S/O spit or swallow TMI question

[Melaine]

SOoooooo....I was talking to a girlfriend and she was telling me that TMJ makes that particular sexual exploit extremely uncomfortable for her.

And I was basically like, "say what? some people can do this without extreme discomfort?" So there it is, please respond for my edification,

Does giving oral sex make your whole face want to crawl under the bed and die?

[mamicka]

Well, it doesn't do that to me, but I don't care for it at all. So I stopped doing it. I never did it to the point of spit or swallow anyway. Not for me.

[crl]

SOoooooo....I was talking to a girlfriend and she was telling me that TMJ makes that particular sexual exploit extremely uncomfortable for her.

And I was basically like, "say what? some people can do this without extreme discomfort?" So there it is, please respond for my edification,

Does giving oral sex make your whole face want to crawl under the bed and die?

Umm, no. And if it did, dh wouldn't want me to do it.

Catherine

[veronica]

I have TMJ as well but do not experience discomfort.

[amldaley]

I have reoccuring TMJ issues and specifically, I have a very small mouth. It doesn't open very wide and I am tongue tied (frenulum is almost at the end of my tongue). It is actually why I had a C-section b/c with other issues, they worried I would need an emergency C-section or have an emergency issue myself & then the anethesiologist said they would not be able to intebate me quickly (without smashing my teeth out).

I am going to phrase this carefully....when I was younger, and my partners where younger, and, perhaps, not fully matured, it was easier and OK. I enoyed it as it is really a very powerful feeling.

But once adulthood hit, yeah...not so much. No, I can not do that without jaw pain. DH has only really been properly taken care of a couple of times in 13 years. Actually, my jaw hurts just thinking about it. It ends up being something I sort of try to do for a minute or two and then move on to other activities.

[kijip]

Umm, no. And if it did, dh wouldn't want me to do it.



What she said.

[SnuggleBuggles]

I have some jaw things at times where my jaw kind of gets stuck and/ or clicks but it's not usually a problem during that action. When I was younger I was uncomfortable doing this but got over that quickly.

Beth

[sewarsh]

i've definately gotten lock-jaw before from it, but its only temporary. :)

[liamsmom]

I've never experienced extreme discomfort, although I've gotten tired. Like with most things, time and practice makes it easier and better.

[wellyes]

Definitely not supposed to hurt. Is supposed to be mutually pleasurable.

[Katigre]

:) n/m now

[dec756]

i love doing it and rarely experience any discomfort....swallow

[bubbaray]

Is supposed to be mutually pleasurable.


OK, really? Because I'm 44 and I have NEVER heard anyone say that (IRL or online).

[SnuggleBuggles]

OK, really? Because I'm 44 and I have NEVER heard anyone say that (IRL or online).

I agree with it though so there's one more. :)

Beth

[kijip]

OK, really? Because I'm 44 and I have NEVER heard anyone say that (IRL or online).

The only reason I do it is because we were able to make it mutually pleasurable. Call me selfish but there is nothing I am going to do sexually that brings me pain. We are either working it out so it is mutually enjoyable or it's off the menu. Now it is not as enjoyable for me as for him, but I am sure he would tell you the same thing about the reverse. Fun for both, more fun for one.

[MamaSnoo]

It does not hurt. As PP said, sometimes it is tiring, so I take a break for a minute as needed.

[lalasmama]

i love doing it and rarely experience any discomfort....swallow

:bag :yeahthat:

Unless SO gets a little too "active" pushing it in, or I am coming down with a cold and have a sore throat already, I don't have any discomfort with it. And :bag :bag , yeah, I enjoy it. Go figure.

[deborah_r]

Am I the only one who sat here struggling to figure out TMJ? First I thought it was a typo and supposed to be TMI. Then I thought "too much juice" (and I don't mean apple juice) These threads are putting my mind in the gutter, LOL!

I'm still not sure what it means but I suspect it is some kind of jaw problem?

[AshleyAnn]

Does giving oral sex make your whole face want to crawl under the bed and die?

No I enjoy it. If it starts to drag on the mouth muscles do get fatigued. Is it the *idea* of what your doing or the actual *feeling* as your doing it? It used to feel gross/dirty and make me feel squimish but I got over that and am now totally into it.

[fortato]

TMJ- Tempromandibular Joint disorder... think Carpal tunnel in your jaw.

[lalasmama]

Am I the only one who sat here struggling to figure out TMJ? First I thought it was a typo and supposed to be TMI. Then I thought "too much juice" (and I don't mean apple juice) These threads are putting my mind in the gutter, LOL!

I'm still not sure what it means but I suspect it is some kind of jaw problem?

LMAO at TMJ= Too Much Juice

TMJ is the trans-mandibular joint. It's that spot where your upper and lower jaws come together. For some people, it "locks" up and causes pain.

[MMMommy]

Sorry if I'm confused. I'm trying to visualize this.

[kellij]

Sorry if I'm confused. But is his butt right over your face? In other words, is his back to your head? I'm trying to visualize this.

I'm totally confused too. I need a drawing. Seriously though, at first I was thinking 69 because head facing the knees, but I'm just not clear.

Oh, and definitely no hurting here. My suggestion if it hurts would be just to lick it like a lollipop should be licked. :) (rather than having to hold your jaw open).

[MMMommy]

I'm totally confused too. I need a drawing. Seriously though, at first I was thinking 69 because head facing the knees, but I'm just not clear.

Oh, and definitely no hurting here. My suggestion if it hurts would be just to lick it like a lollipop should be licked. :) (rather than having to hold your jaw open).

I need a drawing too! I can't seem to get the picture here!

[salsah]

I'm totally confused too. I need a drawing. Seriously though, at first I was thinking 69 because head facing the knees, but I'm just not clear.



i think it is like 69 but w/o the man necessarily reciprocating.

[kellij]

i think it is like 69 but w/o the man necessarily reciprocating.

Isn't that the way of the world...

[BelleoftheBallFlagstaff]

Isn't that the way of the world...

:rotflmao:

[Katigre]

:) n/m now

[Corie]

OK, really? Because I'm 44 and I have NEVER heard anyone say that (IRL or online).


I totally agree with you, Melissa!!

[Melaine]

No I enjoy it. If it starts to drag on the mouth muscles do get fatigued. Is it the *idea* of what your doing or the actual *feeling* as your doing it? It used to feel gross/dirty and make me feel squimish but I got over that and am now totally into it.

No it's the actual discomfort. I really feel like my mouth is too small and my jaw just feels like it is opening too far. I have had a lot of other issues, like pain with intercourse and I have long AF so we do this really often. I just honestly thought it was something that women did to please their men and it never occurred to me that it might not be uncomfortable for people.

So this thread has definitely enlightened me. I'm honestly shocked women enjoy it.

[mamicka]

No it's the actual discomfort. I really feel like my mouth is too small and my jaw just feels like it is opening too far. I have had a lot of other issues, like pain with intercourse and I have long AF so we do this really often. I just honestly thought it was something that women did to please their men and it never occurred to me that it might not be uncomfortable for people.

So this thread has definitely enlightened me. I'm honestly shocked women enjoy it.

Melaine, I urge you to find an alternative. I don't think it's good for you emotionally to continue to do something painful to please your DH. :hug: Does your DH know that it's painful for you? Do you know the source of you pain during intercourse? What part of intercourse during AF bothers you? Sorry if this is too personal, feel free not to answer.

[amldaley]

Melaine, I urge you to find an alternative. I don't think it's good for you emotionally to continue to do something painful to please your DH. :hug: Does your DH know that it's painful for you? Do you know the source of you pain during intercourse? What part of intercourse during AF bothers you? Sorry if this is too personal, feel free not to answer.

I agree with Allison that you need to figure out what is hurting during intercourse. I often have pain, too and thought, "Oh well, such is life", but a recent doctors visit enlightened me. If you don't want to discuss here, please consider talking to your Dr about it. It could be something simple, but it can also be a sign of something more serious.

[Melaine]

thanks guys. Sorry, I really wasn't very clear. We have almost completely gotten past the pain with intercourse. It's a long drawn out string of issues starting with my getting UTIs every single time we had sex anywhere close to AF. So that killed 10 days of my month. And I was having issues being super dry and every lube seemed to irritate my skin. I would often bleed...I got off BC but it seemed like I was allergic to condoms for the longest time. The doctor couldn't find anything and I was about to get surgery for endemetriosis which I really don't think would have helped and then we got pregnant.
So magically I stopped getting UTIs, We found condoms that seemed ok, I worked past some of my intense sex-related anxiety and I found the Diva cup. I think maybe the tampons had been adding to the irritation.
Then I was diagnosed with GAD and although Prozac helped a lot one of the rare side effects is inability to reach orgasm. So, of all the side effects guess which one I had? Oh yes, and I had "leaking of fluid" mid pregnancy and was told no sex.

Anyway, most of this is years behind us now and everything is fine. But I still rely on BJs quite often. It's uncomfortable, but I have no problem doing it. I really just started this thread out of curiosity.