Raidra
04-21-2011, 08:42 AM
Our house is overflowing with crazy right now, and I could use some sympathy and possibly advice (on the off chance that anyone has BTDT). Some of you may remember my posts about my nutso mother and her major health (physical and mental) complications following gastric bypass surgery. That's still ongoing, and not improving much at all.
Now to add to things, my aunt has decided to leave her husband, and is now living in my parents' half of the house, with her 10 year old son and 18 year old daughter. Obviously, there are issues with my 10 year old cousin since his parents are splitting up, and that's emotional and whatnot. But we're having some serious issues integrating our families because we're so different. He eats way more sweets, gets way more toys/outings, is often rude in that "I'm so cool" way that bigger kids have. His siblings are all much older than him (17-21), so he's used to acting a LOT older, playing very rough, and thinks violence is cool. He can be sneaky (my mom overheard him saying, "okay, it's a deal, but you can't squeal to your mom!" - I *think* he was sneaking them candy when they weren't supposed to have any).
He absolutely adores my kids, but they're already starting to pick up some of his rudeness, and he's been here less than a week. They get jealous that he can have more sweets, play more video games, etc. We've had talks about how different families work in different ways, and how he might get some things that they don't have, but that he's jealous that we got to go to Disney this spring and he didn't, and that they get to homeschool and he doesn't (he brought those things up with me).
Anyway. I just feel like we're drowning in crazy right now. It's spring vacation so he's home a lot, and I'm hoping things will settle down next week.
Thanks for letting me vent. :)
Now to add to things, my aunt has decided to leave her husband, and is now living in my parents' half of the house, with her 10 year old son and 18 year old daughter. Obviously, there are issues with my 10 year old cousin since his parents are splitting up, and that's emotional and whatnot. But we're having some serious issues integrating our families because we're so different. He eats way more sweets, gets way more toys/outings, is often rude in that "I'm so cool" way that bigger kids have. His siblings are all much older than him (17-21), so he's used to acting a LOT older, playing very rough, and thinks violence is cool. He can be sneaky (my mom overheard him saying, "okay, it's a deal, but you can't squeal to your mom!" - I *think* he was sneaking them candy when they weren't supposed to have any).
He absolutely adores my kids, but they're already starting to pick up some of his rudeness, and he's been here less than a week. They get jealous that he can have more sweets, play more video games, etc. We've had talks about how different families work in different ways, and how he might get some things that they don't have, but that he's jealous that we got to go to Disney this spring and he didn't, and that they get to homeschool and he doesn't (he brought those things up with me).
Anyway. I just feel like we're drowning in crazy right now. It's spring vacation so he's home a lot, and I'm hoping things will settle down next week.
Thanks for letting me vent. :)