Mother's age vs Your age when 1st DC was born

[BabyMine]

I always hear that past generations had children earlier than our generation. Was this true for you? What was the age that you and your mom gave birth to the first child?

Mom - 20
Me - 28

[sunshine873]

Oh yeah.

Mom - 23
Me - 35 (but not by choice. I tried to start at 25.)

[Indianamom2]

We were both 25.

In both of our cases, it took a bit of time to get pregnant, so that may be why.

I also believe my maternal grandmother was 25.

We're weird that way! :)

[momof2girls]

Mom: 24
Me: 27

And my mom had 2 miscarriages beforehand, so she would have been younger had they survived. She was married at 21, though, and I was 25.

[schums]

Mom: 26
Me: 31 1/2

However, my Grandma (mother's mother) didn't have her first one until she was 35 1/2.

[michellerw]

My mom was just a few months shy of her 25th birthday. I'm 34. In both cases, we'll have been married three years.

She had her BA and minimal work experience.

I have my Masters and 10 years of a career under my belt. Our lives are totally different.

[newg]

we were both 28 when first DD was born...........

[TwoBees]

Nope. my daughter, me, my mom, and my grandmother are all 30 years apart (technically 29.5 years).

However, my mom was the third child. My daughter and I are the first.

[Corie]

My mom was 25.

I was 30.

[elephantmeg]

my mom was almost 31 with her 1st, 33 with me. I was 25 and 27 with my 2!

[smilequeen]

My mom was 31 when I was born. I was 30 when Simon was born.

[arivecchi]

Mom: 18

Me: 33

Do I win for biggest gap? :)

[maestramommy]

Mom - 24. Well one month shy of 25
Me - 2 months shy of 37.

But, since I've moved out here, I've met tons of people with 3+ kids and they look like they are in their 20s. I've also met people who are only a few (as in 5 or less) years older than me who have grandkids!

[ourbabygirl]

Maternal
grandma: 3 kids bt the ages of ~20 and 40! :dizzy:

Mom: Married at 20;
Kids at 24, 26, and 30

Me: Married at 25;
First kid at 29

Yep, definitely later for me, but I didn't meet DH until after college and worked for quite a while before having DD (I wanted to wait to have kids until we could afford me being a SAHM, then it took longer than expected to get pg). I'm totally fine with how it's working out so far, just have a shorter timeline for having kids than my mom had. :)

[vonfirmath]

Grandmother -- 21
Mom -- 28
Me -- 34

[LarsMal]

My mom was 1 month shy of her 22nd b-day. (She had 5 kids in 9 years!)

I turned 28 two months before DS was born. (I have no intention of keeping the tradition going!)

[SnuggleBuggles]

I had ds1 a decade sooner than my mom had me. But, I was 11 years younger than my brother so she did start her family just a bit earlier than me.

Beth

[Nechums]

We had the complete opposite.

Mom - 47
Me - 25

[KrisM]

Mom - 21
Me - 33

I'll be 40 this year and when my mom turned 40, I was in college!

[Reyadawnbringer]

Mom, 19
Me, 26 (15 days shy of 27)

[bluestarfish18]

Mom was 41 (!!)
I was 25

[klwa]

Mother was 24 with 1st, 30 with last (me).

I was 29 with 1st, 32 with last (unless I can convince DH to have 1 more.)

[billysmommy]

My mom and I were both 28 when we had our first child. We both got married at 25 too.

[pb&j]

Mom - 27
Me - 29

[HIU8]

Yup.

Mom 25
Me 34
My grandmother was 30 when she had my mother-her first and 39 when she had my uncle-her 3rd

I got married MUCH later than my mother did. She was done having kids by 29 (3 of us). I was 37 when DD was born.

[ellies mom]

My mom was 24 and I was 34.

[Melaine]

I was 25 and I think my mom was either 23 or 24....I'm sure I could do the math if I tried. I was a big surprise and my parents were using birth control though.

[WatchingThemGrow]

Grandmothers (both) 38 (and they both had 3 total, so MUCH older)
Mom 23
Me 35 (and this last one at 38)

[caleymama]

My Mom was 27 when she had me and 31 when she had my sister.

I was 24 when I had DD1 and 27 when I had DD2.
My sister is 28 and married but no kids (yet).

My Mom and I were about the same age when we got married but she waited longer to have kids.

[GaPeach_in_Ca]

Mom - 21
Me -27

My mom did have me at 27, though. :)

I was the 3rd child, but the 1st to have children.

[lmwbasye]

My mom was 24 when she had me (her first).

I had DS1 at 27.

[trales]

Grandmother 21
Mom 30
Me 30

[Glizmo]

Mom- Married 23, had first 24
Me- Married 22, had DD 28

And she's constantly making comments about me being an older mother.

[AnnieW625]

Mom 24 (turned 25 8 days later)
Me 28 (turned 29, 2/1/2 mos. later)

My parents were married for 3/1/2 yrs. when I was born, and we were married just over 3 when DD was born.

[Joolsplus2]

Mom- 24
Me- 25

[Clarity]

Mom: 18

Me: 33

Do I win for biggest gap? :)

It'd be a tie. :p

Mom: 18 (my brother - she was 20 when she had me.)
Me: 33

[JBaxter]

Me 24 ( 1st - 41 last 4 total)
Mom 18 (1st - 29 last 4 total)
Grandma 17 ( 1st - 29 last 8 total)
Great grandma 18 (1st -37 7 total)

Paternal grandma 21 ( 1st -36 last 4 total)

[mamicka]

Mom was 25. I was 29. However, my mom was already considered a "spinster" when she got married at 25. I got married at 22.

[mecawa]

My mom had her first baby at 28, I had my first baby at 26 (and a half, lol).

[g-mama]

Mom was 23.

I was 31.

[Snow mom]

My mom was 32 when she had my older brother and 34 when I was born. My dad is 6 years older. I had DD at 29. Having "older" parents is one reason why I wanted to have kids relatively "young." My dad will be 70 this year.

[mom2ethan]

Mom: 28 (and 29 when her second was born)
Me: 32 (and 34 when my second was born)

My mom remembers feeling very old compared to everyone else on the maternity floor...

[spanannie]

My grandmother, my mother and I all had our first child at the same age: 23.

[elliput]

Mom was 22. I was 36.

[cindys]

Mom - 18
Me - 29

[mommylamb]

Mom: 25
Me: 31 (nearly 32)

There is no way I would have been ready for children at age 25, though that was how old I was when DH and I got married. I was the first of any of my friends to get married though, so I still felt really young. DH and I got married sooner than we might have otherwise because we needed him to be able to get a greencard.

[crl]

Mom was 30 when she had her first. I was 33 when DS was born, but he's adopted so I was 34 when he came home from China. We actually started trying to have kids earlier though. She was 34 when she had me (her second and last) and I'll be 39 when the next one is born/comes home assuming this adoption goes through.

Catherine

[jenfromnj]

Mom was 22 (a bit shy of 23)--got married still in college, got PG almost immediately upon graduation.

I was 31, close to 32. I can't imagine having had DS in my early 20s, though my mom swears she would not have wanted it any other way.

[Nooknookmom]

Mom - 40, parents had been married 20 years, I was a suprise!

Me - 25

[hellokitty]

My mom was 26 when she had me.

I was a couple months shy of 31 when I had my first baby.

[citymama]

My mom was 24 when my sister was born. I was almost 33 when DD1 was born.

[smiles33]

My mom was 24 and I was 29. She had both kids by 25 and I didn't even get married until 26. I also have a professional degree and she stopped at college (until she got her MS in her 40s!).

[catsnkid]

Mom- 29 (last kid age 36)
Me: 31

Grandma: 1st surviving child: 27 Last child: 43 (she had 8 total)

[jhamman]

Another big BIG gap here:

Mom: 19
Me : 43

(yikes, I'm old...!)

[mom_hanna]

Mom was 29.

I was 34.

[Gena]

My birthmother was 18 when I was born.

My adoptive mother was 31 when my brother was placed for adoption and 34 when I was placed.

(My Dad was 35 when I was placed for adoption, which was considered "too old" according to the agency's policies back then. But their case worker got the approvals to push their paperwork through anyway.)

I was 31 when DS was born.

[Twoboos]

Mom = 26 (and everyone - especially her very Catholic MIL - thought she was sooooo old and couldn't believe they waited ON PURPOSE)

Me = 31, and married for about 5yrs.

[MontrealMum]

b-mom: 15
a-mom: 32
me: 36

[gobadgers]

Mom = 31 when she had me, 33 when she had my brother

Me = 30 when I had DD, 32 when I had DS

It scares me how close our stories are. She met my DF and got married at 22, then they spent 10 years working and traveling before having kids. I met my husband at 22 (although we didn't get married until we were 28 - I'm less decisive I guess :p), then worked and traveled before having kids.

[edurnemk]

Mom - 26
Me - 29

Both my grandmothers had their first at 20-21, so at least in my family it does seem that the trend is to having kids at a later age. Most of my cousins have had their first during their thirties.

[larig]

yep, but my mom & dad decided to wait for 11 years before they had me--they say they got pregnant their first month of trying.

mom-31
me-38

[daniele_ut]

My mother was 28 and I was 30. She got married at 26 and I at 27. I'm now 37 and she had her last child at 38

[DietCokeLover]

My mom was 33 when I was born (though she TTC for 10 years)

I was 36 when my first was born (I didn't marry til I was 32)

[Cheburashka]

Mom - 22
Me - 24

Not too much older.

[ThreeofUs]

While my mom was 25 with her first, she was 38-almost-39 when she had me. Same with my DH's mom.

I was 38 when I had DS1, 42 when I had DS2.

[MelissaTC]

Grandma- 15
Mom- 21
Me- 27

[lchang25000]

mom-24
me-30

[StantonHyde]

Age when had first child:

Grandma on dad's side: 27
Grandma on mom's side: 33

Mom: 23

Me: 37

The weird/scary/OMG thing to me is that when my mom was 45, I was graduating college. I am 45 this year and DD (DC #2) will be starting kindergarten.

There is no way I could have been married before 30, let alone have kids. But being married at 33 and starting kids by 35 would have been nice. It just wasn't in the cards. There are lots and lots of things I like about being an older mom. The things I don't like: my body isn't bouncing back like it could have 10-20 years earlier, I had high risk pregnancies, and I will have to concentrate on raising DC with really great self esteem so they pick good partners early and have kids by the time they are 30--Or I won't be around to meet my grandchildren!

[brgnmom]

me- 26
my mom- 30
my grandma - in her teens when she got married and pregnant... she had 7 kids total, including my mom

[belovedgandp]

Mom - 28 and 30
Me - 29 (just missed 30), 33, and 36

Married
Mom - 24
Me - 23

DH had the spread, MIL was 19 and he was 33.

Mom has always said she tended to be an older mom when I was a kid. There were others her age, but they had many more kids or their youngest were the age of her kids.

[wencit]

Nope, I was older than my mom when I had my first son (though, she got married late and had kids late for her generation):

Mom - 29
Me - 30

[infomama]

mom-29
me-30

[C99]

Yes.

My mom was 26 when she had me (her first). My dad was 25.

I was 29 when I had my first child. My DH was 29.

My MIL was 22 when she had her first child. My FIL was 26.

[BelleoftheBallFlagstaff]

My mom was 34
I was 28

Seeing as it took my mom so long to get pregnant, we tried earlier and got pregnant right away. My ideal would have been 30, but we didn't know about fertility. Glad I did as my dad died when I was pregnant, and at least I got to tell him.

[JTsMom]

Mom=21
Me=31

But mom finished at 36 (with twins), and this one will likely be our last (I'm 36).

[LexyLou]

I actually had my kids pretty close to the age my mom had hers.

She had her first(my brother) at 27 and me at 31, but between me and my brother she had a couple miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy so I think 31 was on the late end of what she wanted.

I had always thought I'd be at least 30 when I had my first but I was diagnosed with MS when I was 26 and my DH really wanted to start trying so we did.

I had my first 2 weeks after I turned 28 and my second 2 weeks before I turned 30.

[shawnandangel]

Mom - had her first a 17 and her last (me) at 27
Me - had DD at 23

[ilfaith]

My mom had her first (me) a month before she turned 23.

I had my first a month before I turned 35.

My grandmothers were both in their mid 20s when they had their first children.

[galvjen]

My mom was 25.

I was 30.

:yeahthat: Same here.

[kdeunc]

My mom was 31 and I was 32. She got married at 21 and had a miscarriage right after they were married. She was unable to get pregnant until 10 years later when I came along. She had my sister 3 1/2 years later. I got married just before 30 and had my last baby just after turning 38.

[vludmilla]

My mom: 23 or 24
Me: 32

My mom got married at 19 and I got married at 29.

[bigpassport]

Yes. But I think we're both a wee bit older for our respective generations.

Mom: 34
Me: 41

[c&j04]

Mom-married at 22, 1st child at 25. (me)
Me-married at 21, 1st child at 27.

I'm hoping to have 2 more by the time I'm 31ish so they will be close in age if all goes ideally.

[alexmommy]

Mom: 28 (me), married @ 25
Me: 32, married @ 28

Mom's mom: 20 (my mom), married @ 17 (and still happily married to him--he was 19)

[MCsMom]

Another big gap here.

Mom: 17

Me: 35

[kmm]

Mom- 27
Me- 34

[kijip]

My mom was 26 when she got married and had me the following year. My brother, who is 6 years older than me, was conceived from an assault and she otherwise would not have had a child prior to 25 or so.

I was a touch shy of 23 when T was born.

[Raidra]

Mom - a few days shy of 19
Me - 23

I was an 'oops' and my parents weren't together when I was born. My dad didn't know my mom was pregnant until after I was born. After he finished college, they started dating again, then got married. They're still together.

I knew I didn't want to have kids quite that early, but it was awesome growing up with younger parents/aunts/uncles. Seriously.. so much fun. I knew I wanted something like that for my kids, which is why we didn't wait too long to start our family.

[sste]

Within a year of the same age. Same exact weight gain too :(

But my mom tried for five years and had some infertility issues and a stillborn baby so she did start trying earlier.

[bubbaray]

Mom 28

Me 37

[zag95]

I had just turned 35
Mom was 27
I got married when I was 27
Mom got married when she was 24

[jgenie]

Mom = 26
Me = 36

[ett]

Actually, my mom and I had our first child at the same age 28 which was late for her and early for me. When she was in labor at the hospital, the doctors and nurses were commenting on how women her age were already having their 2nd or 3rd child.

[AJP]

Mom - 28
Me - 32

[salsah]

my mom was 26.
i was 27.
(my sister was 25.)

i would have had my first earlier if we didn't have to deal with infertility.

[Beckylove]

Grandma 16
Mom 17
Me 29.

Mom jokes that we will all be in the nursing home together.

[soontobe]

I think my mom was 25 with me (I'm the oldest) and I was 21 with my ds. She waited a few years after she got married, me and dh waited 6 months:)

[mommyp]

Mom - 27
Me - 32
My mom had her third at 34 and was told while in labor that she was too old to be having kids!

[SkyrMommy]

Mom - 19
Me - 34

[nov04]

Same age, 29.

[Melanie]

Grandma - 27 (my mom was her 2nd; so she was about 23, I think, with her 1st)
Mom - 27 (I was the first/only)
Me - 26

[lizzywednesday]

Both my mother & her mother were 23 when they had their first child (Mom was Grandma's first; I was Mom's first.)

I will be 19 days shy of 32 on my EDD.

[tmarie]

I'll break the trend! I was an only child. My mom married late and then it took her five years to conceive.

Mom: 39
Me: 30

[Andi98989]

My mom was married at 20 and had me at 22. I was married at 23 and had DS at 29.

[Happy 2B mommy]

My mom was 39 1/2 when my brother was born; he died 2 days after birth. She was almost 41 when I was born.

I had DD when I was 36.