2nd miscarriage in a row

[TxCat]

I'm just sad. Intellectually, I know that the miscarriage means these pregnancies weren't meant to be, especially as an older mom. But you start letting yourself get excited... and then it's just the lowest low.

To make it harder, it's one of those times when it feels like everyone around me is pregnant - work friends/colleagues, regular friends, etc. And, my work itself makes it even more awful. I spend a good chunk of time working on Labor & Delivery, including yesterday for 24 hours - I discovered I was miscarrying right before starting a c-section at 6 am this morning. I love my work, but today it was just an excruciating form of torture. And it's more of the same tomorrow.

This combined with a bunch of work and professional stressors going on... I'm ready for some good news to come my way.

[TwinFoxes]

:hug: I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had words to help.

[mommylamb]

Oh no. I am so sorry.

[Roleysmom]

I'm so, so sorry.

[123LuckyMom]

I'm so very sorry for both your losses.

[crl]

I am so sorry for your loss. :hug:

Catherine

[kaharris83]

So very sorry for your loss. Two in a row is very hard. I've been there. :hug:

[scrooks]

I am so sorry for your loss. I totally get it. I have been there too....:grouphug:

[twowhat?]

I am so sorry:(

[MamaKath]

I am so sorry to hear of your losses. I know no words can make it better right now, but am sending p&pts your way. :(

[mmommy]

PTs :grouphug:

[arivecchi]

I'm really sorry. :(

Sorry things are so incredibly hard right now. I hope many many positive things will come your way soon.

[DrSally]

I'm so sorry.

[pinay]

I'm so sorry :(

[TwoBees]

I'm so sorry.

[rin]

I'm so, so sorry. I've been there too . . . it's awful, and there ain't much else to be said. :grouphug: and here's hoping that at least it's over quickly.

[niccig]

:hug: I'm so sorry.

[elektra]

I am so sorry. :grouphug:

[toby]

I am feeling so much empathy for you. I, also, had two miscarriages and it seemed as though EVERYONE around me was pregnant.

It sounds especially difficult with the type of work that you do. You may just need to let yourself feel sad and not try to talk yourself out of it. You are grieving and you need to let yourself do that (tricky, I know, when you have to put on your "game face" for work).

Also, I barely told anyone after I had the miscarriages, but years later when I shared, I was amazed at the number of people who had similar experiences.

Can you plan some nice things for yourself- a massage, a pedicure, some extra chocolate if you like it?

Sending you a big hug...I will be thinking of you.

[oneplustwo]

:grouphug: Let yourself grieve, and take care of yourself. I can only imagine how your line of work makes these losses so much more difficult to go through. :hug:

[malphy]

I am so sorry to hear about your losses. It is never easy.

[ourbabygirl]

I'm so, so sorry for your losses. :hug: I hope you have lots of friends and family (IRL) to give you some real hugs and shoulders to lean on.
You'll definitely be in our thoughts and prayers here...

[sste]

Aw txcat, try to be gentle with yourself. Can you get some space from L&D? Cover some other area for a couple of days?

And stay strong! Conception and pregnancy in your mid-late thirties and beyond is not for the faint of heart. I was at a party a few weeks ago with a breast surgeon who found out her baby has DS . . . the odds of which are pretty high of course after you complete fifteen years of training and research fellowships so that you can help women stricken with breast cancer. It just seems so unfair!! I am in another field but at conferences I trade stories with other mom colleagues and the lot of us could keep a MFM busy all year.

[Mopey]

I'm so, so sorry. I hope you can try to switch from L&D for a while. :hug:

[tmahanes]

Hugs! I an so sorry.

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[waitingforgrace]

I'm sorry, I hope you find peace and healing.

[MamaMolly]

Oh no! I'm so very sorry. :grouphug:

[HannaAddict]

I'm very sorry.

[Melbel]

I am so sorry for your loss. I remember bailing on a baby shower that took place a couple days after I miscarried. I hope that you will be able to take some personal time to grieve.

[Liziz]

My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry.

[specialp]

BTDT many times over and it is horrible, but I never had to add working in L&D on top of it. I cannot imagine. You are an incredibly strong person to make it through that. May you find peace and hope in the coming days and may your next try be a success. ((Hugs)).

[baymom]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. :hug:

[♥ms.pacman♥]

I am so sorry. :hug: Sending lots of P&PT.

[AngB]

I'm so sorry for your losses.

Not exactly the same, but after we lost dd from prematurity, I changed teaching jobs and managed to end up working with another teacher who was pregnant and due a few weeks before my due date (and who whined NONSTOP about being pregnant) and a 16 y.o. student who was pregnant and due around the same time as I had been. (Delivered at the end of Sept., was due in mid-January, went back to teaching in December.) It was miserable. Hang in there.

:grouphug:

[wendmatt]

So sorry for your loss. Hugs to you

[infomama]

Sending you a huge hug.
I'm so sorry for your losses.

[SnuggleBuggles]

I'm so sorry. What a hard position to be in.

[katydid1971]

So sorry for your loss :hug:

[KpbS]

So sorry to hear. Lots of P+PT headed your way. :hug:

[speo]

Lots of PTs! I am so sorry for your losses. :hug:

[Rarick0]

I am so sorry for your losses. Sending many P&PT.

[hopeful_mama]

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Lots of PTs and wishes for comfort. :hug:

[DietCokeLover]

I am so very sorry.

[echoesofspring]

So very soory, lots of :hug:

[babyonway]

I am so sorry for your losses. Many many hugs.


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[american_mama]

I can't predict what good news will come in your life, but I can say that you are a sensitive person and a beautiful writer. I am so sorry for your disappointment and added layer of working in L&D. I hope the third time is the charm for you.

[Puddy73]

I'm so sorry. It really sucks to be a member of that club.

[rolypoly27]

I am so sorry :(

[mommyp]

I'm so sorry :hug:

[boilermakermom]

I am so sorry for your loss!! Hugs!

[jerseygirl07067]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.

[Tondi G]

Oh Mama, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Two in a row is very hard. I've been there.

Is there any way you can get away from L&D for a little while? I can see how it would be torturous to have to work in the dept. when you are in the middle of a m/c.

((((HUGS))))

[brgnmom]

I'm very sorry that you are going through this. :hug: :hug: You are overdue for a vacation and time to heal. I hope that you receive some positive news soon. :hug:

[deborah_r]

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

[goldenpig]

I'm so so sorry for both of your losses. And sorry that your work is making it even tougher for you, having to be around pregnant women and babies all of the time. Hope you can take the time and space you need to grieve. And PT for another little one in your arms very very soon. :grouphug:

[MontrealMum]

:hug: I am so sorry.

[karstmama]

oh, hon, i'm sorry.

[liz]

I am so sorry for your loss :hug::hug:

[llama8]

I am so sorry. I had a loss and I can't imagine going to work in L & D right after. I wish you luck and maybe work can transfer you temporarily or you can take a small leave. Sending positive thoughts.

[brittone2]

I'm so sorry. When I went through IF I was working in EI, and it was emotionally taxing at times, particularly when dealing with a small subset of families who didn't seem to value their children all that much :(

[hellokitty]

:hug: I'm so sorry about your loss. I've had several m/c's and I still vividly remember how upsetting it was.

[joonbug]

I'm so sorry.... sending prayers your way.

[boogiemomz]

Oh dear, I'm so sorry. :hug::hug::hug:

[ett]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[wendibird22]

Oh Txcat, I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

[jjordan]

That stinks. I'm really sorry.

[MommyofAmaya]

:hug: Is there any way you can take a few days off to comfort yourself?

[peanut520]

I am sorry for your loss.

[KDsMommy]

Oh I'm so so sorry to hear of your losses.

[Binkandabee]

I am so sorry.

[AJP]

I'm sorry for your loss. :grouphug:

[theriviera]

I am so, so sorry for your losses :grouphug: I too have been there and it sucks.

Sending you lots of PT that your next pregnancy happens quickly and is super sticky.

[ijopint]

i am sorry. I had one and it is heartbreaking. hoping for the fast recovery and focus on the positive side.

[carolinamama]

:hug:

I am so, so sorry for your loss. M/Cs just plain suck.

[trcy]

I am so sorry :hug:

[lovin2shop]

I'm so sorry, I also suffered through 2, but the third time was the charm. Thinking of you, and hoping for much better news soon.

[zag95]

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.:hug:

[ZeeBaby]

Very sorry for your loss.

[citymama]

I am so sorry, TxCat. Wishing you strength and peace and I hope things look up very soon. Hugs. :grouphug:

[mctlaw]

I am just so, so sorry. How heart wrenching. :hug:

[Momit]

I'm so sorry. P&PT coming your way.

[Kira's Mommy]

I'm so sorry. BTDT. It hurts. :hug:

[strollerqueen]

So sorry. :praying: Remember that time is the great healer. The roughest time is right now, especially when you have all these new babies in your face. Ugh, so hard. Poor thing. {{{Hugs}}}

[TxCat]

Thank you, thank you all for your kind messages - every one meant a lot to me this week. Especially seeing as how I only have one friend locally, IRL, who is not currently expecting - I'm so happy for my pregnant friends, but it's also a reminder of what I have lost right now. I so very much appreciate all of your comments, P&PT, and virtual hugs. It has made me feel less "alone." :)

[lmh2402]

i'm so sorry :hug:

[happymom]

I missed this thread when you posted, but just wanted to say how sorry I am. I have definitely BTDT (recently) and especially relate to the part about everyone around you being pregnant. It is just SO HARD.
:hug: Hope to see happy news posted by you soon! :hug:

[essnce629]

I'm so so sorry for your losses. As a doula, I couldn't imagine having to work with pregnant women and newborns during such a hard time. I hope you can take a few days off to heal and rest. Sending you lots of sticky vibes for the third time around. Have you had your progesterone levels checked before? Low levels make it hard to sustain a pregnancy and I have a friend who had to take progesterone suppositories after a previous miscarriage and was able to carry to term.