bunnyslippers
07-20-2010, 10:12 PM
I don't post here much, so I'm not sure if anyone will care, but I have to get this off my chest and I don't know where else to turn right now. So TIA for listening, if you choose. :crying:
Background: DS is 10months and had surgery to remove a cyst in his nose 7 weeks ago. So, granted, I'm a little nervous about things. We are visiting my family who I moved 4 hours away from.
So, we're at my nephew's birthday party, and all my family, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc are there. They all love to give me crap because DH likes to hold him at these types of events, and he really doesn't want DS to be passed around like a rag doll.
Anyway, my DS was being passed around like a rag doll, which we are especially uncomfortable with because of his healing nose. Not to mention DS gets spooked around a lot of people, especially those with which he is unfamiliar. DS was kind of fussy all day, but he was really crying at the party. DH takes him from whoever had him at the time, and he has a BLOODY EFFING NOSE!!! Needless to say, we are upset/angry/worried. I start crying because I'm scared and I have already been feeling like he's going to be scarred for life on his perfect, precious face. Everyone begins to tell me not to worry (I was) and telling me DS was fine (he wasn't). He was inconsolable and probably the most upset I have ever seen him.
To make matters 100 times worse, everyone begins to tell me stories about how at one time or another, they had it much worse and that I was overreacting. I'm sorry, but telling me how worried you were when my cousin had a temp of 101 once, and how it turned out you were worried about nothing is not the same. Telling me how someone you work with has a daughter that has a trach is not the effing same. I don't give a crap! It would have been nice if one of those people (you know, my FAMILY) would have validated my feelings instead of minimizing them. It was only making me more upset because I felt like no one cared.
If you made it this far, thanks for listening. :thanks:
Background: DS is 10months and had surgery to remove a cyst in his nose 7 weeks ago. So, granted, I'm a little nervous about things. We are visiting my family who I moved 4 hours away from.
So, we're at my nephew's birthday party, and all my family, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc are there. They all love to give me crap because DH likes to hold him at these types of events, and he really doesn't want DS to be passed around like a rag doll.
Anyway, my DS was being passed around like a rag doll, which we are especially uncomfortable with because of his healing nose. Not to mention DS gets spooked around a lot of people, especially those with which he is unfamiliar. DS was kind of fussy all day, but he was really crying at the party. DH takes him from whoever had him at the time, and he has a BLOODY EFFING NOSE!!! Needless to say, we are upset/angry/worried. I start crying because I'm scared and I have already been feeling like he's going to be scarred for life on his perfect, precious face. Everyone begins to tell me not to worry (I was) and telling me DS was fine (he wasn't). He was inconsolable and probably the most upset I have ever seen him.
To make matters 100 times worse, everyone begins to tell me stories about how at one time or another, they had it much worse and that I was overreacting. I'm sorry, but telling me how worried you were when my cousin had a temp of 101 once, and how it turned out you were worried about nothing is not the same. Telling me how someone you work with has a daughter that has a trach is not the effing same. I don't give a crap! It would have been nice if one of those people (you know, my FAMILY) would have validated my feelings instead of minimizing them. It was only making me more upset because I felt like no one cared.
If you made it this far, thanks for listening. :thanks: