wedding gift amount $

[lil_acorn]

What's the going rate nowadays for a cash wedding gift? They are good friends of ours. 12 years ago when we got married it was $100 but I expect it would be higher now?

[infomama]

Good friends? 150-200

[mariza]

Good friends? 150-200

This exactly.

[AnnieW625]

I would still be okay with $100. That is pretty standard in my circle. Maybe $200 max, but personally I don't think there has to be a high dollar value on a wedding gift. :bag

[katydid1971]

I think this is a regional thing. IME the East Coast gives more $$ than the West coast.

[peanut520]

I'd start at $200 and if they are a close friend I usually add a gift from Tiffany's to mark the occasion (picture frame or vase $150-250 additional).

[mom3boys]

I live in the NYC area. As a couple we do $200. Even 8-9 years ago we were giving that, though. I am from NH and friends/family from NH or DH's home state (Missouri) gave less than NYC area friends at our wedding.

It might also be a cultural thing--most of my relatives that did not come to the wedding did not give any gift, and I got only a few cash gifts (mostly got "things"). My friend is Greek and her husband Italian and they got so much cash as wedding gifts they used it as a down payment on a house.

[Giantbear]

in the NYC area, $250 - $350 for a friend, $300-$500 for a close friend. Partly depends on the type of wedding.

[FTMLuc]

We do $200-400 depending on how close of a friend it is.

[lizzywednesday]

in the NYC area, $250 - $350 for a friend, $300-$500 for a close friend. Partly depends on the type of wedding.

:yeahthat:

We've given up to $500 to close friends of DH's and this is in addition to shower gifts for the bride if I was invited to the shower.

In general, we try our best to match what the couple gave us at our wedding if we can afford it. Some of DH's friends gave VERY generously!

[zukeypur]

Wow. Things are much different here in the south. The most I've ever given is $100, and that was a really close friend. We do mostly "things"

[KrisM]

Clearly it depends on where you live! I went to 2 weddings in the past year - a good friend and a cousin. Both times I spent about $75 on a gift.

[wendmatt]

Wow! I feel really cheap! I thought $100 was generous! I think it must surely depend on your circle and your financial means.

[zukeypur]

Wow! I feel really cheap! I thought $100 was generous! I think it must surely depend on your circle and your financial means.

I'm in TX too. Apparently texans are cheap, lol

[lizzywednesday]

Wow! I feel really cheap! I thought $100 was generous! I think it must surely depend on your circle and your financial means.

In my opinion, whatever you can comfortably afford is generous. If that's $100 or $500 or even $50, that's what it is. You shouldn't feel like you're going into debt to help your friends/family celebrate!

Like the check we got from my aunt & uncle, that was all the more precious to me because I knew they gave what they could afford. (My aunt & my cousins also baked & packaged cookies for favors at my shower and made a potholder that I still use today! It didn't matter that they didn't/couldn't spend a lot on gifts for me/us. What actually mattered was they made the time to come and celebrate with us.)

I don't think you're cheap. You're just from a different circle with different expectations.

[peanut520]

In my opinion, whatever you can comfortably afford is generous. If that's $100 or $500 or even $50, that's what it is. You shouldn't feel like you're going into debt to help your friends/family celebrate!



Totally agree! I had people at my wedding that were not able to give a monetary gift (to cover the cost of the "plate" as some people go by) but they framed my wedding invite that still hangs on my wall today. I think people forget it is about the celebration.

[llama8]

On Long Island, New York anything under $250 for a couple is cheap. It is amazing that other areas are more reasonable. We dread wedding season.

[vludmilla]

On Long Island, New York anything under $250 for a couple is cheap. It is amazing that other areas are more reasonable. We dread wedding season.

I'm in Westchester and it does seem that the new minimum is $250 in a lot of circles around here. We just gave $250 to my cousin for her wedding and I know that my mom gave $500. I had heard that the wedding was $165 per person and a lot of people around here do subscribe to the notion of "covering the plate cost". I do think, however, that people need to not worry so much about what they are "supposed" to give and just do what feels right to them and is affordable.

[bisous]

Hmm. Depends on the circle I think. $25 is still perfectly fine in my circle. I live in a fairly affluent area but a lot of my friends are members of my church (we're Mormon) and we go to a TON of weddings and buy lots of "stuff" or cash donations along the order of $25. 11 years ago when I got married DH's uncle gave us $75 and we were STUNNED! :)

[Jai]

Wow. Things are much different here in the south. The most I've ever given is $100, and that was a really close friend. We do mostly "things"

:yeahthat:

[daphne]

We'd probably give $200-250 (in MA).

[TxCat]

For good friends, probably $200 range; best friends $300-400. I'm in Texas.