Myira
11-04-2010, 01:08 AM
She is my neighbor and there have been one too many incidences when I have felt slighted by her.
Last year, she invites me over to her house for a small religious function she did, and tries to ignore me as much as possible after offering me something to eat. She keeps talking to another neighbor and another neighbor's mom, while completely keeping me out of the conversation. The other neighbor gets up to leave and congratulates her (I am wondering what about since I haven't had the privilege of being shared that good news with), she's all into bye-bye with them, when I tell her I am leaving she hardly bothers.
Her son's birthday, she invites us and calls me to especially tell me how this time they are doing it at one of these bouncy places since she's pregnant and all. Then after the bouncy place thingy, she does have other neighbors over at her house, just not us and thats fine. Her choice and I think relief but really even DH commented to me about it and he is the last person to bother.
Today she calls me over again for a baby sprinkle at her house, her MIL just flew in, so last minute thing. I pick DD from daycare, change DD and myself and scramble to be there on time. DD decides to cling to me and that really hampers me doing much there. Finally when I try to sit down at the table to eat, DD decides its time for a tantrum and launches into a scream fest. Its just a second or so when I am trying to pacify DD so and this lady walks up to me and says "may be she's just cranky. I can get the food over to your house" WHAT?
I have no choice but to leave right away with DD, and she did follow me with the food on a plate. But I come home and think to myself WTH? She essentially told me to get the hell out....Who does that? My kid was just being a difficult 2 year old. Seriously a second of crying ruins your party? And isn't it supposed be me who excuses myself early for DD is unhappy, and not the host? I just realized maybe she didn't want to invite me but did so at the last minute since her MIL would ask about me.
I feel slighted and I would have given her the benefit of doubt but this is just one of many incidences. WYYD?
DH travels 4 days a week and today I was feeling particularly lonely and then this happens. I wanted to cry after coming home but didn't in front of DD. I am not in the least looking for a friend in this woman, but I thought I need a functional non-negative relationship with a neighbour?
Last year, she invites me over to her house for a small religious function she did, and tries to ignore me as much as possible after offering me something to eat. She keeps talking to another neighbor and another neighbor's mom, while completely keeping me out of the conversation. The other neighbor gets up to leave and congratulates her (I am wondering what about since I haven't had the privilege of being shared that good news with), she's all into bye-bye with them, when I tell her I am leaving she hardly bothers.
Her son's birthday, she invites us and calls me to especially tell me how this time they are doing it at one of these bouncy places since she's pregnant and all. Then after the bouncy place thingy, she does have other neighbors over at her house, just not us and thats fine. Her choice and I think relief but really even DH commented to me about it and he is the last person to bother.
Today she calls me over again for a baby sprinkle at her house, her MIL just flew in, so last minute thing. I pick DD from daycare, change DD and myself and scramble to be there on time. DD decides to cling to me and that really hampers me doing much there. Finally when I try to sit down at the table to eat, DD decides its time for a tantrum and launches into a scream fest. Its just a second or so when I am trying to pacify DD so and this lady walks up to me and says "may be she's just cranky. I can get the food over to your house" WHAT?
I have no choice but to leave right away with DD, and she did follow me with the food on a plate. But I come home and think to myself WTH? She essentially told me to get the hell out....Who does that? My kid was just being a difficult 2 year old. Seriously a second of crying ruins your party? And isn't it supposed be me who excuses myself early for DD is unhappy, and not the host? I just realized maybe she didn't want to invite me but did so at the last minute since her MIL would ask about me.
I feel slighted and I would have given her the benefit of doubt but this is just one of many incidences. WYYD?
DH travels 4 days a week and today I was feeling particularly lonely and then this happens. I wanted to cry after coming home but didn't in front of DD. I am not in the least looking for a friend in this woman, but I thought I need a functional non-negative relationship with a neighbour?