gcc2k
09-26-2011, 11:49 AM
DH drops off DS at the babysitters in the morning. We are supposed to pay her Monday morning for the week. Unfortunately DH forgot to give her the check this morning, so he calls to remind me to pay her. I text the babysitter to tell her I will be bringing the check when I pick up DS, but I will be a little later than usual due to a meeting.
So the babysitter simply writes back. “M--- [husband’s name] goes to the bank Monday morning”
It rubs me the wrong way. In a way, she's lucky she gets paid in advance! No one I know gets paid ahead of time before they even do the work. What does she want me to do, drop everything to drive over there and give her the money? What's the point of even writing that? We made a mistake. And it's NOT true that her DH always deposits the checks Monday. Far from it. Occasionally he hasn't deposited the check until the following week!
I know our babysitter writes short, brief texts that are to the point because she doesn't have time to elaborate when she's watching a few different kids. (FWIW, she’s been watching kids in her home for 20 years.) I'm trying to keep that in mind. But I wish she had at least written, "Please remember to bring the check on Mondays since M---- goes to the bank." Then I wouldn't have gotten my hackles up. I'm trying to tell myself that is what she meant: just a gentle reminder to bring the check on Monday. But seriously, we don't have a payroll department and people make mistakes. (This is our first time in 6 months, so it’s not a recurring problem.) I just think she didn't handle it the best way. This is one reason texting just doesn't cut it.
I hate being reminded that this is just a business for our babysitter. Yes she loves kids, but bottom line she is making money and that is her first priority. I'm probably overreacting and I know this is a petty post, but it is just a reminder that my heart is broken a little bit every day DS has to be taken care of by someone else. :crying:
So the babysitter simply writes back. “M--- [husband’s name] goes to the bank Monday morning”
It rubs me the wrong way. In a way, she's lucky she gets paid in advance! No one I know gets paid ahead of time before they even do the work. What does she want me to do, drop everything to drive over there and give her the money? What's the point of even writing that? We made a mistake. And it's NOT true that her DH always deposits the checks Monday. Far from it. Occasionally he hasn't deposited the check until the following week!
I know our babysitter writes short, brief texts that are to the point because she doesn't have time to elaborate when she's watching a few different kids. (FWIW, she’s been watching kids in her home for 20 years.) I'm trying to keep that in mind. But I wish she had at least written, "Please remember to bring the check on Mondays since M---- goes to the bank." Then I wouldn't have gotten my hackles up. I'm trying to tell myself that is what she meant: just a gentle reminder to bring the check on Monday. But seriously, we don't have a payroll department and people make mistakes. (This is our first time in 6 months, so it’s not a recurring problem.) I just think she didn't handle it the best way. This is one reason texting just doesn't cut it.
I hate being reminded that this is just a business for our babysitter. Yes she loves kids, but bottom line she is making money and that is her first priority. I'm probably overreacting and I know this is a petty post, but it is just a reminder that my heart is broken a little bit every day DS has to be taken care of by someone else. :crying: