citymama
02-18-2011, 08:51 PM
Right now, DD2's crib is in our tiny room, and so are all her clothes. It is ridiculously tight! Her toys and books are in the living room. DD1 and her enormous amount of toys, books and clothes have a room all to themselves (the master BR!).
We're moving next month into our new home (finally! :yay:). While it is a 3 BR, we would like the girls to share a room and use the third bedroom as a study/guest room (DH and I both work from home and absolutely need the space). There is a large family room where they could have a section as a play area.
Now, here's the question: how does it work to have a 10 month old and almost 5 yr old share a room? DD1 is very excited about it, or so she claims. I think they will enjoy sharing a room but I am concerned about the following:
a) neither of them sleeps through the night. It drives us nuts. DD2 is easier because she nurses and falls back asleep right away. We have no idea why DD1 wakes up but we are way too tired to figure it out. On the one hand, this could be great as DD1 is always saying she is scared to sleep alone. On the other, they could set each other off with their waking up. I figure this will stabilize over time and surely can't be worse than the current situation. In fact, sharing might help (wishful thinking?).
b) Bedtime: DD2 goes to sleep at 7.30 or 8. She nurses down to sleep in a quiet, darkened room. Older DD is a night owl and takes FOREVER to fall asleep. I swear, sometimes it is 11 before she is asleep. She talks, chatters, tells herself stories, gets up to pee, asks for water, asks for cuddles. The only way this is going to work is if we can find a way for them to go to sleep at about the same time - maybe 8.30 pm, which I can't quite imagine. Or is there another way to do this?
c) DD's toys and choking hazards. My plan is to make sure there are no small toys, beads, jewelry etc allowed in the girls' room - all that is in a designated part of the play area, or maybe temporarily put away in boxes until DD2 stops mouthing everything.
I assume I'm not the only one who has tried to get a 10-12 month old to share a room with an older sibling. If you did it, how did you make the transition, and deal with the issues I've flagged above (differing bedtimes, waking each other up, safety for the baby)? I would love any advice. I know if I was reading this, I'd probably say - you're not ready for this yet - and in truth, we would wait a few more months till maybe 15 months if we had a choice. I am concerned that if we move to the new place and DD1 stakes out her space, it will be hard to later have DD2 intrude on that turf and displace DD's toys and play space.
TIA for your advice, and thanks for reading through this!
We're moving next month into our new home (finally! :yay:). While it is a 3 BR, we would like the girls to share a room and use the third bedroom as a study/guest room (DH and I both work from home and absolutely need the space). There is a large family room where they could have a section as a play area.
Now, here's the question: how does it work to have a 10 month old and almost 5 yr old share a room? DD1 is very excited about it, or so she claims. I think they will enjoy sharing a room but I am concerned about the following:
a) neither of them sleeps through the night. It drives us nuts. DD2 is easier because she nurses and falls back asleep right away. We have no idea why DD1 wakes up but we are way too tired to figure it out. On the one hand, this could be great as DD1 is always saying she is scared to sleep alone. On the other, they could set each other off with their waking up. I figure this will stabilize over time and surely can't be worse than the current situation. In fact, sharing might help (wishful thinking?).
b) Bedtime: DD2 goes to sleep at 7.30 or 8. She nurses down to sleep in a quiet, darkened room. Older DD is a night owl and takes FOREVER to fall asleep. I swear, sometimes it is 11 before she is asleep. She talks, chatters, tells herself stories, gets up to pee, asks for water, asks for cuddles. The only way this is going to work is if we can find a way for them to go to sleep at about the same time - maybe 8.30 pm, which I can't quite imagine. Or is there another way to do this?
c) DD's toys and choking hazards. My plan is to make sure there are no small toys, beads, jewelry etc allowed in the girls' room - all that is in a designated part of the play area, or maybe temporarily put away in boxes until DD2 stops mouthing everything.
I assume I'm not the only one who has tried to get a 10-12 month old to share a room with an older sibling. If you did it, how did you make the transition, and deal with the issues I've flagged above (differing bedtimes, waking each other up, safety for the baby)? I would love any advice. I know if I was reading this, I'd probably say - you're not ready for this yet - and in truth, we would wait a few more months till maybe 15 months if we had a choice. I am concerned that if we move to the new place and DD1 stakes out her space, it will be hard to later have DD2 intrude on that turf and displace DD's toys and play space.
TIA for your advice, and thanks for reading through this!