niccig
07-23-2011, 08:22 AM
Update
The cousins came over yesterday and I watched what was going on. Despite MILs assertion that the 2yo was not breaking what the older kids were building, he did break things multiple times. No adult told him to stop. No one was facilitating the play with all 3. They let the 2 yo go down alone to the basement when they knew the older kids were playing legos. I went down and helped him to play with the older 2, and everything was fine. He needs someone to help him play with the others, and his parents were on their phones or talking with adults. At one point their eldest asked her Dad to please help as the 2yo was ruining their game. The dad had been with them in the basement, but left to go upstairs with the adults.
When DS was this age, I spent many a family gathering tn the basement to make sure DS was playing well with the older kids. It's not fun to miss out on what is going on upstairs, but thats part of having little ones. I helped yesterday, but DH told me it wasn't my responsible to entertain the 2 yo because his parents would not. We only have one more day, and next time we see them, he will be 3yo, and better able to play unsupervised.
If this has been going on all week, I don't blame DS for getting frustrated.
MIL had DS for last 10 days, and they spent a lot of time with cousins. DS adores his 9 yo cousin, but was "negative" in MILs words to the 2 yo. He didn't want him to play with them, and even asked if just he and the 9 yo could be together without the 2 yo. Doesn't help that the 2 yo isn't talking yet, and went to give DS a hug to say sorry for an accident, and DS doesn't like hugs without being asked. I have never forced him to hug anyone, but MIL and SIL tried and DS melted down. If I was there, I would have been able to avoid that.
We have a couple of days together. I am here now and will watch and run interference. I asked DS and he says the 2yo doesn't listen and can't play their games. This hasn't been an issue with our friends with younger siblings. I think DS might want the 9 yo's attention only to himself. SIL isn't very nice, so I want to be pro-active with DS for him to u derstand that the 2yo really wants to be with DS. Apparently, DS adores the 9 yo, and the 2yo adores DS.
Thanks
The cousins came over yesterday and I watched what was going on. Despite MILs assertion that the 2yo was not breaking what the older kids were building, he did break things multiple times. No adult told him to stop. No one was facilitating the play with all 3. They let the 2 yo go down alone to the basement when they knew the older kids were playing legos. I went down and helped him to play with the older 2, and everything was fine. He needs someone to help him play with the others, and his parents were on their phones or talking with adults. At one point their eldest asked her Dad to please help as the 2yo was ruining their game. The dad had been with them in the basement, but left to go upstairs with the adults.
When DS was this age, I spent many a family gathering tn the basement to make sure DS was playing well with the older kids. It's not fun to miss out on what is going on upstairs, but thats part of having little ones. I helped yesterday, but DH told me it wasn't my responsible to entertain the 2 yo because his parents would not. We only have one more day, and next time we see them, he will be 3yo, and better able to play unsupervised.
If this has been going on all week, I don't blame DS for getting frustrated.
MIL had DS for last 10 days, and they spent a lot of time with cousins. DS adores his 9 yo cousin, but was "negative" in MILs words to the 2 yo. He didn't want him to play with them, and even asked if just he and the 9 yo could be together without the 2 yo. Doesn't help that the 2 yo isn't talking yet, and went to give DS a hug to say sorry for an accident, and DS doesn't like hugs without being asked. I have never forced him to hug anyone, but MIL and SIL tried and DS melted down. If I was there, I would have been able to avoid that.
We have a couple of days together. I am here now and will watch and run interference. I asked DS and he says the 2yo doesn't listen and can't play their games. This hasn't been an issue with our friends with younger siblings. I think DS might want the 9 yo's attention only to himself. SIL isn't very nice, so I want to be pro-active with DS for him to u derstand that the 2yo really wants to be with DS. Apparently, DS adores the 9 yo, and the 2yo adores DS.
Thanks