deborah_r
02-02-2012, 07:18 PM
DS1 is always happy and ready to go off to school. He can be a little difficult to get out of the house to get to school, usually because he has started messing around on the computer or something and doesn't want to stop, but by the time we get there, he jumps out of the car and runs in, and always seems happy about it.
This morning from the time I woke him up, he was crying saying he didn't want to go to school. When asked why, all he would say was "I don't want to." He did not appear to be ill, and said he did not feel sick. He was perfectly happy when I picked him up yesterday, so I don't think there was any issue at school.
So I made him go, but part of me wondered if I should have let him stay home, and try to figure out what his problem was. I asked him over and over, and the best he eventualy came up with was "school is boring", which he hasn't said this year at all. I have a vague memory of a "school is boring" phase with him, can't remember when it was.
I contacted his teacher, she said they have been doing testing all week, and she would understand if he was bored with it. But of course I have been worrying all day, is someone bullying him , did he have a fight with a friend, did a teacher yell at him? (Backstory: I dropped out of preschool when I perceived that a teacher had yelled at me. Flat out refused to go back. My adult brain is now pretty sure that the teacher just asked me to stop doing something.). I have no actual reason to believe a teacher would yell at him.
He's doing really well at school. He is getting an honors award in 2 weeks that only a handful of kids in each grade get. I think he is bored with math (his favorite subject) because what they are learning is so easy for him. That's all I've got.
But I still feel so bad about making him go, and worried there is something he is not telling me. But there was this voice in my head saying that if I give in to the "I don't wannas" even once, I am opening the floodgates for many more days of this.
Advice/commiseration welcome!
This morning from the time I woke him up, he was crying saying he didn't want to go to school. When asked why, all he would say was "I don't want to." He did not appear to be ill, and said he did not feel sick. He was perfectly happy when I picked him up yesterday, so I don't think there was any issue at school.
So I made him go, but part of me wondered if I should have let him stay home, and try to figure out what his problem was. I asked him over and over, and the best he eventualy came up with was "school is boring", which he hasn't said this year at all. I have a vague memory of a "school is boring" phase with him, can't remember when it was.
I contacted his teacher, she said they have been doing testing all week, and she would understand if he was bored with it. But of course I have been worrying all day, is someone bullying him , did he have a fight with a friend, did a teacher yell at him? (Backstory: I dropped out of preschool when I perceived that a teacher had yelled at me. Flat out refused to go back. My adult brain is now pretty sure that the teacher just asked me to stop doing something.). I have no actual reason to believe a teacher would yell at him.
He's doing really well at school. He is getting an honors award in 2 weeks that only a handful of kids in each grade get. I think he is bored with math (his favorite subject) because what they are learning is so easy for him. That's all I've got.
But I still feel so bad about making him go, and worried there is something he is not telling me. But there was this voice in my head saying that if I give in to the "I don't wannas" even once, I am opening the floodgates for many more days of this.
Advice/commiseration welcome!