Laurel
02-13-2010, 12:31 PM
Long-ish, sorry. I am a little concerned with how DC's elementary school handled a couple pick-up issues yesterday.
Some background info: This is a rural school with a small student body. Even though our child is in K, DH and I are both very well-known on campus as is the other parent involved. There is a definite "it takes a village" mentality here. Parent involvement at school is high and we love the community.
Yesterday a parent called me during the school day and asked if I would like her to pick up DC from school for a playdate. I said yes, we know this family, and I knew DC was dying for a playdate, however, my child has never been in this mom's car or home before. Pick-up at school is done by a drive-up line, an adult/teacher puts each child in the car.
Issue 1: When I called the school to give them a head's up that the other mom would be picking up DC, I could not get through. I was expecting a call, as we are supposed to give permission for this type of thing. No call, they just let DC go home with this other mom. Not sure how I feel. On the one hand, school knows I am friends with this parent, etc, etc. On the other, they did not know I had given permission. It sounds really simple, like the school was negligent, and I am bothered by it, but not freaked-out angry like I would be if my kid was sent home with a stranger. Our teacher (who put DC in the car) has had three of this other parent's children over the years and knows this woman well. What to say? Especially in light of:
Issue 2: When I went to pick up DC from the playdate, the other mom was in the middle of an urgent situation/really important phone calls. It was close to the time for her older children to be picked up, so I offered to just take her car and get them. Her older kids don't really know me. The school let me take the kids, no question, along with another child who was coming over for a playdate. In this case, the other mom had called the cell of a third parent who was at the school who confirmed that I was picking up the kids, but I was still not 100% comfortable with how it was handled.
So, WWYD? I'm leaning towards mentioning it as a place for the school to be more aware/prudent of their policies, but I'm not actually that angry, given the circumstances.
ETA: I am certain that they would not have sent DC home with a stranger, just wanted to make that clear.
Some background info: This is a rural school with a small student body. Even though our child is in K, DH and I are both very well-known on campus as is the other parent involved. There is a definite "it takes a village" mentality here. Parent involvement at school is high and we love the community.
Yesterday a parent called me during the school day and asked if I would like her to pick up DC from school for a playdate. I said yes, we know this family, and I knew DC was dying for a playdate, however, my child has never been in this mom's car or home before. Pick-up at school is done by a drive-up line, an adult/teacher puts each child in the car.
Issue 1: When I called the school to give them a head's up that the other mom would be picking up DC, I could not get through. I was expecting a call, as we are supposed to give permission for this type of thing. No call, they just let DC go home with this other mom. Not sure how I feel. On the one hand, school knows I am friends with this parent, etc, etc. On the other, they did not know I had given permission. It sounds really simple, like the school was negligent, and I am bothered by it, but not freaked-out angry like I would be if my kid was sent home with a stranger. Our teacher (who put DC in the car) has had three of this other parent's children over the years and knows this woman well. What to say? Especially in light of:
Issue 2: When I went to pick up DC from the playdate, the other mom was in the middle of an urgent situation/really important phone calls. It was close to the time for her older children to be picked up, so I offered to just take her car and get them. Her older kids don't really know me. The school let me take the kids, no question, along with another child who was coming over for a playdate. In this case, the other mom had called the cell of a third parent who was at the school who confirmed that I was picking up the kids, but I was still not 100% comfortable with how it was handled.
So, WWYD? I'm leaning towards mentioning it as a place for the school to be more aware/prudent of their policies, but I'm not actually that angry, given the circumstances.
ETA: I am certain that they would not have sent DC home with a stranger, just wanted to make that clear.