sste
08-30-2011, 03:21 PM
I found a great hospital-based program in my city that does parent coaching with therapists/psychologists (so covered by my insurance to boot!). They have their own evidence-based program that basically combines love/logic plus one/two/three magic plus visual schedules/picture cards to help a child deal with x problematic situation. Plus other things tailored to the specific child. The behavior plan also gets both parents on the same page which is huge for DH and me.
Initially the parents meet with the therapist then the child comes in and they have a play gym and the therapist watches the parents interacting behind a one-way mirror (and then the parents watch the therapist). And the therapist gives coaching and feedback.
We decided to hold off on a full neuropsych evaluation given DS's age and his significant success in other settings and instead the therapist is in the process of informally evaluating him. It is still early but thus far the feedback we are getting is that DS is currently operating much more than we realized above his age level in his cognitive and social skills. *But* he is using these skills in very typical preschooler style to fill his day with what he wants, scooby-doo episodes, etc. and he needs to respect limits and to learn to distinguish situations where it is OK to negotiate from those where he needs to follow instructions pronto.
Anyway, thank you to all of you who encouraged me! And for anyone considering this if you can find the right program it is terrific. Our therapist anticipates our comparatively minor problems can be addressed in 6 or so sessions but even the full program for kids with more significant needs is 12 sessions. Also, our experience has been positive rather than framing our kid/parenting experience as a A Big Problem - - we basically went in and said our kid is sensitive, fairly intense and very goal-directed, extremely perceptive, and we want to start working now to make sure these things end up being the assets they can be rather than causing him problems later down the line in school/life.
HTH. :)
Initially the parents meet with the therapist then the child comes in and they have a play gym and the therapist watches the parents interacting behind a one-way mirror (and then the parents watch the therapist). And the therapist gives coaching and feedback.
We decided to hold off on a full neuropsych evaluation given DS's age and his significant success in other settings and instead the therapist is in the process of informally evaluating him. It is still early but thus far the feedback we are getting is that DS is currently operating much more than we realized above his age level in his cognitive and social skills. *But* he is using these skills in very typical preschooler style to fill his day with what he wants, scooby-doo episodes, etc. and he needs to respect limits and to learn to distinguish situations where it is OK to negotiate from those where he needs to follow instructions pronto.
Anyway, thank you to all of you who encouraged me! And for anyone considering this if you can find the right program it is terrific. Our therapist anticipates our comparatively minor problems can be addressed in 6 or so sessions but even the full program for kids with more significant needs is 12 sessions. Also, our experience has been positive rather than framing our kid/parenting experience as a A Big Problem - - we basically went in and said our kid is sensitive, fairly intense and very goal-directed, extremely perceptive, and we want to start working now to make sure these things end up being the assets they can be rather than causing him problems later down the line in school/life.
HTH. :)