edurnemk
09-13-2012, 07:27 PM
DS is 4.5 yo, he's been night time PTd for about 9 months now. He has the occasional accident, but he's usually very good about getting up to go potty if he needs to. However since DD was born he's had a few regressions, which was expected, yet the night time accidents are driving me nuts. Some nights he gets up to go potty (he asks me to go with him to the bathroom, he used to go alone) several times. But lately he's been having a LOT of accidents. Last night he wet the bed TWICE! Between him waking me up and nursing DD 2-3 times a night, I'm exhausted! I've limited fluids from 6 pm on, and I don't let him drink anything after bedtime anymore, yet he still wets his bed almost every night. He also comes to our room in the middle of the night for a myriad of other reasons (he's thirsty, he's cold, he's scared, he can't sleep).
DH thinks he's just trying to draw attention, and we should punish him / take privileges away. I completely disagree as I feel this could backfire and he's just having a hard time adjusting and night time has been especially hard for him, since he knows DD is in my room and she gets attention at night. I also think he's overtired since he started school again and he's not sleeping well, and maybe that's why he's not waking up to go potty (I've moved up his bedtime half an hour in response to this).
The one idea we agree on is that maybe I should no longer help him change if he wets himself, that we should tell him that if he wets the bed he needs to change into clean PJ's and lay a towel on his bed, and not wake me up. Do you think this would work or would it make things worse?
Any other ideas on how to handle it? Honestly last night I was tempted to just put a diaper or pull-up on him, it's a step backward, but I'm so tired!
DH thinks he's just trying to draw attention, and we should punish him / take privileges away. I completely disagree as I feel this could backfire and he's just having a hard time adjusting and night time has been especially hard for him, since he knows DD is in my room and she gets attention at night. I also think he's overtired since he started school again and he's not sleeping well, and maybe that's why he's not waking up to go potty (I've moved up his bedtime half an hour in response to this).
The one idea we agree on is that maybe I should no longer help him change if he wets himself, that we should tell him that if he wets the bed he needs to change into clean PJ's and lay a towel on his bed, and not wake me up. Do you think this would work or would it make things worse?
Any other ideas on how to handle it? Honestly last night I was tempted to just put a diaper or pull-up on him, it's a step backward, but I'm so tired!