hehateme
09-22-2012, 10:17 AM
Hi:
DS1 is 3 years 1 month old. He is 40 inches tall but his upper body is much taller than his legs are short. His legs are 18 inches and upper body 32 inches. He weights 33 lbs.
We have 2 Radian XTSL chairs which can be rear facing until 49 inches and 45 lbs.
In our family I (dad) am the researcher and buy most of the things. I do a lot of research before making decision. I come to these forums and other forums to get answers. My wife does not like research and tends to make quick decisions based on instinct and feelings. This is not a problem with me.
For the past 2 years she has been asking me to turn DS1 into forward facing position. This discussion began when DS1 was only 1 year old. Her reason for asking me to do this are not rational. She has told me that:
It will be nice that DS1 can see what we see,
Our pediatrician told her that DS1 can turn around when he is 1 year old
it will be nice to turn him around and give him stuff when he is forward facing
Other parents are doing it so why can't we do this.
She is a clinical researcher and I have given her the sticky thread here and car-seat.org website. She did not spend any time reading it.
Every month she brings it up and I have to push back. I was on a week long trip and I just got back. Once again she told me to turn DS1 forward facing. This time she told me that his legs don't have enough space. She also told me that DS1 complained to her that his feet and legs are hurting. My son has never told me this before. My guess is that she might be coaching him.
I am at a loss. I know that DS1 will be much safer in rear facing position.
I have evidence to back it up buy my wife does not want to read it.
I am looking for a way to keep DS1 rear facing until next year.
Can other mom's please offer any suggestions? How can I communicate better?
Thanks
DS1 is 3 years 1 month old. He is 40 inches tall but his upper body is much taller than his legs are short. His legs are 18 inches and upper body 32 inches. He weights 33 lbs.
We have 2 Radian XTSL chairs which can be rear facing until 49 inches and 45 lbs.
In our family I (dad) am the researcher and buy most of the things. I do a lot of research before making decision. I come to these forums and other forums to get answers. My wife does not like research and tends to make quick decisions based on instinct and feelings. This is not a problem with me.
For the past 2 years she has been asking me to turn DS1 into forward facing position. This discussion began when DS1 was only 1 year old. Her reason for asking me to do this are not rational. She has told me that:
It will be nice that DS1 can see what we see,
Our pediatrician told her that DS1 can turn around when he is 1 year old
it will be nice to turn him around and give him stuff when he is forward facing
Other parents are doing it so why can't we do this.
She is a clinical researcher and I have given her the sticky thread here and car-seat.org website. She did not spend any time reading it.
Every month she brings it up and I have to push back. I was on a week long trip and I just got back. Once again she told me to turn DS1 forward facing. This time she told me that his legs don't have enough space. She also told me that DS1 complained to her that his feet and legs are hurting. My son has never told me this before. My guess is that she might be coaching him.
I am at a loss. I know that DS1 will be much safer in rear facing position.
I have evidence to back it up buy my wife does not want to read it.
I am looking for a way to keep DS1 rear facing until next year.
Can other mom's please offer any suggestions? How can I communicate better?
Thanks