rin
03-12-2011, 07:29 PM
Is there a diplomatic way to handle this, or do I just need to be straightforward, clear, and possibly offend?
Ever since my DD was born, we've fairly often had the experience of being out in public and meeting someone (say, a cashier, a waitress, most recently a saleslady selling some landscaping stones) who wants to hold our baby. In most cases these people seem perfectly nice and friendly (in every case it's been a woman who generally seems to want to talk about her own kids/grandkids/etc), but I'm just not comfortable with handing my daughter over to a complete stranger to snuggle.
The problem is that my daughter just doesn't seem to be aware of the stranger/non-stranger divide, and I'm pretty sure would perfectly happily go to any of these people. Most recently today, we were standing with the stone saleslady, who kept saying (to my daughter) "Do you want to come to me? Come on! Come give me a hug!" etc etc. Ok, over the top, but whatever, if it were just that I could smile and say that the baby just wanted to hang out with Mama. The real problem, though, is that my DD almost always responds to situations like this by leaning forwards and putting her arms out for the person to hold her, so I can't exactly say that the baby doesn't want to go. Does anyone have any ideas for a good response to communicate that I'm not comfortable with her going to strangers, but not make the other adult feel uncomfortable?
Ever since my DD was born, we've fairly often had the experience of being out in public and meeting someone (say, a cashier, a waitress, most recently a saleslady selling some landscaping stones) who wants to hold our baby. In most cases these people seem perfectly nice and friendly (in every case it's been a woman who generally seems to want to talk about her own kids/grandkids/etc), but I'm just not comfortable with handing my daughter over to a complete stranger to snuggle.
The problem is that my daughter just doesn't seem to be aware of the stranger/non-stranger divide, and I'm pretty sure would perfectly happily go to any of these people. Most recently today, we were standing with the stone saleslady, who kept saying (to my daughter) "Do you want to come to me? Come on! Come give me a hug!" etc etc. Ok, over the top, but whatever, if it were just that I could smile and say that the baby just wanted to hang out with Mama. The real problem, though, is that my DD almost always responds to situations like this by leaning forwards and putting her arms out for the person to hold her, so I can't exactly say that the baby doesn't want to go. Does anyone have any ideas for a good response to communicate that I'm not comfortable with her going to strangers, but not make the other adult feel uncomfortable?