pinkmomagain
06-08-2012, 07:12 PM
My mom is having a rough time with my dad. He is 10 years older than her. He is in his early 80s. He is lucky to be in pretty fine health but there are a couple of outstanding issues: mobility & difficult personality.
He is having a hard time getting around. He complains about his knees and dizziness. They've been to lots of drs and he basically refuses to do PT (which did help, but now he denies it) and refuses knee surgery. He can very slowly get around with a walker and will only agree to sit in a wheelchair to go to drs appts. He always has had what appears to be some OCD/anxiety & depression...although he denies both and was never formally dx'd with either. Of course, these have gotten more pronounced with age....and makes my mom crazy.
My poor mom is stuck in the house caring for him and their elderly dog. She does get out to the stores sometimes but she is clearly frustrated/burning out. I've offered to stay with dad if she wants to get and feels bad leaving him, but so far she hasn't taken me up on it. And she's not exactly a social butterfly but her world just keeps getting smaller and smaller.
I was thinking that maybe some type of mental health professional (social worker?) or support group might be helpful for her. But I don't know exactly how to find those resources. Any suggestions of where/how to look for this?
He is having a hard time getting around. He complains about his knees and dizziness. They've been to lots of drs and he basically refuses to do PT (which did help, but now he denies it) and refuses knee surgery. He can very slowly get around with a walker and will only agree to sit in a wheelchair to go to drs appts. He always has had what appears to be some OCD/anxiety & depression...although he denies both and was never formally dx'd with either. Of course, these have gotten more pronounced with age....and makes my mom crazy.
My poor mom is stuck in the house caring for him and their elderly dog. She does get out to the stores sometimes but she is clearly frustrated/burning out. I've offered to stay with dad if she wants to get and feels bad leaving him, but so far she hasn't taken me up on it. And she's not exactly a social butterfly but her world just keeps getting smaller and smaller.
I was thinking that maybe some type of mental health professional (social worker?) or support group might be helpful for her. But I don't know exactly how to find those resources. Any suggestions of where/how to look for this?