cookiemonster80
10-03-2012, 04:14 PM
Because she might be the victim if my first violent crime.:angry-smiley-005:
We are visiting DHs family this week and I am losing my cool- I almost had it out with her just now ( and in the 10 years I've been married have managed to never lose it with her amazingly). She means well and is a wonderful person but many times will choose convenience or the easier choice and sacrifice the kids safety, sleep, or my wishes.
I could rattle off a long list but the straw that almost broke the camels back was this- she wants to take DD1 and DN ( age 2)to the nursing home to see greatgrandparents. That's great except DH just left with Dd2 and our car which has the 2 car seats that fit the bigger kids- she just has an infant carrier and roundabout in her car for SIL's kids.
So she says no problem she'll just put DN in the key fit :banghead: I say I think he's too big for it and she says well let's check- so we put him in and of course his head extends above the top of the seat. I say that his head can't be higher than one inch below the top of the seat- her response- 'is that the law?' I say yes, it is the law to only use carseats in the recommended parameters. She thinks he'll be ok- so now by this point I'm really questioning her judgement when left alone with my DD'S and I want her to know that this would never be ok with my kids so I say ' well I can't make the final call on DN, but I would never allow DD to ride like this'. So she calls SIL to get her approval- which if course she got because SIL is the exact same as MIL and yes they think I'm super paranoid hyper anal bc my kids rear face, I stick to a schedule, and don't give them junk to eat.
So frustrated- its been a solid week of stuff like this and I'm so tired of being the bad guy.
Eta- and I'm also frustrated because after this I don't feel comfortable leaving DD's with her and my mom and I have a lovely tulips and tea tour planned for the spring in the Netherlands that I'll have to cancel now.
We are visiting DHs family this week and I am losing my cool- I almost had it out with her just now ( and in the 10 years I've been married have managed to never lose it with her amazingly). She means well and is a wonderful person but many times will choose convenience or the easier choice and sacrifice the kids safety, sleep, or my wishes.
I could rattle off a long list but the straw that almost broke the camels back was this- she wants to take DD1 and DN ( age 2)to the nursing home to see greatgrandparents. That's great except DH just left with Dd2 and our car which has the 2 car seats that fit the bigger kids- she just has an infant carrier and roundabout in her car for SIL's kids.
So she says no problem she'll just put DN in the key fit :banghead: I say I think he's too big for it and she says well let's check- so we put him in and of course his head extends above the top of the seat. I say that his head can't be higher than one inch below the top of the seat- her response- 'is that the law?' I say yes, it is the law to only use carseats in the recommended parameters. She thinks he'll be ok- so now by this point I'm really questioning her judgement when left alone with my DD'S and I want her to know that this would never be ok with my kids so I say ' well I can't make the final call on DN, but I would never allow DD to ride like this'. So she calls SIL to get her approval- which if course she got because SIL is the exact same as MIL and yes they think I'm super paranoid hyper anal bc my kids rear face, I stick to a schedule, and don't give them junk to eat.
So frustrated- its been a solid week of stuff like this and I'm so tired of being the bad guy.
Eta- and I'm also frustrated because after this I don't feel comfortable leaving DD's with her and my mom and I have a lovely tulips and tea tour planned for the spring in the Netherlands that I'll have to cancel now.