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Corie
01-17-2011, 04:24 PM
I've been wanting to ask this question for awhile now but I wasn't
sure if it was *appropriate*. But with all this talk about sex & waiting
to have sex and being a virgin when you got married and I thought,
Screw it!

So, how old were you when you lost your virginity??

JoyNChrist
01-17-2011, 04:26 PM
My 18th birthday.

lizzywednesday
01-17-2011, 04:26 PM
18 and a half.

amldaley
01-17-2011, 04:27 PM
Too young. As candid as I was in the other poll, I won't 'fess up fully here. But if you posted an anonymous poll.....

Raidra
01-17-2011, 04:27 PM
I was 17.

Melaine
01-17-2011, 04:28 PM
21 years old.

WolfpackMom
01-17-2011, 04:29 PM
18. DH was quite a bit younger when he did...

wencit
01-17-2011, 04:32 PM
27. Wow, was I the oldest?!

scriptkitten
01-17-2011, 04:33 PM
18 and 3/4. I had been dating my BF (now he's my DH) for 1.5 years at the time.

tmahanes
01-17-2011, 04:34 PM
18 and a half.

:yeahthat:

LMPC
01-17-2011, 04:45 PM
20. Ah, the college years!

cindys
01-17-2011, 04:45 PM
19

Cindy
Mama to 3 boys...19, 4 & 2 :heartbeat::heartbeat::heartbeat:

Rarick0
01-17-2011, 04:49 PM
Shortly after turned 18

smilequeen
01-17-2011, 05:06 PM
I was 20. I was in college and felt ready at that point. I wouldn't have been ready in HS for sure.

maestramommy
01-17-2011, 05:16 PM
Totally LOL at the flying nun!:tongue5:

AngelaS
01-17-2011, 05:46 PM
20. I got married young. :D

DietCokeLover
01-17-2011, 05:50 PM
32 one month short of 33. My wedding night.

randomkid
01-17-2011, 05:53 PM
I was 25 or 26, but that is likely because I was with the wrong person and wasn't all that interested. If DH had come along when I was younger, I'm sure it would have been sooner :wink2:

So, for those of you who were 18 or younger, does that make you a bit anxious to think that your DCs could be that young? I know it does for me, esp since DSDs are 17yo and 19yo :eek:

SnuggleBuggles
01-17-2011, 06:06 PM
I was 25 or 26, but that is likely because I was with the wrong person and wasn't all that interested. If DH had come along when I was younger, I'm sure it would have been sooner :wink2:

So, for those of you who were 18 or younger, does that make you a bit anxious to think that your DCs could be that young? I know it does for me, esp since DSDs are 17yo and 19yo :eek:

I'm more concerned with ds being with a good person and in a good relationship than the age. Of course, 17yo would be the earliest I'd want him to do it. :) I think, personally, I was too worried about that stuff and don't think it was all that big of a deal assuming protection is used, good head on their shoulders, good relationship... I'd much rather my ds be having sex than being a virgin but engaging in all sorts of 3rd base type stuff at an even younger age, which is what I think is happening more lately.

19 here. Would have done it sooner but now dh wasn't ready.

Beth

megs4413
01-17-2011, 06:13 PM
I was 15. I was too young, in retrospect, but I met my other half at that age....i imagine i would have slept with him if we'd met at 18 or 20 or whatever.

I don't worry as much about them having sex young as I worry about them having sex when they're not ready. I wasn't ready and I wasn't responsible, I hope that they won't make those kinds of mistakes. I'm very blessed that I didn't pay dearly for my carelessness.

AshleyAnn
01-17-2011, 06:18 PM
I voted 15 but I was actually 14. I'm kinda surprised that most were much older. I must have been an early bloomer because I felt ready then and still believe I was. We were responsible and used birth control everytime.

jse107
01-17-2011, 06:24 PM
I was 18--and I lost it to my boyfriend at the time--now my husband! My parents gave me great advice that I totally followed. I hope my kids do the same.

My parents told me:
1. Be prepared to deal with any/all consequences of your actions. And pregnancy isn't always the only consequence.

2. There's only going to be one "first time." Make sure it's with someone you want to have that memory with.

I'm glad I waited until I was 18, even though DH and I had plenty of opportunity prior to that (we started dating at 14/15). It wasn't an impulsive decision. We were both ready and no matter what happened in terms of our relationship, I knew I would never look back and regret losing my virginity to him.

That's what I want for my kids.

billysmommy
01-17-2011, 06:34 PM
I voted 15 but I was actually 14. I'm kinda surprised that most were much older. I must have been an early bloomer because I felt ready then and still believe I was. We were responsible and used birth control everytime.


This is me also. I don't regret it at all. My then-boyfriend and I had been dating for just over a year and there was no pressure involved from either of us. We continued to date for another 3 years but then realized in college that we weren't right for each other.

billysmommy
01-17-2011, 06:36 PM
My parents told me:
1. Be prepared to deal with any/all consequences of your actions. And pregnancy isn't always the only consequence.

2. There's only going to be one "first time." Make sure it's with someone you want to have that memory with.



My parents gave me the same advice :)

elephantmeg
01-17-2011, 06:44 PM
I was 20 and it was a week before our wedding. Now we had done some other stuff but not officially DTD

tabegle
01-17-2011, 06:45 PM
edited 2

dcmom2b3
01-17-2011, 06:48 PM
Wow. I think I'm a bit chagrined that the poll doesn't have an age young enough for me to respond. :bag I was mature for my age, though. . .

Bastille Day, 1983. Didn't plan it that way, just happened . . .

khalloc
01-17-2011, 06:49 PM
I was 20. I always thought that was late, but not by looking at this poll! I didn't think anyone made it to 30. Guess I was wrong!

gatorsmom
01-17-2011, 06:56 PM
22yo. And I was the oldest person I knew at the time who hadn't yet.

mommylamb
01-17-2011, 06:57 PM
I was 16, going on 17 (and now I feel like a Vantrap Family Singer).

ETA: I guess I'm on the younger side here. Just want to say that I don't regret doing it when I did it at all. I was totally able to make that decision at that time, careful about it, and with someone I loved very much. I have no regrets at all.

g-mama
01-17-2011, 07:38 PM
20, and that was definitely older than anyone else I knew.

I'd had two long-term boyfriends (about 2 years each) by then that I never slept with, so I thought I'd done pretty good holding out that long! When it did happen, I was in college, a year into a relationship with a boyfriend who I ultimately dated for almost three years.

cindys
01-17-2011, 07:42 PM
"I was 16, going on 17 (and now I feel like a Vantrap Family Singer)."

:rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao:

Cindy
Mama to 3 boys...19, 4 & 2 :heartbeat::heartbeat::heartbeat:

himom
01-17-2011, 08:29 PM
:love2:I don't know what you're talking about. I picked both my DSs from under cabbage leaves. :p


DH and I started dating when we were 14, had a few breakups in-between and dated other people, but we both managed to make it to our wedding night when we were 25.

We are very happy. :love2:

himom
01-17-2011, 08:39 PM
I was 16, going on 17 (and now I feel like a Vantrap Family Singer).

Yeah, thanks for that! I'm going to be singing that song all day long!!

It wouldn't be that bad, except I'm usually compelled to stand up and twirl when I get to the "innocent as a rose" part. :innocent:

Twoboos
01-17-2011, 08:50 PM
Another 16 going on 17 here. (In case you managed NOT to get that song stuck in your head.) I had been dating my BF for over a year.

I remember we went to see "Twins" afterwards. Yah, Arnold and Danny DiVito rounded that day out nicely. :rolleyes:

mommylamb
01-17-2011, 08:52 PM
Yeah, thanks for that! I'm going to be singing that song all day long!!

It wouldn't be that bad, except I'm usually compelled to stand up and twirl when I get to the "innocent as a rose" part. :innocent:

I guess the innocent as a rose part doesn't apply:wink2:.

MolieMuts
01-17-2011, 10:14 PM
20, and that was definitely older than anyone else I knew.


:yeahthat:

I always felt awkward when the girls in the dorm talked about sex because I didn't know anything about it.

BelleoftheBallFlagstaff
01-17-2011, 11:36 PM
Almost 20.

AnnieW625
01-18-2011, 12:47 AM
I voted 21, but shoot I was just shy of turning 21 (like a few days!)

american_mama
01-18-2011, 12:50 AM
For my own children, I want to focus on some of the messages mentioned here... have it be a good relationship, someone you've known and trust, use birth control every time. But I also will be a bit firmer in my advice and say I would like them to wait until they've finished high school (advice I myself did not follow and it worked out ok but not great).

I think that a specific guideline stated unambiguously will be easier to follow than the more general, although also important guidelines, about good relationship and the like. My parents did a fine job conveying the facts of sex to me at various ages, so I was quite well-informed, but I never really knew what their values were about sex when I was a teen, and it would have helped me to know. I even went to a church teen group that had one or two rounds of sex ed for the group, and I remember getting lots of good information about sex, birth control, and a general positive sex message from CHURCH... but no info about values or decision-making! I want to give my kids even more than I got - factual, emotional AND values info.

BabyMine
01-18-2011, 12:53 AM
17 to my now DH. I just wanted to get it over with. I was the last one of all my friends and am very thankful for that. I remember I lied to my friends and told them I had sex. They asked me how long it lasted and I told them 15 minutes. They all laughed and knew I was lying.

AngelaS
01-18-2011, 08:27 AM
I already responded, but I have to say, I'm forever grateful that I DIDN'T sleep with any of the guys I dated before dh. Yikes...

Corie
01-18-2011, 08:31 AM
they asked me how long it lasted and i told them 15 minutes. They all laughed and knew i was lying.


lol!!! :)

pinkmomagain
01-18-2011, 10:03 AM
26. And I do not regret it at. all. I hope my 3 girls wait at least until college-age. I have a 14 yo and so far so good.