.single.night.

DH knows it's hard and has tried to get home as early as possible each day this week, and arrived home at 3:30 today to work from home for the rest of the business day, then go get special takeout, and PICK UP DS :yay: He's also getting fancy cupcakes ;)

I :heartbeat: my DH!!!

[billysmommy]

I've been wanting a headboard and bedroom set for our room for a very long time but haven't been able to find exactly what I want. So unknown to me, DH has been scouring antique stores and his parents sheds and garages for the past 2 years and has finally found everything ~ 2 dressers, mirror, lingerie chest and pieces to make the headboard. And every piece is perfect!!! He'll be busy stripping, sanding and painting for the next few weeks......I can't wait to see it when it's finished :heartbeat: :heartbeat:

[citymama]

My DH is a mensch. I don't even know where to start. He's been especially amazing since the pregnancy with me being uber-sick for the first 4 months and retching everytime I left the house or went into the kitchen. So for the last 5 months, here's what he does:

--wakes up before me and DD, fixes breakfast on most days
--takes DD to preschool everyday and picks her up 4 days a week (used to be 2 days but went up to 5 days during my first trimester). Many of those days, does after-school activities with her like swimming or gym class.
--cooks dinner almost every night. the other nights we eat leftovers or something quick. we used to share the cooking but I'm truly unable to cook right now (but hungry all the time)
--does most of the grocery shopping
--deals with the trash, recycling etc
--deals with DD's middle of the night waking
--lets me sleep in on Saturdays and makes a pancake breakfast with DD.

:loveeyes:

You might be asking what the heck I do these days other than be pregnant and work. I get DD ready for school, hang out with her in the mornings and evenings at home, do her bath and bedtime. I do most of the laundry, and much of the cleaning, although DH cleans up in the kitchen after he cooks.

It's true that he didn't pick up on the giant hints I left him about the earrings I wanted for the holidays. But I'll gladly trade earrings for warm dinners and cuddles every evening and being married to the nicest guy in the world. :heartbeat:

[jenmcadams]

My DH is awesome.

He works hard in a very stressful job to provide for us and I'm proud that he started his own software company that employs 8-10 people :)

He works super hard, but makes a huge effort to be there for his kids. He coaches our DDs soccer team (2 outdoor and 2 indoor seasons each year). He loves to play with the kids and often takes them on outings on the weekend to give me a break.

He truly supports me as a SAHM. l gave up a lucrative career (quite willingly :)) and if I worked our HHI would be substantially higher (even after childcare, etc.), but he agrees that what works best for our family is for me to SAHM. I think he thinks the job is harder than it is and is always willing to watch the kids so I can go out for a girl's night or go away for a weekend.

Most of all though, he's just a great spouse...he's much more generous (both in tangibles and in thought) than I am and I often wish I was as good a person as he is. I'm pretty darn lucky...

[AJP]

Thank you for so selflessly working 17 hour days 7 days a week to get your business to a point that it can one day support us while you have a life again. Thank you for always having a smile on your face when you finally walk in the door. Thank you for always having the time to kiss the girls goodnight and goodmorning while they sleep and dream about playing with you on Sunday afternoon (I tell them every morning!). Thank you for always making sure that I don't have to worry about more than I already do. Thank you for always loving me even when I bitch at 4am when you are loud and wake me. Thank you for always kissing me goodbye. Thank you for telling our dog to watch over us when you think I'm sleeping. She is proud that you trust her to take care of us when you're gone.

[DrSally]

Yes. When DD was a newborn to about 6 months, she had a hard time sleeping wo/human contact. Even the first few nights in the hospital, she slept so much better with DH holding her and their cheeks touching. So, DH would sleep with her in the other room, propped up on his arm, with their cheeks touching. She'd go right to sleep. He would bring her to me to nurse and then go change her and get her back to sleep.

Even now, she wakes up at 5am to nurse. I go in and nurse her and put her right back down. She usually wakes up for good at 6:30am, but if DH is home, he'll go into her room and lay on the floor next to her crib, and she'll go right back to sleep for a while longer. So nice for me. He doesn't really get kudos for this b/c not many people know about it!