StantonHyde
03-06-2012, 04:06 PM
My dad lives 3 hours away and comes 1x a month to visit. I don't get along with him at all and he doesn't particularly like me either. He comes to see the grandchildren. Except that what he really wants to do is talk with DH about medicine. DH doesn't mind too much except that that's not his idea of a fun day. And it irks me that my Dad is using the grand kids as an excuse. I am ok with him coming only because my kids only have 2 grandparents left and I want them to have some relationship with their grandfather.
So Dad emails me and says he is planning on coming on the shuttle that gets here at 11:30 and leaves at 5pm. He wants to stay at home vs. go out and do anything with the kids. I usually do an activity with him and the kids because it keeps me from killing him (he says horrible nasty things about my mom, me, his depression etc etc) and because he doesn't play with the kids. He says hello to them and then they go watch TV. They can't do that for 6 frickin hours!!!!!!!! (He is 73 yo and in great shape. So he is quite capable of going somewhere with us. He just doesn't like not being the center of attention.) DH will have worked the night before so he will be sleeping (and he has to go back to work that night so he can't get up early). Basically my dad wants to pontificate for 6 hours. There is not enough alcohol in the world.
So I emailed back and said that we really couldn't stay home for 6 hours in the middle of a Saturday. I suggested that either he come for 3 hours or he can come for the 6 hours with the understanding that we will leave him home to take a nap while we go do something. He is on mass quantities of "mental health" meds that make him tired. He often sleeps at our house instead of talking to the kids.
I haven't checked my email yet today. What other options do you suggest? Any other ways to make this kind of a home visit fun?
So Dad emails me and says he is planning on coming on the shuttle that gets here at 11:30 and leaves at 5pm. He wants to stay at home vs. go out and do anything with the kids. I usually do an activity with him and the kids because it keeps me from killing him (he says horrible nasty things about my mom, me, his depression etc etc) and because he doesn't play with the kids. He says hello to them and then they go watch TV. They can't do that for 6 frickin hours!!!!!!!! (He is 73 yo and in great shape. So he is quite capable of going somewhere with us. He just doesn't like not being the center of attention.) DH will have worked the night before so he will be sleeping (and he has to go back to work that night so he can't get up early). Basically my dad wants to pontificate for 6 hours. There is not enough alcohol in the world.
So I emailed back and said that we really couldn't stay home for 6 hours in the middle of a Saturday. I suggested that either he come for 3 hours or he can come for the 6 hours with the understanding that we will leave him home to take a nap while we go do something. He is on mass quantities of "mental health" meds that make him tired. He often sleeps at our house instead of talking to the kids.
I haven't checked my email yet today. What other options do you suggest? Any other ways to make this kind of a home visit fun?