Tinkerbell313
04-19-2012, 09:56 PM
OK...here it goes, sorry its long...I just want you to have all the info so you can help me.
We live in a rural community in a county of about 10,000 people. There are basically 2 elementary schools. We actually go to the elementary school in the south party of the county although the other elementary school is right around the corner from our house. However, given that we live in such a rural community that does not make much difference. There are houses further east from us that also attend our school. The school district is quite funny.
We do not live in a neighborhood, although we do live "in town" on quarter acre lots. We actually live on the main street which travels north to south through out the entire county. To travel from one end to the other end of the county, takes about 20 minutes.
DS5 plays tball with the county baseball league as do his friends. He also does swim lessons and tae kwon do. DD8 does youth cheerleading with the county football league, tae kwon do, and gymnastics at one of the 2 competitive gyms in the area. So both get to see friends outside of school
I go to all the games and practices and talk with the other parents. I try to go to all birthday parties we are invited to and talk with the parents there. We try to go to all PTO events and other school events although that is not always possible given that some of them are during work hours.
My husband and I both work M-F. So the kids go to an afterschool program.
The PTO sends home a directory of all families who have released their contact information. I have called up or emailed different parents suggesting a playdate with my child. I offer my house for the playdate as well as the county park (which has a great playground). I even offer to have my child go to other houses. More often then not, I get a blah response. The conversation seems positive and then there is never any followup from the other parent. I will let a few days go by and then I will follow up again. If I don't get a response I let it go.
It just pains me because then I have to tell the kids (DS especially) that I haven't heard back from the parents. We have had a few playdates but not many.
I have talked with the teachers about my childrens' social skills. All teachers compliment the kids stating they have lots of friends at school although they do not have a particular BFF and that both kids are well liked by their peers.
Where am I going wrong?
We live in a rural community in a county of about 10,000 people. There are basically 2 elementary schools. We actually go to the elementary school in the south party of the county although the other elementary school is right around the corner from our house. However, given that we live in such a rural community that does not make much difference. There are houses further east from us that also attend our school. The school district is quite funny.
We do not live in a neighborhood, although we do live "in town" on quarter acre lots. We actually live on the main street which travels north to south through out the entire county. To travel from one end to the other end of the county, takes about 20 minutes.
DS5 plays tball with the county baseball league as do his friends. He also does swim lessons and tae kwon do. DD8 does youth cheerleading with the county football league, tae kwon do, and gymnastics at one of the 2 competitive gyms in the area. So both get to see friends outside of school
I go to all the games and practices and talk with the other parents. I try to go to all birthday parties we are invited to and talk with the parents there. We try to go to all PTO events and other school events although that is not always possible given that some of them are during work hours.
My husband and I both work M-F. So the kids go to an afterschool program.
The PTO sends home a directory of all families who have released their contact information. I have called up or emailed different parents suggesting a playdate with my child. I offer my house for the playdate as well as the county park (which has a great playground). I even offer to have my child go to other houses. More often then not, I get a blah response. The conversation seems positive and then there is never any followup from the other parent. I will let a few days go by and then I will follow up again. If I don't get a response I let it go.
It just pains me because then I have to tell the kids (DS especially) that I haven't heard back from the parents. We have had a few playdates but not many.
I have talked with the teachers about my childrens' social skills. All teachers compliment the kids stating they have lots of friends at school although they do not have a particular BFF and that both kids are well liked by their peers.
Where am I going wrong?