Question for TWINS birthdays

[Corie]

My son was invited to a classmate's birthday. This little boy
is a twin. My son doesn't know the twin.

On the birthday party invitation, it said, "You are invited
to Bob and Rob's birthday party!!" (These are made-up names.)

We only know Bob. DS and Bob are in class together.

We do not know Rob. Rob is in a different class.

So, do we buy both a birthday gift? Or do we only buy a birthday
gift for the twin that we know?

[twindad]

I would think it would depend slightly on the age of the children involved. In my opinion, a child over the age of 6 would be able to understand why he did not receive a gift (because he is not friends with the giver), but his twin brother did.

[infocrazy]

Not a twin mom, but I would probably get a gift that they could share, game etc, and put both names on it, but spend the same amount I would for just one gift...

[MMMommy]

I would get a gift for both boys just as a courtesy, with perhaps a better gift for the twin that you know. I personally wouldn't get them one gift to share because I would want them to feel special individually with their own gift, versus being lumped together as one unit.

[SnuggleBuggles]

I'd probably buy a board game and put both of their names on the gift. :) Otherwise I would still be tempted to get 2 gifts.

Beth

[oneplustwo]

You can always call the twins' mom to ask.

We go to lots of twins' birthday parties, and not just because we have twins in our family. If I were in your situation and didn't check with the mom, I would bring a gift of equal value for each birthday boy, especially based on the invitation wording. But give the mom a call. It may turn out she expects that your DS will only bring a gift for the boy he knows, but usually that is spelled out in the invite since this kind of confusion always comes up. We've gone to some parties like that, where we were told to bring a gift only for one twin (even though we knew both), since each twin was inviting kids from his/her separate classroom. DD couldn't bring herself to ignore the other birthday child altogether, so she made a nice card for the one she wasn't supposed to bring a gift for.

[boolady]

I'd probably buy a board game and put both of their names on the gift. :) Otherwise I would still be tempted to get 2 gifts.

Beth

This is what I would do. I'd get a nicer board game or set of puzzles or something and put both of their names on it. Done.

[Melaine]

I agree that it sort of depends on the age of the kids, but I'd err on the side of two smaller gifts just to keep it simple.

[fivi2]

Not to disagree with pps :) but as a twin mom I STRONGLY encourage you *not* to give a gift to "share". That does not work well at our house.

If I were you I would treat it as you would any joint birthday party if you only knew one of the birthday kids. (perhaps those aren't common everywhere, but I have been invited to a few). Generally I give the person I don't know a gift, but maybe a less expensive, more generic gift (since I don't know what they like!) but sometimes it is an equivalent gift. I think the parent will expect to get a range (from joint gifts, to equal, to just one for the child you know). I imagine she has prepared her children.

[Corie]

It may turn out she expects that your DS will only bring a gift for the boy he knows, but usually that is spelled out in the invite since this kind of confusion always comes up.

And that's why I'm confused!

We've been to other twin and triplet parties but the invitation
usually just says the one child that we actually know.

[new_mommy25]

I would bring two gifts or a larger joint gift.

[hollybloom24]

I am a twin mom. I would never expect (or want!) anyone to bring both my children a gift if they were friends with only one twin.

I would get the twin you know a gift (not to share, meaning don't put two names on one gift - if you get a board game or books that can be shared, that's great).

I would not go with the gift to share, meaning both names on one gift.

HTH!

[Jo..]

The party is for Bob and Rob. Both get a gift.

[bubbaray]

I would buy a gift for the child who invited your son to the party and who he knows.

Or, you could call the parents. *I* would not do a joint gift.

[HIU8]

I agree. Do not get a gift to share. When we go to twin's bdays (we know several) we normally buy two gifts. And, in the case of one set, we buy the exact same gift. DD has a twin in her class. The other twin is in another class. Honestly, DD does not play with the child in her class so we didn't go to the party. I know this particular mom expected a gift for each child whether your child knew both or not (and at 4 it does seem appropriate, older maybe not).

[Twin Mom]

I am a twin mom. I would never expect (or want!) anyone to bring both my children a gift if they were friends with only one twin.

I would get the twin you know a gift (not to share, meaning don't put two names on one gift - if you get a board game or books that can be shared, that's great).

I would not go with the gift to share, meaning both names on one gift.

HTH!

:yeahthat:

I do not expect people to bring the twin their DC isn't friends with a gift even if both twins names are on the invite.

[veronica]

I'm about to be a twin mom so this is interesting to me.

personally, I'd only want you to buy a gift for the twin that you know. I would not want a gift with both of their names on it or a game that you know that they are supposed to share.

I imagine there is plenty of sharing as it is, so I'd just go for a gift that they can both eventually enjoy , but it's not required. So, a cool lego set but not a personalized toy directed at the twin you know (anything with his name on it). then, their parents can decide how the gifts are played with!

[WatchingThemGrow]

I would do just the one my DS knows. If everyone brought an "extra" gift for the twin they did not know, just think of how many toys that is...