Liziz
07-23-2012, 11:21 PM
This is probably a silly question, but for some reason I get so paranoid about "messing up" with this issue....
For the past two weeks, my just-turned-5 month old's going-to-bed sleep has become a disaster. I've been nursing/rocking to put her to bed. She'd usually finish nursing, then wake up when I unlatched her (b/c I never had the patient to wait for her to do it herself, that child can hang on for ages!). I'd put her in her crib drowsy but awake, and she'd be fine and go to sleep. Well, about two weeks ago instead of being fine and going to sleep, she started to WAIL when placed in her crib. So then, I started to try to make sure she was fully asleep before putting her down...letting her unlatch herself, rocking awhile longer...didn't matter. The second her body touched that mattress, she was wide awake and wailing. It was taking hours of my time or DH's time trying to rock and soothe her to sleep. (We'd keep picking her back up, trying the swing, etc).
I haven't read much about Ferber b/c I never thought I could handle CIO, but tonight when her back touched the crib and her eyes shot open, I was feeling desperate. I think I did a modified version...I soothed her w/o picking her up till she calmed down, then left the room. When she started crying, I waiting 3 minutes before going in, then only stayed for 3 minutes. We did the 3 minute game for 1.5 hours (not continuously...sometimes she'd stay quiet for 5 or 10 minutes before starting to cry again) and I think she's out, now. Overall I felt like it was fairly successful w/o too much undue trauma for either DD or me.
Anyways, here's my question/concern...after getting her down tonight, I did a little more reading on Ferber, and everywhere it says the goal of it is to get your child to sleep through the night. Well, I honestly don't want DD to sleep through the night yet....she only gets up once a night right now, and I WOH and struggle to keep my milk supply up....I feel like that nighttime session is important. So, now I'm worried that by trying to "Ferberize" for bedtime, I'll teach her to STTN and it will mess up my supply! Anyways....is this a valid concern (and if so, any suggestions on what I should do to make bedtime better?), or am I crazy? Thank you!!!
For the past two weeks, my just-turned-5 month old's going-to-bed sleep has become a disaster. I've been nursing/rocking to put her to bed. She'd usually finish nursing, then wake up when I unlatched her (b/c I never had the patient to wait for her to do it herself, that child can hang on for ages!). I'd put her in her crib drowsy but awake, and she'd be fine and go to sleep. Well, about two weeks ago instead of being fine and going to sleep, she started to WAIL when placed in her crib. So then, I started to try to make sure she was fully asleep before putting her down...letting her unlatch herself, rocking awhile longer...didn't matter. The second her body touched that mattress, she was wide awake and wailing. It was taking hours of my time or DH's time trying to rock and soothe her to sleep. (We'd keep picking her back up, trying the swing, etc).
I haven't read much about Ferber b/c I never thought I could handle CIO, but tonight when her back touched the crib and her eyes shot open, I was feeling desperate. I think I did a modified version...I soothed her w/o picking her up till she calmed down, then left the room. When she started crying, I waiting 3 minutes before going in, then only stayed for 3 minutes. We did the 3 minute game for 1.5 hours (not continuously...sometimes she'd stay quiet for 5 or 10 minutes before starting to cry again) and I think she's out, now. Overall I felt like it was fairly successful w/o too much undue trauma for either DD or me.
Anyways, here's my question/concern...after getting her down tonight, I did a little more reading on Ferber, and everywhere it says the goal of it is to get your child to sleep through the night. Well, I honestly don't want DD to sleep through the night yet....she only gets up once a night right now, and I WOH and struggle to keep my milk supply up....I feel like that nighttime session is important. So, now I'm worried that by trying to "Ferberize" for bedtime, I'll teach her to STTN and it will mess up my supply! Anyways....is this a valid concern (and if so, any suggestions on what I should do to make bedtime better?), or am I crazy? Thank you!!!