SnuggleBuggles
09-01-2011, 08:25 AM
update- all is cool today. We were both just tired last night.
I understand why he's upset but I don't know how to make it better. He's been doing a long, long over due house project and he's spent a lot of time and money on it. He's staining wood and it's been a big hassle. Last night, after midnight (which might explain my lack of filter), I said, "yeah that looks fine but I don't like the actual wood." Gosh, he was so, so upset. "Why didn't you tell me when I brought it home from the store that you didn't like it??," he rationally asked. Thing is, he was so impatient and in a rush to get it done that that when store B didn't have the wood that matched the wood we already had purchased at store A he didn't bother to go back to store A. He made the choice to roll with what he found at store B so I decided to as well. I meant to keep my mouth shut about my dislike of it but it came out last night. Ugh, I told him that I appreciated all of his work and it really would be fine. He is now sulking and angry. I hate that he will let this be toxic for days and days.
Beth
I understand why he's upset but I don't know how to make it better. He's been doing a long, long over due house project and he's spent a lot of time and money on it. He's staining wood and it's been a big hassle. Last night, after midnight (which might explain my lack of filter), I said, "yeah that looks fine but I don't like the actual wood." Gosh, he was so, so upset. "Why didn't you tell me when I brought it home from the store that you didn't like it??," he rationally asked. Thing is, he was so impatient and in a rush to get it done that that when store B didn't have the wood that matched the wood we already had purchased at store A he didn't bother to go back to store A. He made the choice to roll with what he found at store B so I decided to as well. I meant to keep my mouth shut about my dislike of it but it came out last night. Ugh, I told him that I appreciated all of his work and it really would be fine. He is now sulking and angry. I hate that he will let this be toxic for days and days.
Beth