ha98ed14
05-30-2011, 02:26 PM
The past 6 mos have been pretty horrific for my family. In October, a very close elderly relative was the victim of a B&E crime of Law & Order SVU proportion. Everyone scrambled to come to her aid, and resettled her in a safe place. Life returned to some level of routine. Now we are stuck with the house where it all happened. We have purged and cleaned, purged and cleaned from Oct to Feb. It went on the market in March, a few nibbles, and then... NOTHING. We so desperately need to be out from under this mortgage. It's weighing on my relative who, since October, has been paying the mortgage plus rent on the new housing into which she was resettled. hemorrhaging money. It cannot be sustained, but she will not walk away. It's psychological. We've fought, argued, strategized, reasoned, yelled. The only way my relative will walk away is if this house sells legitimately, which it could. It's had a lot of repair work done and would easily pass any inspection, but it needs some cosmetic help. There is just no more money to put into it. You don't count on all the expenses that stem from being the victim of a violent crime. It's not just the hospital bills and the atty fees. It's housing costs associated with no longer being able to live in the house where the crime took place, but not having the ability to get out either.
On top of all this weighing on my relative is the fact that her own daughter is married to a louse and 9 mos. pregnant. He's proved himself to be unreliable at best and has been of no help to his wife, so the burden of "being there" has fallen to my relative. It's been a very, very difficult pregnancy.
ETA: The reason that this is so urgent is because now my relative is talking about moving back to the house. She thinks it's what she needs to do so that if her daughter's marriage fails and her daughter is stuck with a new baby and a no good XH, her daughter has some where to go. This, despite the fact that the daughter told my relative she isn't living in that house.
If ever you had any P&PTs, MoJo, good wishes to send out way, we could really use them.
On top of all this weighing on my relative is the fact that her own daughter is married to a louse and 9 mos. pregnant. He's proved himself to be unreliable at best and has been of no help to his wife, so the burden of "being there" has fallen to my relative. It's been a very, very difficult pregnancy.
ETA: The reason that this is so urgent is because now my relative is talking about moving back to the house. She thinks it's what she needs to do so that if her daughter's marriage fails and her daughter is stuck with a new baby and a no good XH, her daughter has some where to go. This, despite the fact that the daughter told my relative she isn't living in that house.
If ever you had any P&PTs, MoJo, good wishes to send out way, we could really use them.