lmh2402
01-31-2012, 03:59 PM
Help me think this through. I’m due mid-july. I’m terrified. Of how my baseline state of crazy will cope with having two. Had a very had time pp with DS.
It’s the middle of the summer. DS is (obviously) out of school.
My regular coverage right now is Tues (my mom) and Thurs (our sitter). I am thinking that I need to figure out something to put in place before baby even arrives, so DS can get settled as best as possible. He has a very, very hard time with changes in routine and I think the baby is going to seriously mess with him. So having some sort of person or program in place, that is focused on him…I would think…would be a good thing. Right? and having this in place before baby arrives is best, so he doesn’t feel like baby shows up…and then I pass him off to someone or some program.
Sooo…what to do. Our thurs sitter is so awesome and it took us so long to get here – but he now loves her…more than me…some days. Problem is, she is not avail any day other than thurs or the weekends.
I’m looking into summer camp programs, but wouldn’t want to do 5 days a week. Would really only want to do like three…and they would be mornings only. But I was thinking maybe camp would be good b/c he would get out of the house and continue working on his socialization – which was/is our biggest hurdle with nursery school and per his teachers, he’s come such a long way! Would love to let him continue to work on those skills in a fun environment.
Other wrench in things is DS’ therapy. He will most definitely still be in OT twice a week this summer…and maybe even have speech added on for working on oral motor issues. My mother will not drive him there – she’s not comfortable driving where she isn’t familiar. So that means I will have to get him there on other days.
Compounding this – we are currently in therapy on mon and fri morning. We used to go in the afternoon – but DS has developed YET A NEW strange behavior in which he refuses to leave the house in the afternoons. (don’t ask). It got so bad that after several times of me having to carry him into the therapy office without socks, shoes (once without pants) in a screaming heap…that they told me they didn’t want him to come in the afternoons anymore. That until we were able to work through whatever is upsetting him in the afternoons, he needs to be seen in the morning.
Ok, so my options are:
1. Find a summer camp for mon, wed and fri morning. AND hire a sitter for mon, wed and fri afternoon – lean on the sitter to get DS to his therapy appts in the afternoon. Hoping with summer and longer days, the “won’t leave the house in the PM” will ease up – it only started in the fall once the days started getting shorter.
2. Skip summer camp – and the socialization – and just hire sitter/help for full days on mon, wed and fri. count on sitter to get DS to therapy at some point on a mon, wed or fri. probably a morning.
3. Put him in a camp for mon, wed and fri morning. And just deal on my own in the afternoons and get him to afternoon therapy myself. My worry with this is the therapy place is 30 min from our house on a good day without traffic. I really worry about getting out on time with a newborn, etc. plus I think I have serious PTSD from the months we were trying to force afternoon therapy once he was unwilling to leave the house. It was hell. Seriously. Hell.
Anyway, help. I’m so overwhelmed with all these thoughts swirling through my head. Thanks.
It’s the middle of the summer. DS is (obviously) out of school.
My regular coverage right now is Tues (my mom) and Thurs (our sitter). I am thinking that I need to figure out something to put in place before baby even arrives, so DS can get settled as best as possible. He has a very, very hard time with changes in routine and I think the baby is going to seriously mess with him. So having some sort of person or program in place, that is focused on him…I would think…would be a good thing. Right? and having this in place before baby arrives is best, so he doesn’t feel like baby shows up…and then I pass him off to someone or some program.
Sooo…what to do. Our thurs sitter is so awesome and it took us so long to get here – but he now loves her…more than me…some days. Problem is, she is not avail any day other than thurs or the weekends.
I’m looking into summer camp programs, but wouldn’t want to do 5 days a week. Would really only want to do like three…and they would be mornings only. But I was thinking maybe camp would be good b/c he would get out of the house and continue working on his socialization – which was/is our biggest hurdle with nursery school and per his teachers, he’s come such a long way! Would love to let him continue to work on those skills in a fun environment.
Other wrench in things is DS’ therapy. He will most definitely still be in OT twice a week this summer…and maybe even have speech added on for working on oral motor issues. My mother will not drive him there – she’s not comfortable driving where she isn’t familiar. So that means I will have to get him there on other days.
Compounding this – we are currently in therapy on mon and fri morning. We used to go in the afternoon – but DS has developed YET A NEW strange behavior in which he refuses to leave the house in the afternoons. (don’t ask). It got so bad that after several times of me having to carry him into the therapy office without socks, shoes (once without pants) in a screaming heap…that they told me they didn’t want him to come in the afternoons anymore. That until we were able to work through whatever is upsetting him in the afternoons, he needs to be seen in the morning.
Ok, so my options are:
1. Find a summer camp for mon, wed and fri morning. AND hire a sitter for mon, wed and fri afternoon – lean on the sitter to get DS to his therapy appts in the afternoon. Hoping with summer and longer days, the “won’t leave the house in the PM” will ease up – it only started in the fall once the days started getting shorter.
2. Skip summer camp – and the socialization – and just hire sitter/help for full days on mon, wed and fri. count on sitter to get DS to therapy at some point on a mon, wed or fri. probably a morning.
3. Put him in a camp for mon, wed and fri morning. And just deal on my own in the afternoons and get him to afternoon therapy myself. My worry with this is the therapy place is 30 min from our house on a good day without traffic. I really worry about getting out on time with a newborn, etc. plus I think I have serious PTSD from the months we were trying to force afternoon therapy once he was unwilling to leave the house. It was hell. Seriously. Hell.
Anyway, help. I’m so overwhelmed with all these thoughts swirling through my head. Thanks.