hellokitty
05-07-2011, 09:58 AM
UGH! Those of you who, "know" me here, know that I do not get along with my mil. She decided w/o any warning to go visit korea for 2 mo. This was great news for me, b/c whenever she goes out of the country, it is peaceful here and drama free (I am sure she causes havor there though, she has been sent home, earlier than planned before, probably b/c her relatives couldn't stand her anymore). Anyway, she just came back this wk. I told my DH I *KNEW* she would be back by mother's day. Well, the drama has already begun. DH and the kids were going to spend mother's day with mil/fil (they live an hr away), while I got the day off at home, since I have NO desire to be forced to spend MY mother's day with mil. My fil thought it sounded like a good idea.
Well, now my mil is calling and complaining to my DH that she has had abdominal pain for MONTHS. And that is why she went to korea. Basically, she probably had a relative get her a bunch of chinese medicine herbs to try to treat whatever mystery problem (She has always an entire list of very vague complaints, but her doctors are NEVER able to pinpoint any diagnoses, even though she's had every test done). So, she said that she did not get, "cured" and now she is back and spreading the misery. She never bothered to go to her PCP here to get it checked out. She also apparently did not have the sense to go to see a physician while in korea to get it checked out either. So, her mystery abd pain that has been going on for months, and now in her mind, suddenly a critical issue?!?! She called this morning to ask my DH what she should do (like anyone has office hrs on Saturday, she's been home since Tues) and she wants to go to a GI doc. We told her she needs to see her PCP first (I feel sorry for him, I know he is sick and tired of dealing with her and she's gone to see like every specialist under the sun only to NEVER get a diagnosis, basically she is a hypochondriac and she refused to take the anti-anxiety pills that he prescribed her). So, she has decided that she doesn't feel well (btw, this is her, "normal" status, she ALWAYS says she doesn't feel well, so what is new?), so doesn't want to do mother's day tomorrow. Instead, she would like to do it next wknd. Shoot me now! She doesn't get a raincheck, wtf?
So, this probably sounds completely selfish from me. However, I am peeved that mil is being her typical, difficult, won't-go-with-the-flow, self. My mom is out of the country right now, so we were able to focus mother's day on mil this yr, instead of having to figure out what to do for my mom too. She always wants all of the attn, so here, DH was going to give her all of the attn and she wants to change things around. *I* am pissed, b/c I was supposed to have a child-free day while DH took the kids to go see his parents (he's never done this before, so I was really excited). AND to top it off, she has decided that she'd like to come visit US instead, next wknd. WTF? Great, so now I get to host her? She rarely ever hosts us, *I* am always the one who has to host her (and she never lifts a finger to help me when she is here, she expects to be waited on like royalty, like she basically won't even get herself a glass of water by herself, but wants us to do it for her?!?!?) and usually it's with less than an hr's worth of notice. I told my DH that it's great that now his mom ruins this wknd AND next wknd (I don't think he will be able to go visit next wknd, b/c he is on call, so can't leave town, he's off call this wknd), and now I get to deal with the stress of having the house ready and also being forced to spend time with someone I despise. Grrrr! It's such a petty vent, but this woman just drives me crazy, so there is a lot of ongoing history that has been stewing for a long time. Even my DH describes his mother as someone who, "sucks the joy out of everything." I hate spending time with her and I resent it even more that she ALWAYS has to make things difficult and a PITA for us. She makes everyone around her miserable! :irked:
Well, now my mil is calling and complaining to my DH that she has had abdominal pain for MONTHS. And that is why she went to korea. Basically, she probably had a relative get her a bunch of chinese medicine herbs to try to treat whatever mystery problem (She has always an entire list of very vague complaints, but her doctors are NEVER able to pinpoint any diagnoses, even though she's had every test done). So, she said that she did not get, "cured" and now she is back and spreading the misery. She never bothered to go to her PCP here to get it checked out. She also apparently did not have the sense to go to see a physician while in korea to get it checked out either. So, her mystery abd pain that has been going on for months, and now in her mind, suddenly a critical issue?!?! She called this morning to ask my DH what she should do (like anyone has office hrs on Saturday, she's been home since Tues) and she wants to go to a GI doc. We told her she needs to see her PCP first (I feel sorry for him, I know he is sick and tired of dealing with her and she's gone to see like every specialist under the sun only to NEVER get a diagnosis, basically she is a hypochondriac and she refused to take the anti-anxiety pills that he prescribed her). So, she has decided that she doesn't feel well (btw, this is her, "normal" status, she ALWAYS says she doesn't feel well, so what is new?), so doesn't want to do mother's day tomorrow. Instead, she would like to do it next wknd. Shoot me now! She doesn't get a raincheck, wtf?
So, this probably sounds completely selfish from me. However, I am peeved that mil is being her typical, difficult, won't-go-with-the-flow, self. My mom is out of the country right now, so we were able to focus mother's day on mil this yr, instead of having to figure out what to do for my mom too. She always wants all of the attn, so here, DH was going to give her all of the attn and she wants to change things around. *I* am pissed, b/c I was supposed to have a child-free day while DH took the kids to go see his parents (he's never done this before, so I was really excited). AND to top it off, she has decided that she'd like to come visit US instead, next wknd. WTF? Great, so now I get to host her? She rarely ever hosts us, *I* am always the one who has to host her (and she never lifts a finger to help me when she is here, she expects to be waited on like royalty, like she basically won't even get herself a glass of water by herself, but wants us to do it for her?!?!?) and usually it's with less than an hr's worth of notice. I told my DH that it's great that now his mom ruins this wknd AND next wknd (I don't think he will be able to go visit next wknd, b/c he is on call, so can't leave town, he's off call this wknd), and now I get to deal with the stress of having the house ready and also being forced to spend time with someone I despise. Grrrr! It's such a petty vent, but this woman just drives me crazy, so there is a lot of ongoing history that has been stewing for a long time. Even my DH describes his mother as someone who, "sucks the joy out of everything." I hate spending time with her and I resent it even more that she ALWAYS has to make things difficult and a PITA for us. She makes everyone around her miserable! :irked: