deborah_r
08-04-2011, 01:36 PM
Now that DS1's summer camp through the school district has ended, I have a babysitter scoming to stay with him daily. SHe brings her 10 year old brother and the two boys play together pretty well.
I am really struggling with getting DS2 to go to his daycare/preschool every day. It is much harder for the babysitter to watch a 10yo, 8 yo and 4yo than just the older two. Also there ends up being fights between DS1 and DS2, since that just is what they do. Also, I pay for the darn daycare whether he goes or not, there are age appropriate activities with learning experiences, and **he takes a nap there**. He will not nap at home, then he is a bear by 5pm. On Tuesday I let him stay home, he didn't take a nap, crashed about 4:45pm and I needed to take the boys to swim lessons for 5:50. Had to wake him up and he was a complete mess. He not only didn't get in the pool but was yelling, crying, and hitting me. Can't handle that again.
I am trying to explain to him that he and his brother do not always get to do the same things, and I think in most situations my boys get that concept pretty well (separate playdates, separate activities). I am wondering if the fact that DS1 is getting to stay home is unfair to DS2 - simply because it is *home*. He would understand if DS1 was going to some other place for the day, but since it's home, maybe it is just kind of unfair, really. Thoughts?
I am really struggling with getting DS2 to go to his daycare/preschool every day. It is much harder for the babysitter to watch a 10yo, 8 yo and 4yo than just the older two. Also there ends up being fights between DS1 and DS2, since that just is what they do. Also, I pay for the darn daycare whether he goes or not, there are age appropriate activities with learning experiences, and **he takes a nap there**. He will not nap at home, then he is a bear by 5pm. On Tuesday I let him stay home, he didn't take a nap, crashed about 4:45pm and I needed to take the boys to swim lessons for 5:50. Had to wake him up and he was a complete mess. He not only didn't get in the pool but was yelling, crying, and hitting me. Can't handle that again.
I am trying to explain to him that he and his brother do not always get to do the same things, and I think in most situations my boys get that concept pretty well (separate playdates, separate activities). I am wondering if the fact that DS1 is getting to stay home is unfair to DS2 - simply because it is *home*. He would understand if DS1 was going to some other place for the day, but since it's home, maybe it is just kind of unfair, really. Thoughts?