Personal update - update to the update in post #63 :(

[Giantbear]

Well, the last two months .... to quote the late great Gerry Garcia, what a long strange trip it has been. Things got terrible, both between us, between her and dd and with my wife individually, to the point her therapist was recommending drastic action. At her last dr appointment, when all he recommended was layering another drug, i told my wife we needed to get a second opinion, because his approach was not working. My gut told me she was being over medicated and that the base medication, effexor, was just not working even at its maximum dosage.

Fast forward .... the new dr, after spending a few hours learning my wife, decided that she was over medicated and that the effexor was was not working and started to substitute cymbalta while cutting out everything else.

There is a long road ahead, but the new drug has made a world of difference. My wife is happy, interacting with dd regularly and no longer struggling to make it through each day. She still can't handle tantrums or crying spells, but it is early in the process, and now that she is on the right medication track, we can work on those other areas.

Thanks all for your support, and keep your fingers crossed for continued progress.

Oh, and today is our thrid anniversary (and yes the math works out with dd conception :thumbsup:)

[BabyBearsMom]

:bighand: Glad to hear the positive update. I hope things continue to get better.

[Melaine]

I'm so glad to hear that things are looking up for your family! Happy Anniversary, I hope you can enjoy it!

[elektra]

Great update Giantbear. Hope things continue to look up!

[tabegle]

I'm really happy to read this. My continued support to you and your family (though I'm mostly non-verbal/non-posting).

[twowhat?]

Oh, wow...I was nervous when I clicked on the title but I am so glad things are looking up. I'm so impressed with your ability to advocate for your wife and make sure you've tried everything. You deserve the best!

[ourbabygirl]

:yeahthat:
So glad you have good news to report; glad the new doctor helped!
Happy Anniversary to the two of you! :cheerleader1:

[Globetrotter]

:cheerleader1: I am thrilled to read this update.

[jerigirl]

So glad to see a positive update! Continued positive thoughts for your family! You are an amazing husband and father!

[Tondi G]

Great update Giantbear. Thrilled to hear that things are improving and hope things continue to look up! So glad you took her for a second opinion! Happy Anniversary!

[BDKmom]

What a great update. Wishing you a wonderful anniversary. May things continue to improve and God bless you for hanging in there!

[pinkmomagain]

Happy Anniversary! Hope this is the start of only good things ahead!

[MMMommy]

Happy anniversary, and wishing only positive outcomes for you!

[marymoo86]

Great update and Happy Anniversary - may things continue to get better for you and your family!!

[JustMe]

So glad to hear the positive update. The right dr and right meds makes a huge difference. PTs that things continue to go in this positive direction.

[TwinFoxes]

Glad to read this update, and have a wonderful anniversary!

[StantonHyde]

That is a great update. The right meds/combo really makes such a huge difference. Glad you are seeing a doctor who seems to get your wife and her needs. I am sure she is happier in her present state as well.

[smiles33]

Happy Anniversary! What wonderful news to hear that you found a better path for DW. It's so hard knowing how much to just blindly trust the doctors, so I'm glad you went with your gut and found someone new. Here's to hoping the next 3 years of your marriage are MUCH easier!

[ett]

I'm so happy to hear the great update. Happy Anniversary!

[AnnieW625]

YAY! thanks for the update. I had a feeling that things must be getting better if she likes watching your DW put make up on. It is the simple things like that make life worth living.

I am not calm and cool when my children are having their tantrums at all and while I am not on meds and have never had PPD I know just how hard it is to keep cool under stressful times at all.

Best wishes to you all and I hope that more positive change is on it's way.

Happy anniversary, DD2 was conceived 3 yrs. ago this week as well.

[janine]

Happy to hear the update and I hope this positive turn is longlasting. Happy Anniversary!!

[Melbel]

What a great update. You were wise to follow your gut instinct and have been a great advocate for your wife. Congratulations on your third anniversary and wishing you many happy days to come.

[larig]

happy anniversary! I know you've been such a caring and supportive father and husband, so I desperately hope that this med change is the answer you all need. Thinking good thoughts for you all (and sending hugs too).

[wendibird22]

Great update! Kudos to you for hanging in there and being your wife's best advocate. She is lucky to have you as a partner.

[123LuckyMom]

That's great!!! I hope things only get better and better!

[kdeunc]

Nice update! Happy Anniversary. Hope your wife continues to improve.

[Momit]

Great update and Happy Anniversary!

[MamaSnoo]

I am so glad to see your positive update! I have to admit, I was feeling nervous for you when I saw the thread (before I opened it). I really hope things continue to look up for your family!

[citymama]

Great update, GB, and happy third anniversary! I really hope things work out for you and your DW, and that she's able to be a healthy mama to your DD and a partner to you.

[trcy]

Glad to hear the positive update, hope things continue to improve. Happy Anniversary! :yay:

[hillview]

What a great update. You were wise to follow your gut instinct and have been a great advocate for your wife. Congratulations on your third anniversary and wishing you many happy days to come.

:yeahthat:

[theriviera]

I am so happy to read this update!!!! Great news and happy anniversary.

[wendmatt]

That is wonderful news, I'm so glad things are improving.

[babyonway]

Great update GB thank u for sharing we are all here for u!!! Happy anniversary!


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[liz]

I am really happy to read your update. Wishing you all the best.

[rolypoly27]

Thanks for sharing and happy anniversary! Your wife and DD are lucky to have you.

[boogiemomz]

Wonderful news!! She is a lucky lady to have such a patient and committed hubby. I hope things continue to look up! :bighand:

[maestramommy]

Great news!:bighand:

Will continue to keep you all in my thoughts.

[sidmand]

Thank you for the update and so wonderful to read it's a happy one. I hope this is just the beginning to a very wonderful time. Happy anniversary.

[crl]

Congratulations on your anniversary! Glad to hear this are looking up.

Catherine

[DietCokeLover]

Thanks for the update! I hope things continue in a positive direction for your family.

[urquie]

Yay, such happy news!!

[misshollygolightly]

That's AWESOME, GB! Thank you for being your wife's advocate. Cheers to you on your anniversary, and best wishes for her continued improvement and for the continued growth of your marriage!

[Seitvonzu]

hiphiphooray! awesome update :) i too thought things might be looking up when i read about your daughter watching DW putting on make-up. that's so cute :)

happy anniversary!

[MamaMolly]

Great update, GB! I hope this is the start of something really wonderful for your family.

[sunshine873]

Happy Anniversary! I continue to be in awe of your devotion to your family. You have been a wonderful advocate both for your DD and DW. Although you said there is more work ahead, here's hoping the coming years see even more positive days!

[happymom]

I am so glad to see a positive update. It sounds like you may finally be seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. That is such great news for your family. Happy Anniversary :).

[MamaKath]

Glad to hear things are going well! Happy anniversary as well!!!

[SkyrMommy]

Happy anniversary & many wishes that things keep improving every day!

[hellbennt]

That's AWESOME, GB! Thank you for being your wife's advocate. Cheers to you on your anniversary, and best wishes for her continued improvement and for the continued growth of your marriage!
:yeahthat:
and...to finish the song...
"Truckin, Im a goin home. whoa whoa baby, back where I belong,
Back home, sit down and patch my bones, and get back truckin on.
Hey now get back truckin home."

[maylips]

That is so great. I hope it continues to improve and you guys celebrate many more happy anniversaries!

[mmommy]

Awesome update. Your family deserves a long string of happy days :applause:

[soon2b4]

So very happy for you! You are often in my thoughts. I hope things continue to improve!

[marie]

what great, encouraging news!

[Liziz]

Oh, what a great update! Good for you for recognizing something wasn't right with the situation and suggesting a change. I'm so happy for your family!

[mackmama]

Fantastic update. I think it's great that you all decided to try a new provider and that this new provider is listening. I hope the change of medications continues to go smoothly. Thank you for sharing.

[Giantbear]

thanks all

[TxCat]

Wonderful update!!! :bighand: I've been thinking about you a lot since your update 4-6 weeks ago that the upcoming months would be crucial in finding a way forward for your family. I'm so, so happy to hear that the new therapy is an improvement for your wife and that things are looking up. I'll keep my fingers crossed for further improvement in the weeks ahead.

Happy anniversary too!

[DrSally]

Wow, great update!M

[MontrealMum]

What a great update! :bighand:

[doberbrat]

Awsome!! add me to the group of Nervous Nellies that were afraid to open this post but I'm thrilled to hear the update.

[lizzywednesday]

Great news, Giantbear!

Sounds like the new docs are on the right track for your DW; I hope they stay on a good course. =)

[Giantbear]

Update:

Guess i jinxed it, this week was horrid, last week of her cycle, which is always tough and dd getting sick for the second week out of 2 sent her into a tail spin. Had to take 3 days off from work again (did the same two weeks ago), my wife is off for the summer, and she basically abdicated all duties to me. Sigh..... DD is better, she gets 3 day fevers with mouth sores (not cox) but gets real clingy to me when sick, so she is back to ignoring my wife and my wife is back to telling me she should never have been a parent. And this weekend we get her sister, who is one of the most self absorbed people i know, staying with us for a night.

[stinkyfeet]

I am so sorry you are having a bad week:hug:

I just really want you to know that your wife and daughter are very lucky to have you be the rock in their lives.

[MamaMolly]

And this weekend we get her sister, who is one of the most self absorbed people i know, staying with us for a night.

Oh GB, I'm so sorry! :( Can SIL go to a hotel? I would think a visitor is the last thing you guys need. Perhaps you can say that you don't know if DD will be contagious, (after all, that is true! ;)) so to be safe you'll put SIL in XYZ hotel.

[DietCokeLover]

Oh GB, I'm so sorry! :( Can SIL go to a hotel? I would think a visitor is the last thing you guys need. Perhaps you can say that you don't know if DD will be contagious, (after all, that is true! ;)) so to be safe you'll put SIL in XYZ hotel.

Hmm, or maybe offer to give DW and SIL a girl's getaway to a hotel for a night. Give everyone a break.

So sorry this is happening for you.

[Giantbear]

Hmm, or maybe offer to give DW and SIL a girl's getaway to a hotel for a night. Give everyone a break.

So sorry this is happening for you.they don't get along and i won't pay for sil to stay at a hotel, she is areal cheapskate as is. More of a pain to me than anyone else.

[Clarity]

I was so excited to see your update and so sad to see your most recent post. :( I have terrible, terrible cycles too so I can sympathize with her about that. My o.b. put me on estrogen creams for a while to help manage the drops in hormones, just mentioning....

I'm hoping and hoping that things continue to get better for the 3 of you. BBB Mojo on it's way!

[chottumommy]

Hoping there are fewer and fewer of days like these and more of the positive days.

[AnnieW625]

Oh no, so sorry. Good luck, and keep smiling. Your DD makes it all worth it.

[TxCat]

:(

I'm so sorry about this most recent update. I agree with one of the PP, you are certainly the rock in your wife's and your DD's lives.

The SIL visit is challenging - no way to tell her not to come now, is there?

I don't have any other great ideas, but just wanted to say that I think you are great for always being so positive despite having some major stressors to deal with. I hope more good days follow.

[JTsMom]

:hug: I'm so sorry this week is so crummy. Sending good thoughts for a much better upcoming one.

[sunnyside]

Great update! Happy anniversary!

[NCGrandma]

Hope you can all get through this weekend (or that SIL cancels at the last minute...). Joining in the chorus of PTs for you.

[Seitvonzu]

ugh-- it is hard when you finally are seeing a light, to have dark stuff come in and snuff out the good. try to focus on the positive direction and maybe this will just be a hiccup?

out of town guests throw our house into a tizzy, even under the best circumstances.even if you don't want to swing the hotel thing (i wouldn't) maybe SIL and wife can just get out of the house a bit anyhow.... ? (movie (no talking ;)) , dinner, drinks?, window shopping?)

[oneplustwo]

I am so sorry to see your latest update. I hope this is just a "two steps forward, one step back" moment, and that there are more steps forward soon.

:hug:

I'm a wee bit curious ~ if DW and her sis don't get along, what's the reason for the visit?

[joonbug]

I'm so sorry to read not so great update... I truly hope it's just a temporary setback. Two steps forward, one step back? As someone who dealt with a terrible PPD for the most of DDs first year of life, I can only send hugs.

[hopeful_mama]

Hoping there are fewer and fewer of days like these and more of the positive days.

:yeahthat: Just saw this thread - there are always setbacks on the road of progress; lots of PTs that this is all it is. Maybe your wife was stressed about SIL's visit too, and it was just one thing too many. :hug: and best wishes. [And good for you for pushing to get her to another dr!]