Need some virtual hugs today

[swissair81]

I'm kind of sad and out of sorts. I needed to hurt someone's feelings because they were taking advantage of me. So now I feel like a sucker and a meanie. I'm needing to get out of this hole I'm currently occupying. The response to my (as gentle as I could possibly make it) rejection was fairly harsh. I'm not sure what I was expecting, but it wasn't that.

[BabyBearsMom]

:hug5: I'm so sorry.

[crl]

:hug:

Catherine

[waitingforgrace]

:grouphug:

[mackmama]

Big hugs your way. That's a really tough position to be in. It sounds like you felt some boundaries needed to be set - so just remind yourself that doesn't make you 'mean.' People respond to rejection in their own way - and often anger toward the other person can make it hurt less. In situations like these I try to remind myself that I can only control my actions, not other people's reactions.

[TwinFoxes]

Big hugs your way. That's a really tough position to be in. It sounds like you felt some boundaries needed to be set - so just remind yourself that doesn't make you 'mean.' People respond to rejection in their own way - and often anger toward the other person can make it hurt less. In situations like these I try to remind myself that I can only control my actions, not other people's reactions.

:yeahthat: :grouphug:

[Snow mom]

Big hugs your way. That's a really tough position to be in. It sounds like you felt some boundaries needed to be set - so just remind yourself that doesn't make you 'mean.' People respond to rejection in their own way - and often anger toward the other person can make it hurt less. In situations like these I try to remind myself that I can only control my actions, not other people's reactions.

:yeahthat: Great advice. Hugs to you, OP.

[Roni]

Hugs! Hang in there! It sounds like you did what had to be done.

[KDsMommy]

:grouphug:

[bisous]

Hugs! If you did the right thing, you did the right thing regardless of the response. I'm sorry, I'm a people pleaser and when people are upset, it upsets me too. This doesn't mean you did anything wrong.

I really like Mackmama's response too!

[wencit]

You got it. :hug:

[SkyrMommy]

:grouphug: Many, many hugs to you.

[larig]

:grouphug: sorry you're feeling down. it sucks to feel taken advantage of. Kudos to you for standing up for yourself!

[liz]

:hug::hug:

[MamaMolly]

Ouch! What a rotten feeling. But it really sounds like you tried to be kind. I'm awfully sorry!

[malphy]

:22::hug5::hug::grouphug:

[Mamabear4]

I know how that feels. Hugs to you!:hug:

[TwoBees]

:hug::hug::hug:

[123LuckyMom]

:grouphug: I hope you feel better soon!

[DietCokeLover]

:22::22:

[Nooknookmom]

Hug hug hug! Please don't feel bad, I have been in those shoes many times as a business owner or manager and had to let employees go, etc.

Not much one can do about the reaction, no matter how the delivery was given. I have been gentle and I have had to be more-umm, assertive.

If it was a warranted issue (poor performance, poor attitude) I felt less mean than if I had to let someone go that doing fine at their job but a layoff was necessary, (my boss was good at letting me handle that part!).

Have a good weekend and don't dwell.

[JustMe]

Hugs to you! You did the right thing and are not a meanie! It certainly was not good for you to have your boundaries crossed like that, but it was also not good for the other person to be able to do that unchecked!

Actually this really relates to something that happened to me today and I am stuck on it too...this post is helping me realize that I did do what needed to be done.

[swissair81]

Thanks all! I felt positively ill on Friday. I feel somewhat better today. Thanks for the encouragement.

[elektra]

Hope it all blows over. That sucks- hugs!

[maestramommy]

:hug5::hug5: