Seeking commiseration from parents of DC that STTN

[jgenie]

after 18 months. DS1 didn't STTN until 15 months. We figured DS2 would follow suit so we tried not to expect it would be easy. DS2 is now 18 months and still waking up several times a night. I night weened him about a month ago hoping it would help but still no progress. I'm soooo tired!! Tell me it's going to happen - right? BTDT would be great!! TIA

[jenfromnj]

DS didn't STTN consistently until maybe 20 months? I can't remember exactly, I was too sleep deprived to have perfect recall ;).

I have no advice whatsoever, but lots of sympathy! We tried lots of tactics/methods/tricks, but in the end, I think it was just a matter of time. It was almost torturous because he'd do well for days, sometimes weeks, then stop.

Lots of "STTN soon" vibes!

[megs4413]

my first one didn't start STTN until 15 mos. She is a solid sleeper now, though.

DS still doesn't sleep through the night consistently. every once in a blue moon, but almost never even two nights in a row. he has SN, though.

If there's one thing I've learned it's that a sleep specialist is a good idea. our pediatrician recommended it for both DC because of their sleep issues, but I for whatever reason felt like the problems would just magically fix themselves at some point. I wish I'd done it with DD and I finally did do it a year and a half ago with DS. I really should have done it sooner, but I just assumed my kids were rotten sleepers and it was in some way my fault. I think I didn't want to get blamed. Now I think that was a stupid thing to worry about. I should worry more about how I never get proper sleep!

[rin]

Huh, well, no BTDT specifically, but I just posted yesterday about my 15-month old DD who still doesn't STTN, so I guess I'm still in the trenches with you. :hug:

[AnnieW625]

I had formula fed kids from 4 months on. DD1 slept from 9 pr 10 pm to 4 am from 10 weeks old until she was weaned at 4 months old. DD2 barely slept for more than 90 minutes during the day until she was almost 3 months old so she STTN at maybe 7 weeks old; she go to bed at around 8 or 9 and would sleep until 5:30 or 6:00. She was also on zantac for reflux so I think that helped a lot too. My only other suggestion is to make sure that DS is getting enough food, sounds silly but maybe try feeding him a carbo rich diet and some turkey for dinner and see if it works. Because I really have no BTDT experience food is the only thing I can think of. My nephew (14 mos. old) is having similar problems and every time I see him he is barely given any food (med. size jar of baby food) and 4 to 6 oz. of milk so I am somewhat convinced that it could be food related.

please no flames because I truly have no BTDT experience, except when DD1 was teething and we'd usually give her a small bottle and rock her back to sleep, that went on until she was about 2/1/2 each time she'd get new teeth in.

[Smillow]

DS didn't STTN consistently until maybe 20 months? I can't remember exactly, I was too sleep deprived to have perfect recall ;).

I have no advice whatsoever, but lots of sympathy! We tried lots of tactics/methods/tricks, but in the end, I think it was just a matter of time. It was almost torturous because he'd do well for days, sometimes weeks, then stop.

Lots of "STTN soon" vibes!

:yeahthat:
I would say it took DS till 24 months to consistently STTN. It was hell - especially since (notD)H would not take night duty until 29 months. Hang in there!

ps It probably took me another couple of months to be able to STTN because my body was so used to being constantly awakened!

[brittone2]

My older two started STTN around 15 to 20 months (kind of a gradual process).

DS2 still nurses a few times a night (we cosleep). He's getting teeth right now and it is particularly bad lately.

STTN on the later side didn't predict DS1 or DD's ability to sleep well later on, so I try not to sweat it.

DS2 will get there in the next few months. I'll enjoy it, no doubt.

[DietCokeLover]

My 3.5 yo still doesn't STTN! But, at least he only wakes up once per night now. As an infant til he was 11 months old he would wake 12 times per night.

[MommyAllison]

DD didn't sleep through the night even once until after she turned 2. DS slept through a handful of times before his second birthday. It does end!! :) Night weaning was the key for us, so I bet STTN will happen sooner than later for you guys.

[Melbel]

My 3.5 yo still doesn't STTN! But, at least he only wakes up once per night now. As an infant til he was 11 months old he would wake 12 times per night.

DD2, 38 months still does not STTN other than on a rare occasion. With her severe reflux, she was up every 2-3 hours for 14+ months. It is exhausting!

[mimosa]

DS2 is now sleeping through the night very consistently (at almost 30 months). But that's only in the last two months or so. It is heavenly. :)

DS1 was worse. Way worse. I think he was four before he really stopped waking up and needing me regularly (and always me, never DH). So by comparison, this time around has been great.

[kbud]

I'm sorry I know how hard it is. DD#1 didn't sttn until just over 2, and she didn't nap either, she was up every 2 hours at night. DD#1 will be 4 next month and still doesn't sttn, never has. She is at least down to waking 1-2 times a night from 4-5 times. I can count on my fingers the number of times she's slept through. We did a sleep study and discovered she had restless leg syndrome. Poor thing would scratch her legs at night until they bled. Had her iron levels checked and they were low, the usual cause of restless leg in kids. After about 4 months on iron supplements we got it up and she is now down to waking 1-2 times. I have no real advice except that if your gut tells you something is wrong at night follow it. I went to a pediatric sleep clinic.

[pastrygirl]

He'll be 2 at the end of August, and still waking 1-3 times a night... blargh. Every once in a while, he will STTN or wake only at around 5 or 6am then nurse and go back down until 8. Those are good days! Lately it's midnight and 3am. Two nights ago, I decided to stop nursing him when he wakes up. I tell him that I'm not going to nurse him, that I will rub his back, etc. I tell him that if he cries, I'll go, but if he's quiet, I'll stay. It's working! He throws a bit of a tantrum at first, but last night it was less than a minute. Then I rubbed his back and he went to sleep... until 7:30am (since midnight). :yay:

[SnuggleBuggles]

Ds1 didn't STTN till 19m and has been gold ever since. Ds2 took till 17m and hasn't been as great but still really good!

Beth

[Raidra]

Oh, I feel your pain.. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, too. :(

Niall's 15 months and just within the last two weeks started giving me decent stretches of sleep most nights. He's still not sleeping through the night by any means, but some nights he's only up two or three times. Even better, some of those times, I can just hand him his bottle (his crib is side-carred) and he'll lie back down. But he was up every two hours until sometime after 12 months. It's been slowly improving, and the putting-himself-back-to-sleep thing just happened one night and we've been encouraging it as much as we can.

We don't CIO and always respond to the kids at night. For us, the big deal is when they start putting themselves back to sleep, since it's much easier to just quickly reassure them or hand them a bottle than to spend 30 minutes rocking.

[PGTB]

DS is 15 months and still doesn't STTN. I've posted multiple threads on this forum on the subject of co-sleeping, night weaning, etc. Still nurse DS at night, to sleep and in the morning. He is capable of going to sleep without nursing, from our experience of leaving him a couple of times with the babysitter. His sleep is worst after 3-4am, he could be up every hour. We don't CIO, we tried when DS was 5-6 months old with limited success and this required repeating for us, so we didn't want to have him CIO again and again and decided to just let it flow naturally and wait till he STTN on his own.

I am suspecting teething now and stomach pains/gas. This and colds is pretty much what I think keeping him from sleeping. Well, maybe hunger.. he is still a very fussy eater and I have low supply at this point.

Seems like some babies are just more sensitive or have certain chronic physical discomforts. We hope DS will start STTN once he starts eating lots more during the day and once we night wean. I should really stop nursing at night, but it's just never a good timing. We also co-sleep, so we need to transition DS to his own bed first.

[wendibird22]

IIRC DD1 started STTN consistently when I weaned her at 21mos. DD2 is 19mos and gets up once, sometimes twice a night to nurse...usually around 3am. She goes to bed at 7pm and is up for the day at 6am with a 1-2hr nap in the afternoon. I LONG for the day when she STTN. I work FT and it's exhausting.