melwe
10-24-2012, 11:24 PM
Just looking for advice. My DD started kindergarten two months ago. Since then, she has had 4 (yes really) pee accidents, and today a poop accident. I don't know what to do. Sorry this gets long.
Just for background, I will start by saying that she was incredibly difficult to PT. She's very bright, but no interest until well after 3, almost 4. She was night trained before day trained. We have had regressions in the past 2 years. I usually try not to make a big deal about it. Right after she turned 4, she had an accident every single day for a month. I started a reward chart, where she got a "big toy" after one month with no accidents. The day we started that, absolutely no accidents for months afterwards. She has isolated incidents here and there since then, some at preschool, some at home.
So since starting kindergarten, her first accident she didn't tell anyone. A kid found a puddle in the class and no one fessed up. Her teacher said for the first time she has been teaching, she had to announce to the class "Okay let's everyone check our bottoms to see if we had an accident.". Second accident was waiting in line for the bathroom (understandable). Third was in the bathroom, just not in time (better). Fourth one was just like the first, although she admitted much sooner. Today she pooped during rest time.
So my mom and I have tried talking with her about different ideas to try to stop this from happening. 1. Empathy- My mom explained that she had an accident in kindergarten because she was too shy to ask her teacher to use the bathroom. 2. Brainstorming - We asked her if she had any ideas that might help. Her suggestion (dead serious) was to start wearing a diaper. 3. Peer pressure - kids might not want to play with her if she keeps doing this. She tells me "I'm not worried. My friends still want to play with me."
I'm sure a lot is transitional, stress, etc. Her teacher says she is doing great otherwise in school, but how do we get her back on track? I've thought about taking away some privileges (dessert or TV) but as DH says if she's not embarrassed at school, is that really going to motivate her? I hate to start a reward chart in kindergarten. I think she's a bit old for that but it worked before.
I've asked her teacher to make sure she uses the potty when the whole class takes a break. Her teacher is great and definitely is not keeping her from using the bathroom. They have one in their class that they can use anytime and she's fine with the kids just getting up to use it without permission. For DD, she said she can even use the hall bathroom without permission.
Any thoughts? Her teacher suggested maybe consulting with the pediatrician? I'm just at a loss for ideas. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
Just for background, I will start by saying that she was incredibly difficult to PT. She's very bright, but no interest until well after 3, almost 4. She was night trained before day trained. We have had regressions in the past 2 years. I usually try not to make a big deal about it. Right after she turned 4, she had an accident every single day for a month. I started a reward chart, where she got a "big toy" after one month with no accidents. The day we started that, absolutely no accidents for months afterwards. She has isolated incidents here and there since then, some at preschool, some at home.
So since starting kindergarten, her first accident she didn't tell anyone. A kid found a puddle in the class and no one fessed up. Her teacher said for the first time she has been teaching, she had to announce to the class "Okay let's everyone check our bottoms to see if we had an accident.". Second accident was waiting in line for the bathroom (understandable). Third was in the bathroom, just not in time (better). Fourth one was just like the first, although she admitted much sooner. Today she pooped during rest time.
So my mom and I have tried talking with her about different ideas to try to stop this from happening. 1. Empathy- My mom explained that she had an accident in kindergarten because she was too shy to ask her teacher to use the bathroom. 2. Brainstorming - We asked her if she had any ideas that might help. Her suggestion (dead serious) was to start wearing a diaper. 3. Peer pressure - kids might not want to play with her if she keeps doing this. She tells me "I'm not worried. My friends still want to play with me."
I'm sure a lot is transitional, stress, etc. Her teacher says she is doing great otherwise in school, but how do we get her back on track? I've thought about taking away some privileges (dessert or TV) but as DH says if she's not embarrassed at school, is that really going to motivate her? I hate to start a reward chart in kindergarten. I think she's a bit old for that but it worked before.
I've asked her teacher to make sure she uses the potty when the whole class takes a break. Her teacher is great and definitely is not keeping her from using the bathroom. They have one in their class that they can use anytime and she's fine with the kids just getting up to use it without permission. For DD, she said she can even use the hall bathroom without permission.
Any thoughts? Her teacher suggested maybe consulting with the pediatrician? I'm just at a loss for ideas. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.