California
12-03-2011, 01:45 PM
This feels so silly, but I'm really not sure how to politely say, "NO" so it comes across sweetly as a "Thank you for your interest, but no:kisscheek:"
As you savvy bargain shoppers know, sometimes a large group order can save serious money in shipping, etc. So I offered a four years back to do a big holiday order for my relatives. I don't know the exact amount I'll get off until I order (I have a rough idea, but it varies until the day I place the order thanks to holiday specials.) Everyone has been great about paying me as soon as the order is placed. Except for one relative. One year she was really late. Then the next year I asked for pre-payment based on the guestimate, she said, 'Sure, next time I see you,' we didn't see each other... and I gave her the benefit of the doubt, included her in the order and as you can guess she burned me. Fortunately another relative who hadn't ordered wanted her share, so it all worked out. Last year I didn't include her in the email organizing the order. Her (adult) kids noticed the change. Not sure what she told them.
This year, I didn't include her again. And her (adult) daughter just emailed me out of the blue with her mom's order! I like the daughter. I don't want to get into the money history with her. How would you respond? Unfortunately, its pretty obvious I didn't place the order yet. I could do the order today and lie that I didn't see the email in time, but I'd rather not-- I hate to be pushed to hurry or lie due to my relative's choices. I tried to write an email but I floundered.... I like the person who emailed. I also know she's touchy about her mom.
As you savvy bargain shoppers know, sometimes a large group order can save serious money in shipping, etc. So I offered a four years back to do a big holiday order for my relatives. I don't know the exact amount I'll get off until I order (I have a rough idea, but it varies until the day I place the order thanks to holiday specials.) Everyone has been great about paying me as soon as the order is placed. Except for one relative. One year she was really late. Then the next year I asked for pre-payment based on the guestimate, she said, 'Sure, next time I see you,' we didn't see each other... and I gave her the benefit of the doubt, included her in the order and as you can guess she burned me. Fortunately another relative who hadn't ordered wanted her share, so it all worked out. Last year I didn't include her in the email organizing the order. Her (adult) kids noticed the change. Not sure what she told them.
This year, I didn't include her again. And her (adult) daughter just emailed me out of the blue with her mom's order! I like the daughter. I don't want to get into the money history with her. How would you respond? Unfortunately, its pretty obvious I didn't place the order yet. I could do the order today and lie that I didn't see the email in time, but I'd rather not-- I hate to be pushed to hurry or lie due to my relative's choices. I tried to write an email but I floundered.... I like the person who emailed. I also know she's touchy about her mom.