Am I am prude?

[Mom to Brandon and 2 cats]

So, I'm discussion with the other bridesmaid about the bridal shower. (Did I mention that I'm 10 years older and have been married for 10 years, and now have 3 kids...I'm 36, versus the other bm's being around 25 or 26, single and just out of school or still in school). And she says "I'm really looking forward to sculpting penises at the party".

WTF kind of bridal shower is this?

Am I just a prude? Or just out of touch? Does it seem right to do this at a bridal shower at the bride's mom's house?

[Twoboos]

Ummmm, WHAA??

I'm no prude - but that seems freakin' weird. And that's the shower, right, not the bachelorette party??

Ew. Good luck with that...

[infomama]

Sounds outer limits. I'm no prude..

[Kymberley]

WTH?? You're not a prude at all. That's a bit out there...

[LarsMal]

I don't know what the heck that means, but please post pics of your sculpture!!!

[mommylamb]

I don't think it has to do with being a prude, but more why is that considered something fun to do??? Think of it as a maturity thing rather than a prude thing.

And yes, sounds like a hen night activity, not a shower activity. Then again, I think most shower activities are pretty lame anyway.

[mommylamb]

I don't know what the heck that means, but please post pics of your sculpture!!!

:rotflmao:

[vejemom]

Dare I ask what you're sculpting them out of? :loveeyes: I agree with PP, it's a maturity thing, I think.

[crl]

Umm, I wouldn't want to do that. How would the bride-to-be feel if the guys were sculpting breasts? Just wondering.

(But I probably am a prude so you might want to ignore me.)

Catherine

[Mom to Brandon and 2 cats]

Whew, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking "ummmm, what?"

The bachlorette party is supposed to be going to a lounge, and then to a mens stripper club kind of place. Neither of which is my style. I've been out of that loop for so long now, kwim? But, as a bridesmaid, I'm feeling obligated, since she's going to be family. It's all just so....awkward. I'm in a totally different place in my life right now.

I'll definitely come back and post pictures if we "sculpt". Out of what materials, I have no idea. I just hope it's nothing edible and they make us eat it.

[elektra]

And yes, sounds like a hen night activity, not a shower activity. Then again, I think most shower activities are pretty lame anyway.

If a hen night is the same as a bachelorette party, then :yeahthat:

[catpagmo]

I'll definitely come back and post pictures if we "sculpt". Out of what materials, I have no idea. I just hope it's nothing edible and they make us eat it.

:hysterical: Oh my!

[bubbaray]

Ok, I think that is weird.

BUT, if it was chocolate, I would probably eat it. I'd just make sure that mine didn't look like a penis....

[infomama]

this thread is killin me. :rotflmao:

[LarsMal]

I'll definitely come back and post pictures if we "sculpt". Out of what materials, I have no idea. I just hope it's nothing edible and they make us eat it.

OMG! At a shower?!? Like with grandmas there?!

Maybe it's your party favor!!! I think I'd accidentally smash it before I'd eat it!

[MamaMolly]

Geez and I thought a lingerie shower was a tad risque. ITA if it were for the bachlorette party I could see it. Not especially enjoy it, but I could see it. For a shower though? Honestly I think it is totally tacky.

[MamaMolly]

Ok, I think that is weird.

BUT, if it was chocolate, I would probably eat it. I'd just make sure that mine didn't look like a penis....

;) So what would yours look like? Hmmmmmmmmm? :popc1:

[bubbaray]

;) So what would yours look like? Hmmmmmmmmm? :popc1:


A piece of chocolate, broken in to little bits?? Just anything not phallic.

[ourbabygirl]

Yikes! Sorry you have to even be having this conversation!
I would say it's a very odd 'activity' for a shower; I was pretty weirded out when we played a pin-the-penis on the guy (poster) and penis piñata games at my SIL's friend shower/ bachelorette party. We were in our mid-/late-20s at the time, and given how she was marrying my brother, it made it more weird. Granted, I probably would have been loosened up with some alcohol but since I don't drink, oh well.

Good luck and I hope there's a way you can sway them away from the anatomy sculptures and onto something more decent! :)

:thumbsup: <- Or maybe you'll earn the prize for the winning "sculpture" (couldn't resist)

[AnnieW625]

;) So what would yours look like? Hmmmmmmmmm? :popc1:

he he!

I wouldn't want to sculpt penises at any type of party, never have even in my 20s. It's not something I'd feel comfortable doing. I am a pretty private person, but I have never once thought of myself as a prude. At a bachelorette party in Tahoe (at a Casino) we were given a list of things to do for a scavenger hunt. One of them was to take your bra off in public. I was wearing a tank top with a strapless bra and did it; I am small in the chest area so it was quite easy to do.

[Ceepa]

Definitely sounds goofy. Who would think this is a good idea?
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so will the chocolate come with nuts? (OK, I'm twelve years old today.)

[ourbabygirl]

I wonder if Martha Stewart has ever done a how-to in one of her magazines or t.v. shows?

[BillK]

This thread had potential...

[LarsMal]

so will the chocolate come with nuts? (OK, I'm twelve years old today.)

:hysterical:

[Globetrotter]

I don't think I'm a prude, but I wouldn't want to do that. maybe back in college when we all thought playgirl was hilarious, but not in my 30s for sure!

I can kind of see it at a drunken bachelorette party, but even then, not for me.

[crl]

Definitely sounds goofy. Who would think this is a good idea?
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so will the chocolate come with nuts? (OK, I'm twelve years old today.)

I so wanted to make a whipped cream comment, but thought it would be tacky. (Oh, did I write that out loud?)

Catherine

[malphy]

thanks ladies, and bill, i needed the giggles!

[fortato]

Sounds fun!!!!

I can't imagine that it's that much different than guessing what sort of chocolate poop is melted in a diaper at a baby shower??

I guess it depends on the Bride's personality. I know at my shower half my presents were considered "payback"... like the Malibu CumonIWannaLaya Ken doll- a giant vibrator with Malibu Ken's clothes glued on. Or the rolling pin in the gigantic dildo box.

Just have fun, and give her some candle sticks!

[maestramommy]

I'll definitely come back and post pictures if we "sculpt". Out of what materials, I have no idea. I just hope it's nothing edible and they make us eat it.

:hysterical:

The funnier thing is, if this had been during my single days I would've been so embarrassed. Now I just think it's funny, although pp are probably right, it's a maturity thing. Penises are just not that big a deal anymore:p:loveeyes:

[elliput]

This thread had potential...
:hysterical: Bill, I love how quick witted you are.

[fortato]

And, who knows... the Bride's grandmother might make the best schlong.

[elliput]

I'll definitely come back and post pictures if we "sculpt". Out of what materials, I have no idea. I just hope it's nothing edible and they make us eat it.

You have 10 years of marriage under your belt- you already know what it tastes like. :wink2:

[LarsMal]

You have 10 years of marriage under your belt- you already know what it tastes like. :wink2:

BWAHAH!!! OMG- I can't stop laughing. Whipped cream comment, too! :hysterical: :hysterical:

I think I might go vomit now!

[MartiesMom2B]

And, who knows... the Bride's grandmother might make the best schlong.

LOL. It's the type of thing that I'd expect at a lingerie shower/bachelorette party. Oh my bachelorette party. Nothing like a bunch of ruckus 20 somethings bar hopping Adams Morgan.

[fortato]

You have 10 years of marriage under your belt- you already know what it tastes like. :wink2:

I heart you Erica!

[JTsMom]

:hysterical: I have nothing more to add. This thread is killing me.

[sewarsh]

and, who knows... The bride's grandmother might make the best schlong.

:rotflmao:

[Jo..]

I would say yes. I am 39 and this sounds like hilarious, harmless fun.

My friends and I have made penis cookies and fondant penises.

[fortato]

I would say yes. I am 39 and this sounds like hilarious, harmless fun.

My friends and I have made penis cookies and fondant penises.

And, there are pictures to prove this....

[Melbel]

Sounds strange to me! Thanks for the laughs. :ROTFLMAO: You guys are awful (but I love it)! Nothing more to add but I was wondering if there was any chance she is messing with you?

[gatorsmom]

Geez and I thought a lingerie shower was a tad risque. ITA if it were for the bachlorette party I could see it. Not especially enjoy it, but I could see it. For a shower though? Honestly I think it is totally tacky.


:yeahthat: Exactly my thought. I'd love to see the grandmothers and mothers faces when that bm comes in and says, "hey, where are the penises?" :rotflmao:

[lizzywednesday]

Sounds strange to me! Thanks for the laughs. :ROTFLMAO: You guys are awful (but I love it)! Nothing more to add but I was wondering if there was any chance she is messing with you?

Or maybe she'd confused the shower with the bachelorette party?

[BargainMomforLuke]

I would much rather have my hand on a Moon Sand Penis at a shower than play bridal BINGO, but that's just me.

Keep in mind that I am 31 going on 13.

[newg]

I think it would tons of fun for a bachelorette party........that's to celebrate your last night as a free woman (though technically it's not always the night before...) and give you lots of fun stuff for the wedding night......;)
A bridal shower is suppose to help celebrate becoming a wife.....!!!

That's just my two cents.............:)

[Corie]

Out of what materials, I have no idea. I just hope it's nothing edible and they make us eat it.


I just gagged.

[Globetrotter]

Now I'm imagining that air dry clay, hardens while you wait

[Kymberley]

:hysterical:

Now I'm imagining that air dry clay, hardens while you wait

[LMPC]

I would much rather have my hand on a Moon Sand Penis at a shower than play bridal BINGO


Ugh, bridal bingo...*I* just gagged! :barf:

I agree this "activity" is more for a hen night. Can't really see penises and tea sandwiches at the same gathering.

[BargainMomforLuke]

Ugh, bridal bingo...*I* just gagged! :barf:

I agree this "activity" is more for a hen night. Can't really see penises and tea sandwiches at the same gathering.

I think it would be fun to see my grandma & Aunt Marsha manhandling a clay schlong.

[jgenie]

You have 10 years of marriage under your belt- you already know what it tastes like. :wink2:

:hysterical: :hysterical: :hysterical:

[Raidra]

We did similar things at my bridal shower and it was horrible. Normally, I'd think those activities are a riot with the right company (you know, people my own age), but my shower was my mom, grandmother, two aunts, and a ton of people my mom worked with (as in, all people at least 20 years older than me).

There was a competition to see who could do the best lapdance on a blow-up doll, who could put a condom on a cucumber fastest, and something to do with eating whipped cream that I don't really remember. I invoked my rights as the bride (and I was pregnant, to boot) and didn't participate. It was a little funny but mostly horrifying.

Oh, and my baby shower? Yeah, my mom hired a stripper to come at the end because it was also her friend's 40th birthday. I hid in the other room with my husband and dad for that.

[Tammy]

I don't know what the heck that means, but please post pics of your sculpture!!!


Ha! :yeahthat: Seems "off" to me for a bridal shower. Maybe more for a bachlorette party, but definitely not at the bride's mom's house!

[kep]

Oh, and my baby shower? Yeah, my mom hired a stripper to come at the end because it was also her friend's 40th birthday. I hid in the other room with my husband and dad for that.

OMGosh! That's horrible. And a little creepy. Eek!

[BabyMine]

I'd do it. It doesn't bother me as long as they didn't look at my sculpture and then at DH and it didn't involve whipped topping. Things don't really bother me. I tend to go along with just about anything.

[MamaSnoo]

I think it would totally depend on the personality of the bride and who was coming to the shower. I have been to showers with similar activities, but they were very much parties for girlfriends only, all of us close in age, and we all knew each other. In some ways, it was like a bachlorette, but it just wasn't "the" bachlorette. It also fit the personality/humor style of the bride.

IMO it would be over the line for most showers with MOB, GMOB, and other potentially more conservative guests (like co-workers...yikes!).

The same is true IMO for lingerie showers. When I have been invited to those, there has not been a lot of family present or people who did not know the bride well. Personally, I did not have a shower like that, but I would have been mortified to open lingerie (or worse) in front of my mom or soon to be MIL.