alootikki
01-26-2012, 04:12 PM
Our wonderful nanny of 2 years had to leave us on Dec 31st. We thought we had found a great replacement who quit unexpectedly before her first week was over! So we scrambled to find a replacement, and are now working with nanny #3. This is her third week with us.
The nanny is very good with DS (18 months) but DD (3.5 years) is another story. DS is easy-going, and at that lovable cute age - it's fun to play with him and she is very loving to him.
DD has been acting very bratty with her - refusing to listen, not letting the nanny get her dressed in the mornings, feed her meals, put her down for naps, etc. The new nanny is very gentle, but a little too passive - she doesn't seem to have any creative tricks up her sleeve to connect with DD (e.g. "come, let me tell you a new story while I brush your hair!).
I should mention that this is out of character for DD - she's not a particularly difficult child. I am trying to be patient since DD misses the only nanny she can remember (nanny #1), and I'm sure it's a hard transition. But she didn't act this way with the flaky nanny who was with us for a week - by day 3 that nanny was able to dress her, feed her, etc.
The lack of a smooth day-to-day routine is distracting me from work (I primarily work from home). New nanny is diligent and trying, but just not that effective at dealing with DD, and I'm getting frustrated.
So I'm wondering a) how can I help the new nanny to connect with DD and assert some authority? and b) how much time should I give this before looking for someone new?
Thanks!
The nanny is very good with DS (18 months) but DD (3.5 years) is another story. DS is easy-going, and at that lovable cute age - it's fun to play with him and she is very loving to him.
DD has been acting very bratty with her - refusing to listen, not letting the nanny get her dressed in the mornings, feed her meals, put her down for naps, etc. The new nanny is very gentle, but a little too passive - she doesn't seem to have any creative tricks up her sleeve to connect with DD (e.g. "come, let me tell you a new story while I brush your hair!).
I should mention that this is out of character for DD - she's not a particularly difficult child. I am trying to be patient since DD misses the only nanny she can remember (nanny #1), and I'm sure it's a hard transition. But she didn't act this way with the flaky nanny who was with us for a week - by day 3 that nanny was able to dress her, feed her, etc.
The lack of a smooth day-to-day routine is distracting me from work (I primarily work from home). New nanny is diligent and trying, but just not that effective at dealing with DD, and I'm getting frustrated.
So I'm wondering a) how can I help the new nanny to connect with DD and assert some authority? and b) how much time should I give this before looking for someone new?
Thanks!