recommendations please

[malphy]

Does anyone in the northern NJ area have recommendations for psychics or astrologers?

I do believe in this stuff but I do not live my life by it. It is just that I am in such a weird place right now and am willing to try to find a ray of hope for my future.

Please don't think I am crazy.

tia

[Jo..]

Maggie. If you can afford these money-robbing frauds, you can afford a therapy session.

Please, please, please see someone. A doctor, not a psychic.

[ha98ed14]

Maggie. If you can afford these money-robbing frauds, you can afford a therapy session.

Please, please, please see someone. A doctor, not a psychic.

I agree with her. I also think that *YOU* are the better predictor of your future than someone else's crystal ball! Going to someone else (even if they weren't frauds) and letting them tell you what is going to happen to you is the passive, victim approach. Figure out what you want you life to look like and do what you need to do to make it happen.

[elektra]

I also believe in certain kinds of power beyond the five senses, and there are probably a few people in existence who truly have some kind of handle on these "psychic powers" but I think the chances of finding one of these people is really slim to none.
I agree that if you have real issues you need to discuss, a therapist is going to be so much more helpful.
Last year around this time I was also in a weird place and I went and saw a therapist. My insurance paid for it and I think I only owed my small co-pay. I didn't actually end up clicking with the therapist but even just the first two sessions of me spilling my guts, getting validation, and a few coping strategies were so cathartic. My point is that even if you can't do several sessions of therapy due to cost or time, even just one meeeting with a trained professional or doctor, could help you out.
I feel for you because I know you have posted about your DH having a neurological disease, and my mother's own neurological condition and how it was affecting our family was the main reason I felt I needed some kind of help.
Take care.

[wellyes]

malphy, if you do end up going to one and she tells you you're cursed, please run. That is the common scam going around right now for psychics dealing with people who are emotionally fragile.

I too encourage you to seek medical help. If you can't afford it, go into debt. There is nothing more important in this whole world than you being OK for your DD's sake. I've been there, sort of, but I wasn't on my own - my DH dialed the phone for me. I wish I could for you.

[amldaley]

Going to see an astrolger or a psychic is putting a band aid on a gaping wound. You may feel like you get something out of it that one time, but with no certfication or authentication process in these industries, you are far more likely to incur a scam artisit rather than one who is legit.

If you can't afford counseling, perhaps look in the blue pages of your phone book to find free or low cost services offered through your local city or county government or a support group.

I won't tell you NOT to to see a psychic or an astrolger, but the people I know who utilize these services in a helpful and healthful way only do so once a year and they combine it with professional help from trained and licensed therapist/counselors.

[cmo]

My FIL has followed astrology & numerology for decades. He can be a little kooky, but he truly believes in it. It started as a hobby, and he has had a website since the 1990's that offers information and reports. I am not a true believer myself, but have seen some things in various reports he has done for me & my family that make me wonder if there might be some truth in it for some aspects. Please feel free to PM me if you'd like more info.

[Mopey]

I concur that you probably need to get some things off your chest and that talking to someone, even if only once or twice, can greatly enhance your understanding of what's complicating your life at the moment.

I also have great respect for people that can interpret the universe to us. As women, being naturally tied to the moon & ocean through cycles and tides, it seems silly not to think that other planetary aspects, etc. might not have any affect on us at all. My mom has photocopied the monthly report from this site for me for ages, and it is very interesting & informative.

http://www.skywatchastrology.com/

Just as a part of understanding what may be affecting you - again, if you are very down I'm sure it will help to talk to a professional. But I love the Skywatch - sometimes I will have a crazy day where everything goes wrong and if I think to check the SKywatch it is inevitably a day with haphazard occurrences in the universe. I don't think it (or a psychic) should be the only thing relied upon, but can be good to round out delving into yourself & your place - even just figuring out "what's with today, today?".

Feel better!

[AnnieW625]

I would seriously only go to a psychic if it was for fun (kind of like going to a casino and saying I want to blow $40 on a slot machine) and not because I needed real advice on how to live my life. I went to psychologist once after we lost the baby in 2009 and even though I only went once it was helpful just to go, and then to know that someone was there for me if I needed to go back again. Elektra made some really valid points. I know that you may not have insurance to be able to only pay $15 for a visit, but honestly if you are looking at paying for a psychic I'd try and find a low cost alternative through a local shelter, medicaid, or a state program who might be able to help.

Again many :hug and hope you find someone who can help you. Also I don't think you are crazy at all for wanting to see a psychic esp. if you have seen one before and had a good outcome, but I would be picky about who you see again esp. during a rough time.

[KLD313]

Not all psychic are frauds. I've had amazing readings from reputable psychic mediums and I know many people, highly intelligent people that have as well. I had no desire to talk to a psychologist when my father died tragically and unexpectedly. Talking to someone wasn't going to bring him back and I didn't want to sit there and tell a stranger how miserable I was and how I hated the world. I went to a psychic medium recommend by a friend and she was awesome. I felt so much better, like a weight was lifted after that reading.

Recently I had another reading, another amazing experience. This woman knew I was pregnant (I didn't, just found out). She knew I wanted to move to FL, knew my mom was talking about committing suicide. All things I never mentioned! This was a phone reading as well so she wasnt reading body language and she wasn't fishing for info.

If you believe in that sort of thing, which I clearly do, it can be comforting to hear what's going to happen etc. If you've never had a reading or a good reading, you can't say it isn't true. You either believe or you don't.

The key is to find someone reputable and OP as you probably already know I PM'd you a reputable person.

[Fairy]

You asked people not to think you were crazy, and based on the responses, you probably feel like people think you are crazy. I'm sorry if you feel that way. All that to say ... I have to concur that a psychic is not the way to fix whatever it is that may be ailing you. I completley see why you want to explore it, however.

I believe completely and wholeheartedly in paranormal abilities, including psychic phenomena. But there are some classic precautionary tales about how we interact with this phenomena in literature and especially science fiction. We cannot rely on what is told to us about our future, the veracity of it notwithstanding. The future is changeable. It's maleable. It's not written yet. So, to hear what someone tells us about it can be used to modify our behavior so that it does or does not happen, but there's truly no way to do that. And that's IF it's true. Classic Twilight Zone with Bill Shatner playing a man who cannot tear himself away from a diner's fortune teller, afraid to do anythign without it. A psychic should be looked at like gambling. Fun while it lasts. Go prepared to hear whatever they're gonna tell you, and then take it for its entertainment value. EAt it up and forget it. To rely on it is terrible danger.

The best way to get thru whatever it is you're seeking that you think a psychic might fix is to get therapy from psychiatric or social work professionals. We only tell you all this because we care. I hope you take this all with the spirit it was intended. Wishing you the best.

-- Fairy

[malphy]

nothing like kicking a person when they are down.

I appreciate your sentiments but that was not what i needed right now.

I have been in therapy over the years and frankly all that talking has not done much. I have been unable to find free or low cost therapy because I am slightly above the level needed to qualify. DH has royally screwed me with his mismanagement of funds and the unimaginable debt we are in.

I was not even thinking about cost of said psychic because I really did not think I would go to one. I would only go to one that is highly recommended. And even then I would have to save for that somehow.

Anyway, thank you for your continued support.

[pinkmomagain]

Oh Maggie, big hugs to you. I think everyone who replied was coming from a place of caring sincerely for you.

I have no psychic experience/advice, but after hearing about unsuccessful psychological therapy I was wondering if you have tried any counseling from a pastor/priest/rabbi? Perhaps someone of the cloth would have a helpful perspective for you during this difficult time.

[misshollygolightly]

Oh Maggie, big hugs to you. I think everyone who replied was coming from a place of caring sincerely for you.

I have no psychic experience/advice, but after hearing about unsuccessful psychological therapy I was wondering if you have tried any counseling from a pastor/priest/rabbi? Perhaps someone of the cloth would have a helpful perspective for you during this difficult time.


:yeahthat: And pastoral counsel is often free, so that's a plus!

[elektra]

nothing like kicking a person when they are down.

I appreciate your sentiments but that was not what i needed right now.

I have been in therapy over the years and frankly all that talking has not done much. I have been unable to find free or low cost therapy because I am slightly above the level needed to qualify. DH has royally screwed me with his mismanagement of funds and the unimaginable debt we are in.

I was not even thinking about cost of said psychic because I really did not think I would go to one. I would only go to one that is highly recommended. And even then I would have to save for that somehow.

Anyway, thank you for your continued support.

OP, just wanted to say I am sorry you took any of my comments that way. I was truly coming from an empathetic place. And I can understand being talked out. I stopped going to the Alzheimer's support group for that reason, and while one of the groups is still very helpful for my dad (practical advice in regards to all kinds of things like power of attorney and money issues and such) he stopped going to a different one he was also attending.

As I mentioned above, I do believe in psychic power and I hope you can find what you are looking for.

[Fairy]

OP, just wanted to say I am sorry you took any of my comments that way. I was truly coming from an empathetic place. And I can understand being talked out. I stopped going to the Alzheimer's support group for that reason, and while one of the groups is still very helpful for my dad (practical advice in regards to all kinds of things like power of attorney and money issues and such) he stopped going to a different one he was also attending.

As I mentioned above, I do believe in psychic power and I hope you can find what you are looking for.

:yeahthat:

[nmosur]

One idea is to walk into the nearest big Hindu temple with the exact time, date and place of your birth. The priest will do an astrological chart for you and also read your horoscope. And it usually involves a donation to the temple (which is tax deductible). Go during the week, probably in the afternoon when the priests are not busy. Also, call and ask beforehand how much it will cost. Be prepared to be told that you might be in the midst of a "bad period" and a certain prayer will help you overcome it - I personally don't believe in it and prefer dealing directly with God myself using my own personal words. Again the money goes to the temple and not to any individual.

Another suggestion, cheaper definitely is online astrological predictions. I think msn.com has a section for astrology. There must be tons of books with predictions out right now.

Hope you find the answers you are looking for.

[Jo..]

nothing like kicking a person when they are down.

I appreciate your sentiments but that was not what i needed right now.

I have been in therapy over the years and frankly all that talking has not done much. I have been unable to find free or low cost therapy because I am slightly above the level needed to qualify. DH has royally screwed me with his mismanagement of funds and the unimaginable debt we are in.

I was not even thinking about cost of said psychic because I really did not think I would go to one. I would only go to one that is highly recommended. And even then I would have to save for that somehow.

Anyway, thank you for your continued support.

I think you are in a bad place and hoping for help against all hope. Believe me when I say I have BEEN THERE.

I wanted to give you some honest advice. I would LOVE to help you. I need help sometimes, too. I have in the past, and I still do.

I feel that seeking comfort through psychics etc is barking up the wrong tree. They may tell you things will get better. They may tell you things will get worse. Either way, then what?

You are dealing with complicated life issues, and you need real help. I don't mean to kick you while you are down or minimize your issues, I am sorry if my words were harsh.

But if you were my friend IRL, I would tell you the same thing. I would shake you, then hug you, and then drag you to therapy. Somewhere there is someone that can help you for no or low cost.

I am concerned about you, and your DH's health. When my DH got cancer, my world COLLAPSED. I thought I would lose my mind. I would have gone to anyone and paid anything for them to just tell me it would all get better.

I don't want you to fall victim to anyone. I want you to help yourself, if you can. I am worried, concerned, and I want to help.

[R2sweetboys]

:22: Please know that any of us responding are only doing so because we care. I feel SO bad that you are in such a bad place. I can truly say that I have been there though our circumstances are different. It is so very hard to imagine something better when you are feeling so low. But please, do know that it can be better. It WILL be better because you are reaching out and doing the very best that you can right now with what you have. I have been to therapists that just didn't work for me/us.(DH and I as well as individual) I came to realize that all therapists don't work for all people. It's very much individual and you have to sometimes work to find someone that clicks. I realize this is hard when you're already struggling but it can be worth it in the end.

I don't have any personal experience with psychics, it's just not my thing. I'm too much of a skeptic, though I completely respect those who believe and sometimes wish I did. :shy: My only second-hand experience with a psychic is with my neighbor who was going through a divorce from a jerk who had cheated and was NOT coming back . She was clearly being taken advantage of by her psychic and led on to believe that her ex really was remorseful and was going to come back to her, etc. Needless to say, that never happened. The whole thing has really soured me on the idea. YOU truly do have the power to change your future, no one else. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts-you are in a tough spot but I do feel it will get better because you're strong. Take care,

[JElaineB]

The Platinum Rule (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Platinum_Rule) is a moral principle related to but different from the Golden Rule, saying that "Treat others in the way they like to be treated."

I sent you a pm. :)

[ha98ed14]

I think you are in a bad place and hoping for help against all hope. Believe me when I say I have BEEN THERE.

I wanted to give you some honest advice. I would LOVE to help you. I need help sometimes, too. I have in the past, and I still do.

I feel that seeking comfort through psychics etc is barking up the wrong tree. They may tell you things will get better. They may tell you things will get worse. Either way, then what?

You are dealing with complicated life issues, and you need real help. I don't mean to kick you while you are down or minimize your issues, I am sorry if my words were harsh.

But if you were my friend IRL, I would tell you the same thing. I would shake you, then hug you, and then drag you to therapy. Somewhere there is someone that can help you for no or low cost.

I am concerned about you, and your DH's health. When my DH got cancer, my world COLLAPSED. I thought I would lose my mind. I would have gone to anyone and paid anything for them to just tell me it would all get better.

I don't want you to fall victim to anyone. I want you to help yourself, if you can. I am worried, concerned, and I want to help.

Man, I wish you were my go-to IRL friend! You sound awesome! OP, if she's for real, let her be there for you. What have you got to lose? I'm sorry that what I said lacked compassion. I was trying to express the "shaking" Jo mentioned, but it didn't come through that way. I understand you can't just snap out of it like your sister would like to tell you to, but making some goals for yourself and beginning to work towards them is a big step towards getting yourself back together, even though it was no fault of yours that things fell apart. Don't let yourself be the victim of someone else's mistakes. Godspeed to you and DD!