ourbabygirl
05-02-2010, 08:29 PM
There are some things I'd like to talk to my mom about/ request of her, but I'm not sure how to do it politely without putting her on the spot and making us both feel uncomfortable. These are the things I'd like to talk to her about; any advice on how I can bring it up eloquently?
1. Talking on her cell phone while driving. I know that she does it ALL.THE.TIME because she's so busy and in her car a lot. But I know that she could cause an accident, injuring or killing herself and others, including my daughter if she's riding in the car with her.
2. Making sure she has DD securely fastened in her car seat. She also occasionally baby-sits my nephews and niece, and my SILs are fine w/them riding FF, but I'd rather have DD RF for at least another 6 months or so (til she's at least 2). She's very loosey-goosey about the seat, making sure the harness is on tightly enough, etc.
3. Other little annoyances- when baby-sitting DD, DD gets *really* dirty- her clothes & socks are usually filthy when we pick her up. She claims that kids her age won't keep their bibs on, but seriously, I don't know how DD can get *that* dirty unless she has no supervision. Also, my mom often has expired foods in her fridge (long-expired yogurt, milk, juice, stale bread), and she doesn't seem to think it's a big deal, but I do NOT want her giving that stuff to DD. But I can't catch it unless I'm there to see it myself.
4. I *really* wish that she & my dad would recycle... I don't know why they don't or why their city doesn't make it mandatory. I can't take their recyclable stuff home with me to recycle it (it's an hour away & I don't go there that often), and I don't know how to impress upon them how important it is to recycle!
Anyhow, sorry for the ranting novel, but thanks for sticking w/me! I just don't know how to approach these topics w/o it seeming like I'm attacking her.
Thanks for your advice... :bowdown:
ETA: It sounds like my mom is old & senile; really she's not, she's only 61... it's just that she's super busy at all times (either working, in a meeting, or in the middle of _something_) and I just don't think she sees the value of stopping to slow down and just relax & forget about multi-tasking. I guess she doesn't see the importance of these things, but I consider these things major safety issues, and I worry about what else she might be letting 'slip' when watching DD. I really want to be able to trust her with my kids!
1. Talking on her cell phone while driving. I know that she does it ALL.THE.TIME because she's so busy and in her car a lot. But I know that she could cause an accident, injuring or killing herself and others, including my daughter if she's riding in the car with her.
2. Making sure she has DD securely fastened in her car seat. She also occasionally baby-sits my nephews and niece, and my SILs are fine w/them riding FF, but I'd rather have DD RF for at least another 6 months or so (til she's at least 2). She's very loosey-goosey about the seat, making sure the harness is on tightly enough, etc.
3. Other little annoyances- when baby-sitting DD, DD gets *really* dirty- her clothes & socks are usually filthy when we pick her up. She claims that kids her age won't keep their bibs on, but seriously, I don't know how DD can get *that* dirty unless she has no supervision. Also, my mom often has expired foods in her fridge (long-expired yogurt, milk, juice, stale bread), and she doesn't seem to think it's a big deal, but I do NOT want her giving that stuff to DD. But I can't catch it unless I'm there to see it myself.
4. I *really* wish that she & my dad would recycle... I don't know why they don't or why their city doesn't make it mandatory. I can't take their recyclable stuff home with me to recycle it (it's an hour away & I don't go there that often), and I don't know how to impress upon them how important it is to recycle!
Anyhow, sorry for the ranting novel, but thanks for sticking w/me! I just don't know how to approach these topics w/o it seeming like I'm attacking her.
Thanks for your advice... :bowdown:
ETA: It sounds like my mom is old & senile; really she's not, she's only 61... it's just that she's super busy at all times (either working, in a meeting, or in the middle of _something_) and I just don't think she sees the value of stopping to slow down and just relax & forget about multi-tasking. I guess she doesn't see the importance of these things, but I consider these things major safety issues, and I worry about what else she might be letting 'slip' when watching DD. I really want to be able to trust her with my kids!