BabbyO
05-10-2012, 10:44 AM
First...thank you to all the parents who've responded to my plethora of ??'s lately. I feel like every aspect of our lives is in transistion or just not normal right now and I've had a million questions...so thank you many times over. I value the advice I get here...which is why I keep coming back.
Anyway, today's ? is about daycare...this is long, so I apologize in advance.
DS1 started going to a private sitter when he was 3 mo old. For the first 18 - 21 mo things were great and she only called us 2 times to cancel for last minute illness. Just before DS turned 2 the sitter sprained her ankle very badly. To make a long story short, complications from the sprain led to back problems, migrains, etc. In Nov, while I was on maternity leave with #2 she ended up having surgery to fix her ankle.
After her surgery we decided she could not take care of the kids full time, even with the help she gets from her older kids (17 & 14 and homeschooled). It wasn't fair to her family so we put the kids in daycare at a local center 3x/wk. She/her family still watch them 2x/wk on Monday & Friday. This set up has been in place since January.
DH and I have talked about what will happen when we transistion back to the sitter because the intention from the beginning was that the center was tempory. We expected to go to 2x/wk at the center and 3x/wk with the sitter for a while, then go back to full time with the sitter.
Yesterday the sitter emailed us and let us know that she is ready to take the kids full time (with help from her family). She is feeling like she's on the upswing, though not totally recovered. But part of her motivation is a) she misses our kids terribly and b) she's hoping to break the germ fest that has been occuring in both our family and her's since the kids started at the center.
DH and I have written a Pro/con list for both the sitter and the center. Given the background and our Pro/Con list, WWYD?
Thanks if you made it this far.
Sitter - Pros
-Kids sick less
-she can be more flexible if we need to be early or late for drop off & pick up
-She occassionally drops off/picks up the kids for us if she is in the area
-Food coordination (DS' have allergies)
-Family environment
-less separation anxiety from DS1 (2.75 yo)
-$$
-sitter homeschools and has a "every moment is a teachable moment" philosophy
-we always know what is going on with our kids developmentally, behaviorally, physically because we get to talk to her daily.
Sitter - Con
-kids are in the car alot because of errands & appts
-Less learning structure
-less time outside
-scheduling can get a little hectic
-if she/family is sick we have to scramble last minute
-there is extra drop off/pick up time because they are further from our house and we chat
Center - Pros
-closer to home, less time with drop off/pick up
-structured learning
-outside every day
-exposure/socialization with other kids their age
-classroom setting
-won't cancel last minute
-Potential backup for when sitter is sick
Center - Cons
-bringing illness into our homes (how long does this last - we've been sick since we started in Jan)
-potential exposure to bad habits from other kids (DS1 may be starting to exhibits signs of this)
-We aren't as in touch with the kids development because we can't talk to teachers daily, esp for DS1 (we get general daily reports for DS2)
-$$
-DS1 is experiencing separation anxiety and tells us he wants to go to sitters/doesn't like school (although it is clear upon picking him up that he does have fun at the center)
Anyway, today's ? is about daycare...this is long, so I apologize in advance.
DS1 started going to a private sitter when he was 3 mo old. For the first 18 - 21 mo things were great and she only called us 2 times to cancel for last minute illness. Just before DS turned 2 the sitter sprained her ankle very badly. To make a long story short, complications from the sprain led to back problems, migrains, etc. In Nov, while I was on maternity leave with #2 she ended up having surgery to fix her ankle.
After her surgery we decided she could not take care of the kids full time, even with the help she gets from her older kids (17 & 14 and homeschooled). It wasn't fair to her family so we put the kids in daycare at a local center 3x/wk. She/her family still watch them 2x/wk on Monday & Friday. This set up has been in place since January.
DH and I have talked about what will happen when we transistion back to the sitter because the intention from the beginning was that the center was tempory. We expected to go to 2x/wk at the center and 3x/wk with the sitter for a while, then go back to full time with the sitter.
Yesterday the sitter emailed us and let us know that she is ready to take the kids full time (with help from her family). She is feeling like she's on the upswing, though not totally recovered. But part of her motivation is a) she misses our kids terribly and b) she's hoping to break the germ fest that has been occuring in both our family and her's since the kids started at the center.
DH and I have written a Pro/con list for both the sitter and the center. Given the background and our Pro/Con list, WWYD?
Thanks if you made it this far.
Sitter - Pros
-Kids sick less
-she can be more flexible if we need to be early or late for drop off & pick up
-She occassionally drops off/picks up the kids for us if she is in the area
-Food coordination (DS' have allergies)
-Family environment
-less separation anxiety from DS1 (2.75 yo)
-$$
-sitter homeschools and has a "every moment is a teachable moment" philosophy
-we always know what is going on with our kids developmentally, behaviorally, physically because we get to talk to her daily.
Sitter - Con
-kids are in the car alot because of errands & appts
-Less learning structure
-less time outside
-scheduling can get a little hectic
-if she/family is sick we have to scramble last minute
-there is extra drop off/pick up time because they are further from our house and we chat
Center - Pros
-closer to home, less time with drop off/pick up
-structured learning
-outside every day
-exposure/socialization with other kids their age
-classroom setting
-won't cancel last minute
-Potential backup for when sitter is sick
Center - Cons
-bringing illness into our homes (how long does this last - we've been sick since we started in Jan)
-potential exposure to bad habits from other kids (DS1 may be starting to exhibits signs of this)
-We aren't as in touch with the kids development because we can't talk to teachers daily, esp for DS1 (we get general daily reports for DS2)
-$$
-DS1 is experiencing separation anxiety and tells us he wants to go to sitters/doesn't like school (although it is clear upon picking him up that he does have fun at the center)