lmwbasye
01-26-2011, 01:52 PM
This post is more for me just to vent somewhere and get it all out since there's no one here to listen. I'm just feeling so completely overwhelmed lately. DH is working crazy hours lately (5 a.m. until midnight) and the boys are really feeling it and acting up. DH is going to the field for a month in half a week. He'll be back in March, but working those crazy hours again and may need to go to Iraq during that time. April....gone again through the beginning of May when I'll need to tote myself and two little boys who will be already having a difficult time with Daddy being gone on two flights to my brother's wedding. Then, DH deploys in the summer...again...for another year.
And it all just feels like too much right now. And I'm so mad/annoyed with myself for getting so upset/frustrated/anxious lately. We've dealt with his being gone a lot and have gone through several deployments. I keep joking with him that I must have PTSD from the last deployment (a 15 monther) because I NEVER get anxious about his being gone...it's sad and can be difficult...yes...but I'm always OK. This is the first time that I just feel like I'm not sure if I can handle it all. And I HATE that!!
The boys are just out of control lately. And I know it's because they are worried about Daddy being gone (and they only know about next month so far!). The tantrums are maniacal almost...L screamed for 45 minutes the other night at the top of his lungs over not being able to find the exact plane he wanted. Just screaming, sobbing, throwing things type of fit and I feel so bad for him. I seriously feel like the Army needs to issue every wife a personal psychologist to move in with them because I feel so many times I'm NOT qualified to deal with all his emotional issues.
Add onto that I'm on round two of clomid after 3 miscarriages and nearly 2 years TTC and I'm pretty sure AF is coming and it just makes me SO SO sad. And I don't understand why this just is not working. I'm so blessed to have the two little boys I do but DH and I have always dreamed of four little ones and we can't even get to three now.
Plus...the BN commander's wife can't seem to get involved in anything so I've had to step up and be our Family Group leader...for 1200 soldier's families!! And they're all looking to me for direction/advice/leadership and here I am having just such a difficult time right now. There's no one really that I'm able to talk to and it's so isolating here. Plus, my family is just not a place to lean.
Plus, the house is just a mess, I'm behind on everything, I'm missing my DH and I feel like the worst mother and wife ever right now.
Gah!!! My mind knows that everything will be fine...I am strong...and I can handle all of this. I just wish my heart would catch up and I could start to get my rhythm, calm down, and find some peace already. Because feeling like this is really getting old!
And it all just feels like too much right now. And I'm so mad/annoyed with myself for getting so upset/frustrated/anxious lately. We've dealt with his being gone a lot and have gone through several deployments. I keep joking with him that I must have PTSD from the last deployment (a 15 monther) because I NEVER get anxious about his being gone...it's sad and can be difficult...yes...but I'm always OK. This is the first time that I just feel like I'm not sure if I can handle it all. And I HATE that!!
The boys are just out of control lately. And I know it's because they are worried about Daddy being gone (and they only know about next month so far!). The tantrums are maniacal almost...L screamed for 45 minutes the other night at the top of his lungs over not being able to find the exact plane he wanted. Just screaming, sobbing, throwing things type of fit and I feel so bad for him. I seriously feel like the Army needs to issue every wife a personal psychologist to move in with them because I feel so many times I'm NOT qualified to deal with all his emotional issues.
Add onto that I'm on round two of clomid after 3 miscarriages and nearly 2 years TTC and I'm pretty sure AF is coming and it just makes me SO SO sad. And I don't understand why this just is not working. I'm so blessed to have the two little boys I do but DH and I have always dreamed of four little ones and we can't even get to three now.
Plus...the BN commander's wife can't seem to get involved in anything so I've had to step up and be our Family Group leader...for 1200 soldier's families!! And they're all looking to me for direction/advice/leadership and here I am having just such a difficult time right now. There's no one really that I'm able to talk to and it's so isolating here. Plus, my family is just not a place to lean.
Plus, the house is just a mess, I'm behind on everything, I'm missing my DH and I feel like the worst mother and wife ever right now.
Gah!!! My mind knows that everything will be fine...I am strong...and I can handle all of this. I just wish my heart would catch up and I could start to get my rhythm, calm down, and find some peace already. Because feeling like this is really getting old!