Seitvonzu
06-19-2012, 09:15 AM
Grrrrrrrrrrr!
we are leaving soon on a road trip to my parents for a family reunion. it's a 15-17 hour trip in the car, and when we get home my inlaws are coming for their semi-annual trip 2 days later. then when the leave, more inlaws are coming. then dh's family has a reunion. then he's got a work trip. then we have my family coming for another event (that will require even more travelling)
in between all this (and during some of it) i was supposed to be taking a trip by myself. some things changed...so that is NOT happening. so i get to "enjoy" all this lovely family time w/o pause. (IL visits are stressful to me under the best of circumstances...)
so all weekend it was nagging at me that i really should have the car we are taking (our newer car that has never had a mileage maintenance appt) checked before we leave. last night i made an appt to drop the car this morning, which means DH would have to take off a couple hours this morning so he could drive DD and I home after i dropped off the car.
everytime we have a trip, something UBER important seems to be happening at his work...it does not matter that his job is low-stress, low-pressure (gov). for some reason...EVERYTIME we have a trip --something pops up. there is a long history of this and it really drives me bonkers. so over the weekend i said "i know you can't take off wed, but on tuesday, if i need you to come home early, you could? do you have anything ANY day besides wed this week?"
dh says "no. i could do that."
fast forward to today. after the car drop-off i mention maybe coming home a couple hours early? he's all "i have lots of work... i don't know, i don't think so. i can't make any guarantees."
meanwhile for this trip, i had/have to:
arrange all DD's entertainment for 17 hours
arrange personal entertainment for when not driving/entertaining DD
do all the laundry
pack DD and myself
pack/organize things for family reunion
shop, organize & pack snacks
clean out the refrigerator
make sure the bills are paid
clean the house (so it's not a pit when we get home and have 2 days before all his relations descend)
make car appt. and deal with car needs
wash/vacuum/clean car (which was seriously looking like a VERY DIRTY gypsy caravan)
plus all the stuff over the weekend to make DH's father's day nice (Daddy pictures printed/framed, made him donuts/special meal, washed his POS car....)
i'm just feeling super annoyed. there are a few other issues going on (like DHs recent declaration that, even though he's done the household laundry for years...he is no longer going to do MINE, even if he's doing a bunch of loads anyway...*sigh*) i'm not sure how we're going to get out the door on thursday morning without me loosing my marbles....
we are leaving soon on a road trip to my parents for a family reunion. it's a 15-17 hour trip in the car, and when we get home my inlaws are coming for their semi-annual trip 2 days later. then when the leave, more inlaws are coming. then dh's family has a reunion. then he's got a work trip. then we have my family coming for another event (that will require even more travelling)
in between all this (and during some of it) i was supposed to be taking a trip by myself. some things changed...so that is NOT happening. so i get to "enjoy" all this lovely family time w/o pause. (IL visits are stressful to me under the best of circumstances...)
so all weekend it was nagging at me that i really should have the car we are taking (our newer car that has never had a mileage maintenance appt) checked before we leave. last night i made an appt to drop the car this morning, which means DH would have to take off a couple hours this morning so he could drive DD and I home after i dropped off the car.
everytime we have a trip, something UBER important seems to be happening at his work...it does not matter that his job is low-stress, low-pressure (gov). for some reason...EVERYTIME we have a trip --something pops up. there is a long history of this and it really drives me bonkers. so over the weekend i said "i know you can't take off wed, but on tuesday, if i need you to come home early, you could? do you have anything ANY day besides wed this week?"
dh says "no. i could do that."
fast forward to today. after the car drop-off i mention maybe coming home a couple hours early? he's all "i have lots of work... i don't know, i don't think so. i can't make any guarantees."
meanwhile for this trip, i had/have to:
arrange all DD's entertainment for 17 hours
arrange personal entertainment for when not driving/entertaining DD
do all the laundry
pack DD and myself
pack/organize things for family reunion
shop, organize & pack snacks
clean out the refrigerator
make sure the bills are paid
clean the house (so it's not a pit when we get home and have 2 days before all his relations descend)
make car appt. and deal with car needs
wash/vacuum/clean car (which was seriously looking like a VERY DIRTY gypsy caravan)
plus all the stuff over the weekend to make DH's father's day nice (Daddy pictures printed/framed, made him donuts/special meal, washed his POS car....)
i'm just feeling super annoyed. there are a few other issues going on (like DHs recent declaration that, even though he's done the household laundry for years...he is no longer going to do MINE, even if he's doing a bunch of loads anyway...*sigh*) i'm not sure how we're going to get out the door on thursday morning without me loosing my marbles....