plusbellelavie
05-08-2012, 03:10 PM
We recently gave our DD big news that she would be going back to her old school for a week and spending the time with her BFF. Here is the thread on that if anyone interested. DD is so happy and excited about it and has literally been on cloud 9!
http://windsorpeak.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=431717&highlight=france
We knew she would be missing the "last" full week of school here in the States but thought she would be back for her "Moving On" Ceremony with her current class.
Yesterday we emailed her teacher and let her know about DD's trip. She sent us back a very nice email telling us what a wonderful opportunity this would be for DD and how excited she was for DD but that DD would be in fact missing the "Moving On" Ceremony because it was being held the prior week not on the last day of school. I immediately sent her an email apologing for DD not being there and that it was not our intention when we had made the plans for DD to miss such an important event with her current class and teacher. She responded this morning again very positively telling me she understood and that it was a fabulous opportunity for DD and "no worries" etc. I know that she is very aware about how much DD misses France and her friends there through DD's essay and poems and mentioned it to DH during the last parent/teacher conference. Basically one of DD's poem about France and her BFF was so sad that DD's teacher told him that she asked DD to add another line or two and to make it more positive. When DH read the poem he realized that our decision to send DD to France to be with her "old" class was a good and even perhaps necessary for DD.
So here is where the "messy situation" starts. I happen to run into two other Moms today while running errands. One who has a DD currently in the same class (Mom A) and the other who son was in the class last year (Mom B). We got to talking about "graduation" and summer plans and I mentioned that DD was going to be returning to France to spend a week with her "old" class the last week of school but that we found out after tell the teacher that she would be missing graduation here. Mom B asked me how the teacher had reacted. And, I said very positively. Mom B then went on a rant!!! about how last year her son had missed "graduation" and that the same teacher had made her feel so guilty and wasn't very nice about it etc. I asked if she knew why...and she said something about the teacher not liking that her child would miss such an important event with his friends and teacher and how he was letting them down etc. I must say I was surprised because this was not the reaction that I had gotten. Then Mom A says to me "Well your DD is one of HER favorites!" all I could think to reply was "Oh really I didn't know that at all. I didn't think teachers had favorites."....Needless to say I left shortly after that feeling like I just open a Pandora's box neither Mom looked ready to let it go!! And, I can feel the gossip mill already turning!!
I have been thinking about this all afternoon. I don't understand why the teacher had a different reaction from last year to this year but I think that because DD is leaving for a wonderful opportunity and yes missing the ceremony but is going to attend the last day of school BUT that the boy last year just left school early to go on summer vacation. Would that make sense on why two different reactions?
I obviously plan to keep my mouth shut about this from now on and just share my excitment for DD privately but any advice on how to possibly calm things down before it gets too out of hand...this is a decision that DH and I made for DD just like Mom B made for her family last year I cannot explain the different reaction from the teacher but I certainly don't wish to have her put in a bad light about this either! KWIM??
Should I let the teacher know what happen today so if someone approaches her she can be prepared? Or should I just let it go?
Thanks for reading! sorry it so long!
http://windsorpeak.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=431717&highlight=france
We knew she would be missing the "last" full week of school here in the States but thought she would be back for her "Moving On" Ceremony with her current class.
Yesterday we emailed her teacher and let her know about DD's trip. She sent us back a very nice email telling us what a wonderful opportunity this would be for DD and how excited she was for DD but that DD would be in fact missing the "Moving On" Ceremony because it was being held the prior week not on the last day of school. I immediately sent her an email apologing for DD not being there and that it was not our intention when we had made the plans for DD to miss such an important event with her current class and teacher. She responded this morning again very positively telling me she understood and that it was a fabulous opportunity for DD and "no worries" etc. I know that she is very aware about how much DD misses France and her friends there through DD's essay and poems and mentioned it to DH during the last parent/teacher conference. Basically one of DD's poem about France and her BFF was so sad that DD's teacher told him that she asked DD to add another line or two and to make it more positive. When DH read the poem he realized that our decision to send DD to France to be with her "old" class was a good and even perhaps necessary for DD.
So here is where the "messy situation" starts. I happen to run into two other Moms today while running errands. One who has a DD currently in the same class (Mom A) and the other who son was in the class last year (Mom B). We got to talking about "graduation" and summer plans and I mentioned that DD was going to be returning to France to spend a week with her "old" class the last week of school but that we found out after tell the teacher that she would be missing graduation here. Mom B asked me how the teacher had reacted. And, I said very positively. Mom B then went on a rant!!! about how last year her son had missed "graduation" and that the same teacher had made her feel so guilty and wasn't very nice about it etc. I asked if she knew why...and she said something about the teacher not liking that her child would miss such an important event with his friends and teacher and how he was letting them down etc. I must say I was surprised because this was not the reaction that I had gotten. Then Mom A says to me "Well your DD is one of HER favorites!" all I could think to reply was "Oh really I didn't know that at all. I didn't think teachers had favorites."....Needless to say I left shortly after that feeling like I just open a Pandora's box neither Mom looked ready to let it go!! And, I can feel the gossip mill already turning!!
I have been thinking about this all afternoon. I don't understand why the teacher had a different reaction from last year to this year but I think that because DD is leaving for a wonderful opportunity and yes missing the ceremony but is going to attend the last day of school BUT that the boy last year just left school early to go on summer vacation. Would that make sense on why two different reactions?
I obviously plan to keep my mouth shut about this from now on and just share my excitment for DD privately but any advice on how to possibly calm things down before it gets too out of hand...this is a decision that DH and I made for DD just like Mom B made for her family last year I cannot explain the different reaction from the teacher but I certainly don't wish to have her put in a bad light about this either! KWIM??
Should I let the teacher know what happen today so if someone approaches her she can be prepared? Or should I just let it go?
Thanks for reading! sorry it so long!